Can LOVE endure in a long distance relationship?

@kara18 (135)
October 1, 2009 3:50am CST
any suggestion on how to handle this kind of relationship?
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@nanayangel (7839)
• Philippines
1 Oct 09
Hi there Kara! Well, it depends upon the persons involved. Personally, I don't think that I will be able to survive a long distance relationship. I want someone who can be with me physically too. But there are some people who survive with seas, miles, between them and I guess what's important with LDR's is to have an open, constant communication.
@kara18 (135)
1 Oct 09
Thanks Nanayangel. Yes, i'll keep that in mind - to have an open and constant communication. What's a bit challenging also is the time difference so both will really have to find the time..and yes, part of the challenge is the physical presence..
• Singapore
1 Oct 09
I did! We've been only two months in a relationship when I work overses and left my now husband. WE survived for two years having LDR before getting married. I must say it's indeed a bump ride but waht is more important is how you manage to get through all of those. There are lessons learned and I must say that trust to each other will definitely play a big role on LDR affair.
@kara18 (135)
3 Oct 09
Hi Joy, that's really inspiring!I believe it really was challenging for you both since you've had 2 months of being physically together then you had to left for work. I can only imagine how you must have really missed each other so much. Congratulations to you both for making it through! :)
@xannebull (1806)
• Philippines
8 Oct 09
well it depends, if you trust each other and your love is deep then there's still a big chance for this kind of relationship. but for sometimes, long distance relationship is hard, you need each other, you longed for each other but you cannot hold him, it's very hard.. if you want your relationship to stay longer, any one of you must prefer of transferring so that you could be together always.
@kara18 (135)
27 Oct 09
Yes, i do also believe that it really takes a lot of trust and love that's deep for a long distance relationship to work. It gets difficult when you don't get to show your affection to your partner.
• India
1 Oct 09
the main root base of any relationship is trust and faith no matter whether it is a long distance or short distance relationship.though short distance relationship flourish more cause u can meet any time u want,he/she is physically present anytime u want but a long distance relationship tests the persons stability,understanding,bonding which is far away from materialistic pleasure i.e a true love if it sustains.so if u truly love ur partner and vice versa then distance does not matter.
@kara18 (135)
2 Oct 09
Hello! Yes, i must agree. Whether there;s this distance or not, what really matters for love to endure in a relationship is trust and faith. I guess what needs to be done then is to take care of that trust and the faith that both of you have for each other. Thanks for the insights sahil!
1 Oct 09
Even though you are still with the same person you have to change things when your love becomes long distance. You should pay more attention to the small things that will make a difference to that persons day. I think you definitely have to become more romantic so they are reminded how much you love them each day and to help them feel less lonely and apart from you. Some ideas are texting each other with things throughout the day, make sure you have a good phone conversation in the evening, if you don't have time then you should make time. Remember small things about your day that you want to tell them like I always remember if I saw a really cute puppy on the bus journey in the morning because that's something if my boyfriend was there we would of gone all crazy over! You can do random things to suprise them like sending them a letter, buying tickets for something for you both together (it would obviously have to be in advance) that kind of thing. I think it is important to keep reminding yourself of the reasons why you trust them. I guess it is easy for some people to get jelous but you need to try and control these feelings as they won't lead to anything good. You need to focus on how you are constantly reminded of your feelings for each other. Sometimes you can forget just how much you love and miss someone when they are always around you. Also it is important to really make the most of your time together. It probably goes without saying but when you finally get to be with each other any negative thoughts should probably be ignored as you wont have time to deal with them properly. Obviously if you are spending enough time together then this is the time to do so but if I know I am only getting to see my boyfriend for a few hours then I will make sure we just focus on having a nice time and not talk about anything too serious. You want to let them go away feeling they had a nice time with you and they can't wait to see you again, not that they don't know why they bothered coming.
@kara18 (135)
1 Oct 09
Hi PInklemonade. Yes, i agree - the time that you get to spend when you're together should really be well spent. Although, sometimes it becomes a bit frustrating 'coz there's not enough time everytime you're together. But, yes what matters most is that both of you focuses in having a great and quality time together. I'll also keep that in mind - to be able to share those little details that has happened during the day. I guess that would make him feel that I was thinking of him then and to constantly remind each other of how we feel for each other. Thanks for all the suggestions. I can't wait to share all these things to him. I've never felt like this before my past relationships. This one is challenging but it also has it's rewards...Surprisingly, i became romantic than usual and became more open and attentive to my partner's feelings.
@mesuaky (397)
• Singapore
1 Oct 09
Hi, well i have witness a few friends ldr in life some went great but some didn't, i think if you are really in-love with the person you are haveing this relationship with you can and you will endure the hardship in this kind of situation but if you are not certain of your love with each other then that will make the difference on how long will both of you want to endure this ldr you have. One of my friend had this relationship what they do is they make sure they communicate every single day, total honesty with each other and they alternately visit each other every 3 months, now after 3 1/2 years of ldr they are now happily married.
@kara18 (135)
1 Oct 09
Hi Mesuaky, that's quite inspiring - that your friend's story ended up in a happy marriage. I'll look into that taking turns in visiting each other. And yes, the constant and open communication should always be there.