Do you find it hard befriending someone who you hated the most in the past??
@twilightviolet (85)
Philippines
October 17, 2009 12:15pm CST
Just want to share my thoughts about my "friends" who were once my most enemy. Actually, i still can't imagine that we are "friends" now because of what they did to me and my friends when we were in high school. As in, they are backstabbing us and everything. I must say that at first, I thought that i should be friends with them since we are in the same university and same course but then what i thought waS WRONG because I think when i became friends with them, i realized that they are not that bad. In fact, they are the ones who are influencing me to study harder. Yes, i admit it, we were wrong when we were in high school but then again sometimes, i remember what they did to me and my friends waY back in highschool. I just can't stop thinking bad things with them. Maybe I am the one who is wrong.. What do you think??
2 responses
@weasel81 (2496)
• Australia
17 Oct 09
we all grow up and our friends change, like there's those i didn't speak to at school but have them as friends on face book. they grow up as well, and change. but you think about the past and you can't help but remember what happened back then. long as they are better friends now, be happy with them.
@twilightviolet (85)
• Philippines
18 Oct 09
Maybe you are right that people change but still, i can't really forget what they did to me and my circle of friends. Maybe they change for the better. But now maybe the problem is with me already because i can't trust them as what friends should have with each other.
@weasel81 (2496)
• Australia
18 Oct 09
i don't blame you for being cautious, we can't forget some things of the past. my best mate from school ditched all of us for her now husband, in our last yr of school. i was never good enough to be friends with, and i was even the bozo who introduced them. they married the yr after we finished school, and will still claim i was invited to the wedding but i think not. we became friends again when i was about to have my son, she was also pregant as well and there 3 weeks of so between the kids. that was fine, i also help get her a milking job. but she hated me being more of the top dog ( i was wanting to learn more from the manager we had) cause i'd only been milking a few yrs compared to her. then she became preg with her 3rd child, we'd moved away for a month and came back, i was back in the position i'd been in before i left. her attitude got worse, as the pregancy progressed. then one day she had a go at me about my parenting and being firmer with my son, (he's got speech problems and learning) i wrote a letter of complaint to the manager we had at the time not that it did much. i left there not long after cause of not enough work. i now refuse to talk to her and her husband, i'll be polite but that's it.
@twilightviolet (85)
• Philippines
21 Oct 09
Yes, like you. i have a feeling that they are not really good friends for me. Yes, they excel in school, but then, the fact that i always remember what they did to me in the past, will always remain in my memories. That was a very serious one. Good thing some don't believe in what they say about us.
@calai618 (1773)
• Philippines
17 Oct 09
I think it depends on the intensity of the reason why you fought or had misunderstandings before. If it is just some petty reasons, then it would surely be a lot easier to get over that later on. I use to have a sort of a bestfriend and we had a petty quarrel which was not hard to fix at all. I tried fixing it eventually but she started acting weirder and weirder each day. She even did me terrible stuff which I would rather not mention. It was really a shock to me. I didn't imagine she was capable of being such a monster. I knew there were bad people in the world but I didn't know that I was actually hanging with one of them. It really hurt me so much that even though it has been so long ago, I still would rather remain estranged from her. I feel safer this way. Though I don't hate her, i never did anyway, I still don't mind losing that "friendship". I am fine with my life right now without her, there are also no chances of us reuniting and I don't mind that.
@twilightviolet (85)
• Philippines
18 Oct 09
I think right now, we are sort of "friends"..but i still don't trust them whole heartedly. I know know if that is also the case with them. Everytime they do something, either good or bad in my perspective, i still don't really see them as a friend who can be trusted. My point with them is that, they were able to betray us way back, and i think they are still capable of doing the same thing when it is needed.
