Does getting even produce a real sense of satisfaction?
October 16, 2009 9:46pm CST
or may end up hurting oneself even more. I think it's ever more hurting. When I was a lot younger and emotionally immature, a friend of mine started spreading rumors about me and some people believed him. He was supposed to be a friend so what he did really hurt me. So I also spread rumors about him and he was shocked even more. Seeing him in tears, I was hurt and really didn't feel a sense of satisfaction. How I wished I've never done it. What do you think about the desire to get even?
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17 Oct 09
Whenever I get hurt, there is this tendency that I curse or say bad things about a person or people who have hurt me. It is a normal initial reaction you will get from the person who have been hurt. A plan of taking revenge is also part of pacifying what I am feeling but then when I get back to my rationality, I will think optimistically that things will be better by tomorrow and that revenge won't yield a positive effect but will only lead to more heartache. I will just let time heal the wounds and would reverse what I have said and thought earlier. Instead of cursing, I would pray for myself that I am hurt and that I am hoping that a better understanding on what happen will eventually took over me. I also pray for that person who have hurt me, asking god to help this person not to hurt more people. It may sounds impossible but I already did it. In 2004, My new boss who didn't like me tried to say things that really hurt my ego. I was handling the position for the past 4 years and has master all facets of the job. Then one day, she called me and tell me that she was holding my promotion because she thinks that I am not yet capable of my job that I have no time management, etc. I really really feel bad then. The following day, I tender my resignation. I was out of the company after two weeks. I really hate her for taking away the job that I love. At first I did curse her and said so many bad things about her in my mind but as the days goes by I offer a prayer for her and that I told myself that I already forgave her. After a year, I heard that she resign from the company to join another company then on the second year, I heard that she was already jobless because she has management issue re: on how she treats her staff. I honestly feel sorry for her but I think that is how the law of life works. When we are too confident, a knock will come in our lives to make us humble.
17 Oct 09
yes, the idea of revenge is our system's reaction that will pacify our mind when hurt but it doesn't actually lead anywhere except create more problems. Prayer, I believe can work wonders as explained in your response. People do reap what they saw as what happened to her. Indeed, that's how the law of life works. enjoy!