just in a mood

United States
September 16, 2009 2:38pm CST
do you ever get in a mood where you dont want to talk to any of your friends? i have been in that mood lately. i use to hang out or talk to them constantly and now i just dont. my one is so depressed that i cant even talk to her anymore b/c she makes me bummed. she had a kid that her husband wanted and now he has a defect and so she got depressed. she didnt want to be a mom and now she is expecting a 2nd one. she doesnt want any of them. so then i have another one that thinks its ok to ditch your plans and not let you know. she blames the meds. i just want to stay away from them.
2 responses
@DCLehnsherr (1042)
16 Sep 09
Hey Erbear, I agree with the first poster here, you should look after yourself when around those people. I can't be around negative people all the time either. I tend to have enough to do with myself, that helping someone else out so much would do me in. As it stands I still have those moods sometimes, but mostly because I am just stressed about life things and need a few days. My friends get them as well, they vanish for some time to gather themselves. I don't mind when they do that, and I don't think they mind when I do it either. We understand that we need time to ourself to cope with other people, and that if we force the issue then we just end up snapping and driving the other person away (I especially do that!). So it is just safer to take time away. I hope some time alone recharges you enough, and maybe they will recover enough too so you can relax more around them Good luck and all the best for the future, Dranz
@malamar (784)
• Canada
16 Sep 09
Hi Dranz, I think you are spot on here. When you (or any of us) are in that "mood", the best thing we can do for our friends is take time out to regroup. Stress is a dangerous enemy to have, and sometimes we need time alone to gather our thoughts and get a new perspective on the situation, or on life in general. Keep up the good fight!
@malamar (784)
• Canada
16 Sep 09
I don't call it a mood, I call it a Mental Health break. Being around negative people on a continuous basis has a very negative effect on your own sense of well-being. I don't mean you shouldn't help/support a friend in need, I only mean that you cannot prop up anyone who isn't willing to help themselves. A good old fashioned "gripe-session" can be good for you. A continuous downer is draining, debilitating, and difficult. You have to take care of YOU before you can be of any use or benefit to someone else. Judging by the look of your profile pic, it would seem you have a couple of really important people in your life already. Focus on them (and yourself)for a while. A real friend will still be there when you get back in touch with them.