parents swear but children don't.

Philippines
October 7, 2009 4:11am CST
parents swear but children don't.it's ironic right? most of the time, we hear children swearing more often than their parents. they perhaps got to know swearing form peers and other factors. but i knew some distant friends that swear a lot and their children don't. it's really a shame on the part of the parents. they don't even realize that their children dont' take pride of having them as their parents. they are supposed to pose good models in their children yet the other side of the story happened.what's on your side on this?
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@indybaty (368)
• Panama
7 Oct 09
Hello flagella nice to see you see again. Well, parents who curse a lot or swear lot dont realize that they cause a huge effect on their children. If your children look up to you, they will end up copying your foul language, you'd be surprised how many families I know that curse all the time and their children curse too and they get spanked for it. And the kids are like, what so grown ups can curse but we cant? They dont get it. And the parents dont understand that their behaviour is being learned unfortunately. If the children know the difference, like for example they are tought in school and they are independent enough to know that cursing is somewhat rude and uneducated, they simply dont curse, and I bet you that those children that dont curse, probably wont curse for a long time until they reach adulthood. Reason why Im saying? Because my husband is a huge example. His father was a big curser. When he was a child, he knew it was wrong and never cursed. Now that he is an adult, oh boy, you wanna make sure he keeps his mouth shut because every time something comes out of his mouth its the f word its the s word, its some other word that I dont know where he got from but its foul anyway. Now that we have a son. We dont shout, we dont curse in front of him.. but either way cursing is something inevitable among children, because they can learn from home that its wrong and not say it, but if they hear their classmates or friends curse around, they will think its fun, and begin to curse. So we just have the duty to, has parents, make sure they dont curse that much or at all during their childhood. Happy Mylotting.
• Philippines
7 Oct 09
very well indicated indy. i personally believe that swearing is angry language. We get too angry too easily these days. We need to calm down and think about what we're saying.People are becoming numb to the effects of swearing, and that is most definitely a bad thing.If you look at the bigger picture, we're becoming immune to so many violent, horrific and course type of things. We are becoming less and less civilized, and our language is the first key to that.thanks for being the first one to respond here.
@indybaty (368)
• Panama
7 Oct 09
Oh you welcome! Your quite right about that. We see it everyday in our society. But there are still some people that do believe in keeping it simple and remember what is right and wrong.
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@jugsjugs (12967)
7 Oct 09
I do not think it makes any difference if the parents swear or not as children hear it from other people as well as other children.There are alot of parents that swear yet their children do not.I do not like to hear children swear at any time,but they do pick up the words very easy.
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@tixepower (1195)
• Sweden
7 Oct 09
IF the parents swear, that give negative vibes to the children and when they start to compare themself to the parents, they will start swearing aswell (not all but some). It's the same thing as children don't like when their parents are drunk, becuase it gives the negative vibes and children feel it.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
14 Oct 09
i tried not to swear in front of the children in hopes they would learn by me as i did my elders but today i found those rules no longer work. years ago i was totally shocked when i was walking over to the pool and my daughter was there. i heard the kids swearing something awful before they came into my view and i was going to really tell that girl off to her mother only to find out it was MY 15yrs old girl i told her off alright and told her guys would not concider her a lady, but she said ALL the girls/friends did the same and i soon found out its true. thats what most kids do today.
@tixepower (1195)
• Sweden
7 Oct 09
It depends on the way parents swear, I usually don't but if I would infront of my children it would be in a funny way so that they can laugh even if they don't understand the word if you know what I mean ;)
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• Philippines
7 Oct 09
I do swear a lot when I am trap and have too do it to escape scrutiny but the real in me like to say no. But, i could not do it most of the times as I am really the kind of person who likes most of the times to defend myself which causes indifferent. While most of the times my parents hardly swear as they are too have changeable minds and i have to say that swearing is avoided as most of the times it is just end up as a broken promises, So in order to be safe it is best not to swear unless one is so sure with his decision to commit to one's statement..
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