Do you need some advice from others when making decision?

@Zhizho (1352)
Indonesia
October 3, 2009 7:49am CST
Hi there..There are many problem in life and sometimes we have to make decision and need to consider something.Usually,when I have to make decision,I ask some advice from my family especially from my mom.How about you?Who is person who help you to make decision?Please share here.Thanks.
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19 responses
@coolcat123 (4392)
• India
3 Oct 09
I always welcome people to give me advice as I want people to sort out my problems and I alone cant do this tough job of doing anything by myself. I need advises from everyone, and then I make up my mind that whose advice was best and Lastly I carry on with the advice.
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@Zhizho (1352)
• Indonesia
4 Oct 09
I think that you are opend minded person.Some advise from others will be our consideration to taking decision.But important to know that people who give opinion are people who having capability and they care of us.Thanks for share here.
@xannebull (1806)
• Philippines
3 Oct 09
i am the type of person who rarely asks some advice from friends. there are problems that needs to be discussed from friends and i do discuss it to them and asked for advices, but there are problems that i think only me could handle and find a solution. but usually, i asked help from my husband if it's not manageable already.
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@Zhizho (1352)
• Indonesia
3 Oct 09
I think,friends is one of person who could help us in making decision.Because they care of us and want the best thing for us.But as you told,sometimes,we must find the solution by own.Thanks for your response.
@x_Jo_x (1042)
3 Oct 09
For me, it depends on the sitution who i ask! On certain things i will ask my family. They have always been there for me, and i have no idea where i would be without them! But for other things, like advice on my love life or something i go to my friends, usually my best friend cos she always give me great advice! But i usually ask for someones advice! Although i think sometimes you have to make desicions by yourself, to get used to being independent! But its nice having people there to talk to, so you know that they can help you if you need it! Friends and family are great!!
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@Zhizho (1352)
• Indonesia
3 Oct 09
Having family,friend,lovelife is nice.They are persons who could help us when we need some help.Yes,you are right,there is no every problem that we could talk for someone who is not capability for the problem.so,it's depend on situation.Thanks for your response.
@manong05 (5029)
• Philippines
3 Oct 09
Decision making especially tough ones can make use of other peoples advice. Especially people who are matured and probably have gone through similar situations we are facing. Their thoughts are invaluable help. This is one of the reasons why it is extremely important to have friends who are more than willing and interested to help us out without expecting anything in return. Unsolicited advice on the other hand are sometimes useless and must be taken with a grain of salt. have a nice day.
@Zhizho (1352)
• Indonesia
3 Oct 09
I agree with you friend.When we need some advice from someone,we must choose someone who really mature and having capability and she/he want to help us.Thanks for your response.Happy mylotting.
@kunizzul (1067)
• Malaysia
3 Oct 09
Hi. Most of the decision in my life is by myself. My parents always I to choose what I want in my life. They want me to be more independent and reliable person. But sometime when I ask their opinions they will give but still want me to choose it by myself. Thanks.
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@Zhizho (1352)
• Indonesia
3 Oct 09
Thanks for your comment friend.Yes,it's better to be independent person.I think,your parents is good to let you go on what you want.But as you told,sometimes we still need their opinion.it could help us.
@feodda (579)
• Philippines
3 Oct 09
There are times that I could handle some problems. Those problems that can be manageable. I am a type of person that I really want to solve my problem on my own. There are times, I will consult to my friends of what to do. I really talk to my best friend, not with any friends I have. I am open to my best friend than my family. i don't want them to be worry about me.
@Zhizho (1352)
• Indonesia
3 Oct 09
Hi feodda,thanks for response my topic.Yes,you are right,I think,we must find the problem solution by own.Although sometimes,we need some advice from others and you are good person that don't want make your family worry about you.
@AndyDan (50)
• China
3 Oct 09
Of course,I also need some advices,but most from my best friend.You should make decision by yourself no matter from whoever the advice come.
@Zhizho (1352)
• Indonesia
4 Oct 09
Thanks for your comment.Yes,we are decision maker but there is some problem that need some consideration from others like family and friends.But,it still depend on you that you need it or not.
• Mexico
3 Oct 09
Generally i ask a friend that i think he/she has the experience to give me a good advice and i else ask my little sister in some areas because i trust in her and her opinion is very important to me. Even with that, i know i'll take the final decition no matter what people told me.
@Zhizho (1352)
• Indonesia
4 Oct 09
Thanks for share here.There is some people who believe someone who cloose with them and important to consider their opinion.Because they care of us.They would like to help us and we have proof it before.
3 Oct 09
i need some advice to my decision . because im the type of person who always make ask . i always ask to know my decision is right or wrong . and also i ask to my parent and specially to my dearest mom . who always support me whether my decision is right or wrong . and to my friend who always there to make some advice also . who always there to make me up when im down .thats all thank .
