Do you like to stay with your boyfriend/ girlfriend every day??

@iamfine (740)
China
September 15, 2009 9:10am CST
I have been in love with my boyfriend for 8 months, and for so long a time, we don't meet each other during working time, we only meet on weekends(Saterday and Sunday), and we like this way always. But the last time, we been together for longer time, Friday, Saterday, Sunday, this Monday and this Tuesday, almost five days. And then I begin to feel boring, i feel that I don't love him as much as I did. I don't know why. But I know after we depart for a while, I will miss him again. And I begin to worry, what if we get married, and have to stay together every day? Will we become boring very soon?
14 responses
• China
16 Sep 09
hi,iamfine,don't worry about it. i think it is a problem of time instead of love,you just have been in love with your bodyfriend for 8 months,counting the weekends days, you just spent around 64 days staying with him,64 days is not enough to know one person totally,i suppose. when you spend more time to stay together,you both will get familiar with each other. one day, he will understand you like yourself do, you will feel relax and comfortable with him and you will find is so happy and interesting to stay with him.
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@iamfine (740)
• China
17 Sep 09
hello shuying, thank you for your response, I think you are right, we haven't know each other enough yet, and I have to overcome my feeling of afraid of being stay together for too long a time.
• China
17 Sep 09
from your words, you have falled deeply love with your boyfriend,and you care about him, I belive you will live a happy and sweet life with your boyfriend.
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@thaMARKER (2503)
• Philippines
16 Sep 09
my first relationship/boyfriend was something i would never forget in my entire life. we were very close to each other, we see each other everyday, talk about whatever for hours. and thinking of it now, it somehow contributed to our break up. we were young -- too young -- we were like not noticing much about life then. we were doing things we used to almost all the time. so we needed to grow apart. that was the last time. the following relationships were different..
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@iamfine (740)
• China
16 Sep 09
Yeah, I have ever read a article in which it says, every girl should through the love and lost it, and overcome it, until this way, can a women grow. I prefer to have a boyfriend who is more maturer than me. So that I can learn from him. I don't like to have a boyfriend who is naive, and I have to treat him like I am his mother... Luckily my bf is mature in mind, though he is 4 months younger than me.
• Philippines
16 Sep 09
Boys think 5 years younger than their real age according to research. :)
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@eLsMarie (4346)
• Philippines
16 Sep 09
as much as possible, i would want to be with my boyfriend everyday. we're both not a boring type and we always search for new ways that could help our relationship stronger. he'll be leaving this November so i guess i have to practice a life from where we only depend on the internet or whatsoever... :D
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@iamfine (740)
• China
16 Sep 09
Hell eLsMarie, Thank you very much for sharing. we are going into 2 sream, I afraid of being together with lover everyday, and you afraid of being apart with lover. No matter what, at least you like to stay with him, and wish you have a wonderful future. And I will adjust myself and overcome my bad feeling
@eLsMarie (4346)
• Philippines
18 Sep 09
yes you have to... i encounter that kind of feeling when i was younger. i always feel like i can't stand being with my boyfriend for almost everyday but when i came across of having a boyfriend who's a seaman, that's the time i realized that it was really a tough thing...
@cherrc (661)
• Philippines
16 Sep 09
if given the chance, i want to spend more days but for some matured and practical reasons, it aint going to happen, lol. anyway, i believe u guys need to explore and be friends aside from being lovers. put some spice in ur lives. what do u usually do when u guys are together? sometimes, boredom happens when the things u do becomes routinary. try to engage into some activities which will involve the two of u provided that u guys are both interested with it. as for the marriage, it's a commitment. once u made a choice, u have to deal with it. then again, put some spice into it. explore and enjoy. take care. :)
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@iamfine (740)
• China
16 Sep 09
Hello, thanks for your response. I guess the reason why I feel bored is that we are together doing the same thing every day: sleep, cook, eat, date in the forest gardon, I read books, he play the music, using an musical instrument called pottery flute. Well I have to admit me that when I recall the five days, interesting, not as bored as I said. he does really good in playing music. he can handle different types of musical instrument.
@cherrc (661)
• Philippines
16 Sep 09
oh that's great! now it made u realize that it wasn't boring after all. enjoy more and thanks. :)
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@rg0205 (2636)
• Hong Kong
15 Sep 09
Well, we live together and I don't feel annoyed nor do I feel like I've lost feelings. In fact, it's the opposite and yes, i enjoy spending moments together very much even if it's already been 5 years since we started dating.
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@iamfine (740)
• China
15 Sep 09
wow, I envy yur relation so much. I guess the reason why I would feel boring after I stay with him for four days, is my own problem not his. I don't get used to see the same person in so long a time. Good luck!
@rg0205 (2636)
• Hong Kong
15 Sep 09
Just try to communicate. I cant really point out your issues to advise you further but I hope your feelings change overtime. Happy mylotting.
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@angguloy (85)
16 Sep 09
honestly, my answer is yes. But it is not possible because our schedule at shool don't meet sometimes. And we also have different business to do which helps us to grow individually. But we see to it to see each other when time permits and we always communicate with each other. For communication is important :) and LOVING IS NOT BORING :) trust me. :) maybe you're just not used of seeing him often..
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@iamfine (740)
• China
16 Sep 09
Thanks for sharing. yes maybe you are right. Since I am in business and sometimes my business would keep me busy, so I prefer to see him during weekend, instead of working time. I hope you and your girl friend will have a wonderful future.
