Do you have loved ones in the nursing home?

that is not kind of them. the old, tired and weary should be respected. it is a good thing that there are not so many nursing homes here, if there is any and i haven't been to any one of them. old and sick Filipino parents are being cared of by their children. children may arrange to take turns in caring for their parents or one of them adopts the parent into their home. i don't think that even with nursing homes built here, old and sick parents will be placed under their care. it has become an implied responsibility for children to take care of sick and old parents. would it be safe for me to say that this is a cultural thing too? close family relations and deep respect for elders of the filipinos play a big role here.

It is really sad to visit a nursing home. My grandmother is in an assisted living home and I feel bad for the other residents there. Most of them never get any visitors. It's really ashame.

One thing with us Filipinos is we don't send our old loved ones to a nursing home. We usually take care of them even if it's not an easy task for us. Those who are in nursing homes here most of the times, do not have relatives anymore or they don't know where they're relatives are. I, myself is willing to take care of my mother-in-law if no one will take her. But, I'm sure all my in-laws would love to care for her to her last day.

My mom was in a bad car accident and had to be in one for three months and my grandma broke her hip and had to be in one for a month. I feel bad for people that are in nursing homes. I'm not saying that all nursing homes are bad, but it did seem to me that the people there that don't get any visitors aren't taken care of too well, kind of ignored. I talked to a lot of the people in both nursing homes and while some would complain about not getting out to see their family or their family not visiting them, I talked to a few that would want me to do things there for them but I couldn't because I'm not a CNA and the last thing I wanted to do was something that would hurt them without my knowledge (like getting ice cream for a diabetic) Funny thing was, a lot of them felt better just having someone to talk to and that's all they needed. I want to try to find the time to go visiting and talking to different people in nursing homes, just as something to do for the ones that get no visitors.

I do not have love ones in nursing home and if someday my parents will get old and need care, I will not send them to a nursing home. I will let them stay at my house and take of them or I'll have a personal nurse for them.

I don't have any of my own family but I've visited my wife's family before. It is depressing and you wish you could do more but sometimes you have to let the qualified do what they can. If you know of abuse you should report it, if they are doing it to one person they are probably doing to it others.

oh,i too feel very bad.sending loved ones to nursing homes is not so common in india but i do see some friends relatives in nursing homes and i sure do feel bad for them.

I really hate having to put anyone in a nursing home, I had to put my grandmother in one and I promised myself I would never do that to anyone again. She was bedridden and we took care of her at home as long as we could, but then it was just me and my grandpa there, and he couldn't help me lift her and stuff, he tried, and after awhile we had no choice, but it was a hard decision to make, I think I cried everytime we went to visit her, especially going home, I cried all the way home everytime. I just don't like those places, so many of the people there are just forgotten, alot of them don't have family that sees them regularly, its a sad place to be.

Hi my friend Bebs, how sad to note that the oldies are just placed in the nursing home and there they also suffer some maltreatment from unkind nurses! As you know here in the Philippines, it is not common to bring the oldies to the nursing home and I am glad about it. I will not bring my mother there for as long as she lives. I think it is during the old age of our parents that we could show them how much we love them. They've taken cared of us when we were young so when their old age comes and they are weak and need our helping hand it is then that we take our turn to care for them!

If they are happy then i don't mind them being there. Whatever is best for them is what they should be doing. Of course if i know of someone such as a nurse who is mistreating them, or any other residents, i would confront them about it immediately and report it to the person in charge and a trusted nurse to ensure that i did not continue into the future.