@Zhizho (1352)
• Indonesia
4 Oct 09
Hi chinitah.there is some people who always ask decision for their self to others.I would not judge you but maybe not every decision have to ask.Because some decision have to decide by own.But as you feel nice to ask them,because they care of you,I think there is no problem.Thanks for share here.
@Milesxiao (104)
• China
3 Oct 09
Hi zhizho, I am different with you, I ofter prefer to make the final decision by myself even it is a fault. Sometimes the matter is hard or unfamilar to me, maybe I will surf online to find something useful, and after doing this, I will think it over and give a decision. as you know, if many advice come upon you, you may be confused even more than before, so try to make your decision gradually.
• Mexico
3 Oct 09
Maybe i'm not so self-confident as you are but i prefer to know what a friend near me has to say about a difficult decition i must take
@icegermany (2524)
• India
3 Oct 09
yes you are right we always have to take s advice from our trusted ones before taking any decision. i always have a word with my husband and also my mom before taking any decision. for smaller things may be it is fine but for really bg tasks it is better to have a word instead of repenting later. for small things too i like to have word with my husband.
@Zhizho (1352)
• Indonesia
4 Oct 09
Thanks for share here.It's important to ask advise from our trusted.Because we believe that they will be best solution for us.We ask to parents because they have more experience and mature of this life.
@Graceekwenx (3163)
• Philippines
3 Oct 09
oh! i ask everybody... advices mean a lot to me as i can learn a lot from them because they have more experience...
@Zhizho (1352)
• Indonesia
4 Oct 09
I think,nice to know some advise from different people.Sometimes,we find some advise that we have not thingking about it yet.But,maybe we must be smart to make decision and follow with right advise.Thanks for your comment.
@akuler (3539)
• Malaysia
3 Oct 09
Hi Zhizho, I always ask for an advise if a had a decision to make especially if I know nothing about it. Some decision that required a technical knowledge or ability will be the most I ask for an advise. But for personal matter, I prefer to stick with my own decision. I don't want to ask from someone else because I don't want to get myself confused and blame others if I make a wrong one.
@Zhizho (1352)
• Indonesia
4 Oct 09
There is people who does not need some advise from others because some consideration.Maybe because they think it's to privat or they could be find the solution and they would not be more confused.Thanks for your response guys.
• China
4 Oct 09
hello zhizho, yes there are times that we need others to give us advise, but I don't always ask for others opinion or advise, since I am very independant, and I often made decision by myself. But what I am going to do will affect others, I will of course ask them for advise, they may have different opinions, and then I would consider all of them and finally made decision. Sometimes it is hard for myself to make decision, so I would leave the question to others, let them make decision, and responsible for it, usually the one who make decision have to assume the biggest responsibility.
@sssb21 (70)
• India
4 Oct 09
I think one must live life on his or her own thoughts. We know ourself and we must know ourself very well. It is good to take suggestions but act by our own thougt is always good. Thank you.
@tundeemma (896)
• South Africa
3 Oct 09
like some people use to say, a single tree cannot make a forest so there are some decisions in life i do believe i can't make alone and i will need the help of someone, therefore, i will try as much as possible to seek advise from some people who i believe are knowledgeable enough
• United States
3 Oct 09
I usually don't ask advice unless I have run out of answers myself. Then, I will go and seek the answer from a relative or friend. I try to think of who has the most experience according to the situation I'm facing. It is great to get advice from a family member, since they usually have your best interest at heart. This is not always the case, however, and sometimes you have to seek it elsewhere. For instance I may have a personal question that I would definitely be too embarrassed to ask my mom or dad about. Therefore, depending on the topic I will alternate mostly between family and friends. I might sometime in the future seek some advice from my fellow myLoters, but that opportunity has not come up yet.
• Philippines
3 Oct 09
Asking advice from others is a wise thing to do. In that way you can see all sides. You can make a better decision by compiling all the suggestions and opinions of other. It doesn't mean that if you are always seeking advice or help from others you don't have your own disposition anymore. Remember those are just important tools for you to come up for a better decision. Final decision is still in your hands. Even managers or owners of a company are always asking for suggestions and opinions of their subordinates its because two heads are better than one. It is always wise to ask help from the people close to you. You will never go wrong for they do care about you. Pray for God's guidance and wisdom, that is the most important thing that you should not forget before putting things in action.
@pkc3000 (1268)
• India
3 Oct 09
hey friend that depends what type of decision you are taking. If you are able to handle the situation you can take your own decision. Even if you take wrong decision it will not affect in any manner. In critical situation I think it will be wise to take advice from elders and experienced persons of your family , relatives & friends which will be beneficial for you. pkc3000