How you view marriage...

@joye68 (151)
United States
October 17, 2009 9:00am CST
This is pretty much for anyone out there, including those who have gone the traditional route in finding your soul mates. (IE: Got your education first - college, married, then kids, house, car etc, not necessarily in that order). I'm divorced and I've had a couple of major relationships past that which lasted for 5+ years each. I already have a child who's now grown and I didn't want more. I'm able to get as far as GET the proposals, but apparently there's something that isn't clicking with me and the others that makes us both rethink the outcome... so that's ok. Better now than later, right? Although this saddens me, I'm thinking that maybe I'm viewing the institution of marriage differently than they are. The first long term relationship (post divorce) was viewed in terms of the more traditional route as listed above, especially when I was still young enough to consider having another child. The second longterm relationship ended recently. I'm older and another child was not an option. How do YOU, good people view this ...trend...for lack of a better word? Please apply your life's experiences to both scenarios if at all possible as well as your opinions. Thanks in advance.
2 responses
• United States
18 Oct 09
Personally, I used to be all for marriage. I was engaged for 2 years, (still have the tattoo....ugh.), and I thought he was the only person for me, however, he didn't feel I was the only one for him and while I was pregnant, he slept with my best friend of 7 years. I ended up miscarrying and he left the state. Now, I have a whole new view on marriage. Its only paperwork. I don't really plan on getting married at all. I mean, I've been with my current boyfriend for 9 months and I love him, but I definitely don't wanna marry him. We always joke that our first born son will be old enough to throw him a bachelor party by the time we decide to. I don't really think that marriage is essential to having kids and leading a happy life. I'm not even going to worry about kids until I'm financially stable enough to support that kid on my own because too many people get married, then start popping out kids they can't afford.
• Philippines
13 Dec 09
for me,marriage is a lifetime commitment.if I do get married,I have to be 1000% ready for the commitment,without any regrets,and 1000% sure about the man I am going to marry.I don't want a stressful marriage.it is tiring,both for me and my children.