why does he still linger around?

@mesuaky (397)
Singapore
September 23, 2009 7:24am CST
i had my first boyfriend and i really loved him so much. but all of a sudden we broke up, aparently for no reason at all, he disappeared from me just like a bubble. and it has hurt me so much and confused me as he never told me the real reason why he did that to me. after some time he started to communicate with me again as every time i get the chance to talk to him i always asked why, he will only tell me its not me but he wont tell me the truth. So what i did is to just move on and try to recover from him, but i was getting hard for me as he will once in a while try to reach out for me, he will still say sweet things, and tell me to not put an end to us yet... but he is the one who left now i don't understand what does he really want? why does he still linger around me when we are not together any more. Its confusing me, he told me he don't want to get back together with me but he is still there, its driving me nuts cause I don't understand why.
3 responses
@simonelee (2718)
• China
24 Sep 09
hello, dear. For me you should not allow your ex-boyfriend to act things like you where before because it's painful for your and it will only give you a hard time you to move on. His act shows that he is a self-centered person. he only want to save his self from pain and maybe cleaning his conscience. He inhibit something that he can't tell in front of your face. I have friends who experienced the same and i know some guys who are like that, they admit that they're just doing it to play their ex-girlfriends emotions and they also said sometimes it's hard for them to let go of someone even if they are already committed(found new new girl). Let go of him, soon you'll be feeling okay. cheer up.
@mesuaky (397)
• Singapore
24 Sep 09
thanks, i really wnated to move on, and hopefully find the right one for me. i just hope he will leave me alone specially were not together anymore.
@simonelee (2718)
• China
24 Sep 09
He won't stop you if you still let him do those certain things. don't give him a chance and don't show your weakness. It is painful but you must be strong in able to move on. One day you'll wake up with a paint of smile on your face and you'll just laugh on those wasted moments.
@joygracia (1328)
• Philippines
23 Sep 09
Only just my opinion!! Probably he has his own secrets that he dont want you to know and that probably could hurt you that`s he decided to make a decision to break up to you but then I can sense that he still love you! maybe if you`d ask him to clear things up and ask for his honesty in a sincere way could at least clear things up between you and him. Hope things would work out between you and him and thanks for sharing!
@mesuaky (397)
• Singapore
23 Sep 09
well i do hope so too... its very hard to move on this way. thanks for the thought.
@Nobody4me (165)
23 Sep 09
maybe he made a mistake. could be that he still wants you but afraid to admit it. men can say things irrationally and regrets it later.
@mesuaky (397)
• Singapore
23 Sep 09
is that possible? he still wants me? its weird how come he don't just say it rather making me crazy on his acts.