16 Sep 09
Good to hear that you appreciate my comment. And by the way, im a female, and it's boyfriend that I have :) though, thank you for wishing us good future. :) Actually, it's our 9th month on 18th, hehe. And, if you still love him, you know well what to do :) Good luck! Have a nice day always :)
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@aprces (1082)
• China
16 Sep 09
"But the last time, we been together for longer time, Friday, Saterday, Sunday, this Monday and this Tuesday, almost five days. And then I begin to feel boring, i feel that I don't love him as much as I did. I don't know why. But I know after we depart for a while, I will miss him again. And I begin to worry, what if we get married, and have to stay together every day? Will we become boring very soon?" It seems that each normal person will be same to you in this situation above.But as such,I do seem to be a freak because I want to stay with my GF every day.We are having a long distance relationship,I'm quite sure,love at distance It was yesterday that I read a sentence that is love, just for only once,and then, livelihood
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@iamfine (740)
• China
16 Sep 09
Hello Aprces, thank you for sharing. I think sometimes distance is better to maintain the feeling the love, because of distance, all other's shortcomings can be neglected. I don't mean that you have shortcomings, I mean distance keep love fresh, and everything in your imagine is wonderful. Hope that you will have a wonderful future.
@aakkii (213)
• India
15 Sep 09
Hi there, at first you have to understand the meaning of love, than proceed, there is a vast differance between pre married love and post married love and it depends on you how you will maintain the realation, in love both boy friend and girl friend have to sacrifice some, than there love will be a complete story, my friend plaese don,t feel boring with beloved.LOL
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@iamfine (740)
• China
16 Sep 09
Hello aakkii, thank you for sharing, thank you for your advise. the last time when we were going to break up because some tiny little thing, I cried for many nights, and now we are back and stick together for so long a time, I begin to feel bored. I say I feel bored, maybe that is not my true feeling, maybe that's because that I feel our relationship right now is safe, and should not stay together for so longer time. I think we both have to something else that is more rewarding, like working harder. My another mylot friend say that, I should balance my life, not spending all the time with my boyfriend, I think that's really a smart advise. And so does yours, of course. Good luck!
@drakkar (50)
• Philippines
16 Sep 09
We all fall in love sometime. Its not necessary to stay in touch in a boyfriend/girlfriend everyday. Seeing everyday does not mean that you love someone. In getting involve with a relationship, a person must ask himself/herself why would I be doing this. It is important that a person must recognized his/her reasons because if he/she fails to do so, there would no point at all. You ask that what if you get married someday and might feel the same way like you do a few days ago. Theres was once a college book of mine, I just forget its title, I was able to read a phrase like this "In order to measure a relationship whether it is ready to get married is that try to stay a few days in the house of your lover, and if don't get bored then you are ready".
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@iamfine (740)
• China
17 Sep 09
Thank you for sharing! and after reading your response, it is obviously that I am still not ready to get married, since I get bored when staying with him for just five days, let alone staying with him for a month or even longer time.
@mohitseth (568)
• India
16 Sep 09
ya giving time is very necessary. i call her or message her daily to show my affection to her. do u also practice the same thing.
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@iamfine (740)
• China
16 Sep 09
Yeah, we contact each other every day, through mobile phone or through Internet. you a considerate person.
• India
15 Sep 09
I've never had a boyfriend since I come from a conservative Indian family. I would have been happy to have the freedom to have a boyfriend, whom I could share my life with. Have you heard the saying,"Distance makes the heart grow fonder"? Maybe that applies to you. Also I believe you are the independant type who needs her own space. I think it is perfectly all right as long as both of you understand each other.
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@iamfine (740)
• China
15 Sep 09
yeah you are right, i am a very independant woman who pays much attention on business,when I am with him, he would "force" me not to work, even checking email, i guess this make me feel uncomfortable. I need love, and I need money too... I don't know what I am saying, but he cares about me and I can feel it, and he is a good guy who also work hard.
@hexeduser22 (7253)
• Philippines
16 Sep 09
I would really love to be with my girlfriend everyday. We have been so much in love for almost three years now. We were always separated because we live very far away from each other. I've had the longest time being with her when we both were still in college and for us everyday is a new adventure. We were never too tired or bored with each other but I do admit sometimes being apart can help maintain a relationship.
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@iamfine (740)
• China
16 Sep 09
hello, thanks for sharing. I think you are lucky, most of my friends besides me break up with their lovers are they graduated from the university, and you guys are not. Hope that you can be together in the future too. Distance helps in maintaining relationship, but if keep distance for too longer time, the relationship can fade away. Good luck!
@MikaOkle (43)
16 Sep 09
You can easily got bored if 24 hrs your boyfrien or GF with you, it is annoying and irritating.My friend had a BF who always with her like a spy and treat her like father sometimes.And the day has come for that everybody was waiting...she just throw her our from her life. Now she is quite free and happy..ofcourse with another temp BF :)
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@iamfine (740)
• China
16 Sep 09
Hello thanks for sharing your friends story, I think the man is quite inocent. My boyfriend won't commit such spy things, in this aspect, he is better, I think this is lucky thing for me. your friend's boy friend is quite inocent, maybe he just loves the girl too much, that's not fault,but he falls into the wrong girl, who don't enjoy his love.
• Philippines
16 Sep 09
Hi iamfine. Well I totally hope you're fine. :) I don't think it would be boring. based on experience, I am in my first relationship for a year and so now. I've never felt bored anyway. We had been in a long-distance relationship last year because of school and now it's like everyday we see each other. I guess we have a different case. I so miss him right after he went home. :( Anyway, love never fails dear. Just hold on to it and everything would be fine. :)
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@iamfine (740)
• China
16 Sep 09
hello, thank you for sharing and thank you for your advise. yes I agree with your that we have to hold on to our true love, it is not easy to find.