If your children are not excellent in their study,would you blame them?

Well, I surely don´t beat him for being not excellent! You reminded me of myself. I also had lots of interests (and I still do!) and that was not good for me, because I didn´t focus, wanting to do everything but ending doing nothing. Can I ask how old is your son?

I dont have any children of my own yet, but when i do , and if my child isnt excellent in their studies, but are good at other things, i would n ot blame him or her for their lack of interest in studying but to praise them for what they are good at, and at the same time encourage them to give study a try and explan to them the consequences in the near future without proper eductaion.. I would not beat them or blame them or blame myself, because this child has his own personality and taste in things.. so i would still do my best to strive him to do his best in the sudies.. ^^

No need to make your children excellent in every respect, we surely should the feeling of being blamed by our children as we all comes from son or daughter, Do you think it will make you struggle more for success after you blamed by your parents, maybe No. so i think you should let your children know how to learn and know the meaning of learning, so please pay more patience for your children education. More haster, less speed. by the way, now in China, since the colleage enrollment expansion, it is not difficult for a child to get into colleage, no need to worry about that. thanks

No, I am not yet a mother but i know the feeling of being a student and being blame by parents if they could not reach their high expectations on you. Their are people who manage to finish their studies and yet not able to uses or applies what he learn. because of being lazy in finding a job or sometimes they only finish a course or degree to be called educated and choose to be the boss of their own business instead. it is very hard to be blame for having failing grades or not studying enough. But, despite of this your child continue to studies the desire is still there, there is still hope and when he realize the values of education for his future he would strives hard. For the moment just gives advices gently and never ever gives harsh words as it may lower his confidence. instead coach him to studies hard and be inspire from the examples of other people.

No. I wouldn't blame the child because it isn't all her/his fault. Maybe I have or had done something that made her dumb or low. I'll encourage and tell her that there's always another time to prove yourself and excel... Maybe she's just a late bloomer. Everyone has a chance and time to change.

If he's applying himself and doing the best he can, then that's all you can ask. You just have to accept it. If he isn't applying himself, I would cut out extra curricular activities until he does better. No matter how good an athlete he is, no college will take him if his grades aren't up to par.