It is hard to take care of a baby

United States
September 17, 2009 8:07pm CST
Today, I came over my friend's house, and stay for while. Because my friend has to go to the nearby supermarket to get some cooking condiments and corn oil, he told me stay put and watch over his 8 months baby. I was holding him and watch TV. After 2 minutes or so, he look around, and couldn't find his father, he start crying, and feel so scared or something like that. I try to play with him, or got some toys to let him play, he just keep on crying. Luckily, his father was going too long, after 5 minutes, he came back, and the baby was peace down. Wow, hard to take care of baby, especially if the baby wasn't familiar with you. Don't you feel the same, parents?
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13 responses
@shia88 (4582)
• Malaysia
18 Sep 09
Hi Clorissa, It is not an easy task to take care a baby. When I takecare my boy for the first time, I feel so hopeless because I am a first-time mother, no experinces at all, everything is new to me. Lucky my mother-in-law is at my side, guide me all the time. Now my boy is 31 months old and I feel more relax now. Alot of people are asking me when am I going for my second baby?? OMG...I faster answer that I might close shop. I am kind of having a phobia to take care a baby again. Can't sleep well at night.Have to wake up few times for midnight feeding. Now, I am more lucky as my boy is growing up. I decided just to stick to one boy.
• United States
18 Sep 09
It is not a easy task at all. Although I only spend 20 some minutes with my friend's little baby, and I felt that I couldn't do anything to make him to stop crying. I love baby, and I am a baby person too. but I still have to learn a lot from this type of work.
• United States
18 Sep 09
Im no parent but i live 10 minutes away from my new parent cousin and her little boy jack. Im often called upon to babysit him and it is really hard. But I think he likes me and we get along great :). But when he gets into a fit of crying he is nearly impossbile to get him to calm down. I use the Tv. Thats a guaranteed 30 minutes of peace and quiet for me.
• United States
18 Sep 09
I tried television too, but it just won't work for him. He like to eat, I tried to feed him with slice of fruit, a tiny piece, and he might quiet a little. I just don't know what else to feed him, and I was afraid to feed him the wrong thing.
@xannebull (1806)
• Philippines
18 Oct 09
yeah, it really is hard taking care of babies, especially infants, parents have to be with them all the times, taking care of them. babies don't know what is night and what is daytime so sometimes they are awake at night,sometimes crying and wanted to be hold, so it's very tiring because it is night time and you have to keep awake until he falls asleep.
@kerryns (55)
• Australia
30 Sep 09
Hi clorissa It is easier when it is your own child. Yes it is difficult at first, especially when all you learn during pregnancy is what happens during the birth...I never thought to try and learn what to do with the baby when it arrives! However, you do get used to each other and seperation anxiety is tough on both the child and the parent. Then they turn 2 or 3 and they really dont need you as much as they did. They still need you but they can exist without being right by your side at all times. It is difficult to take care of someone else's baby, or child for that matter, regardless of the child's age. Even with someone the child knows well, if they want their parent they let you know about it. What works for my little one is showing him something he enjoys, like photos or the dogs through the window. Then he calms down and plays and forgets that I've even gone. I have a 3 year old and a one year old and I cant tell you how much easier life has been with the 1 year old because I had some idea this time around. I was forever stressed out with my first child, both during the pregnancy and until he was about 2. It's all about experience and that comes in time.
• Germany
26 Sep 09
Hi, clorissa. My baby is seven months and one week old now. Is it hard to take care of a baby? Well...i would say that it's harder to take care of a baby for the first few months, but when they can sit and play by themselves. It is no more that hard to take care of the baby. And actually you will have a lot of fun with the baby. For your situation, i think it's because the baby was not able to see his father and he was not familiar with you. Baby starts recognizing people's face from this age. That's why he cried when his father was not around him. It's understandable when his father was back and he stopped crying.
@rainmark (4306)
24 Sep 09
To be a parents is not so easy. You think it's easy t raise the kids but it's not.You need to sacrifice just for your baby. I have a 21 months old son, he's always having a tantrums,always crying and wanting an attention, sometimes i eat my dinner cold. But he is priceless, he made me smile and i love him so much. Happy myloting.
• Philippines
18 Sep 09
yes it's really hard to take care of babies but i tell you you'll enjoy very much in doing it.i have grown eight babies and succesfully made them a real good person to enjoy their whole life thru success and failure they will meet.now i'm a lola of many kids and the more i'll be enjoying babies
@Fortunata (1136)
• United States
18 Sep 09
Sounds like the baby had separation anxiety. They must not have a lot of different people over, lol.
@vingyan06 (2489)
• Malaysia
18 Sep 09
Hello Clorissa, Nice discussion you have there. Yeah, baby is like this, they get to tag with their parents and just ignore others. But I think they will like you if you give something for them to eat! This happen to my babies. Once any relatives come to visit us, they just like to stay far away from the relatives. But if happen they show and hold some food on hand, my baby will then go nearer to them and try to demand for the food.
• Philippines
18 Sep 09
I'm not yet a parent but I do love babies. They are so cute, fragile, gentle and cuddly. Babies smells good too even their breath smells so fresh. I think it's not that hard to take of babies. They just cry because they are hungry or need a diaper change. But as they grow old they tend to get familiarize to the people around them and cry when they feel there's something different. There are babies who are so choosy to the people they want to be with, they tend to have separation anxiety especially to their parents. Lucky for me, babies tend to like me easily.
@angryeve (705)
• Philippines
18 Sep 09
Hi clorissa, hahaha yah it's really hard even if the baby is your own and familiar with you. It's like they'll do what they want to do, wouldn't care if it would cause the one whose taking care of them at the moment to panic. That's where babies are best for, getting people to panic.lol Luckily for you, your friend came back soon. =)
• United States
18 Sep 09
Thats How kids are most of the time. You do have a few babys that are okay with it but not many. If they arent Fimilar with you they gt scared. My CHildren 1 and 3 years old do not and will not go to someone they dont know. My 3 yer old however he will be alright after about 5 mins or so of being around someone he dont know and my 1 year old he will screm until he cant screm nomore. Hes a mama's boy and if he cant see me its over he dont like it.
@jenlex79 (257)
• United States
18 Sep 09
My daughter is now 4 years old and I really miss the days when she was an infant. I know it sounds strange but it was easier then. As they get older, they start to talk back to you and tell you NO. It is easier to have an older child because they don't cry as much and you don't have to change diapers. It is a very hard job to take care of children, I'm not gonna lie, but its all worth it in the end.