Should I have a drink with this girl tonight?
@lefthooklacey (53)
United States
October 19, 2009 1:51pm CST
Ok, so a neighbor of mine has been texting me a lot and showing some interest in me. She is incredibly hot and that is no exaggeration. I ask her all the time if she has thought about modeling or ever tried to get into that type of industry. The thing that bothers me is that she has made it known to everyone around here that she's interested in me, and tonight she wants to come over for a drink and watch a movie or something. I just can't figure out why she is pursuing me so hard. She could have any guy in this city that she wants. She's only 22 and I'm 30. She even sent me a picture of her in her bathing suit today while I was at work and told me that she wanted to give me something to think about. She is very cool and funny, but I feel like there has got to be something else going on here. I'm not a rich man, so it can't be money. I'm nice and average looking, but their are thousands of nice average looking men around. Should I have the drink tonight? Or do you think I'm part of a bet or something, or a trap of some sort? People can be mean sometimes.
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29 responses
@kilersssss (21)
• India
20 Oct 09
yeah u shud....but u shud behave .....and let her ask for the thing she want........do not hurry up.let the things proceed itself........but initiate well...and in a decent manner.
@maean_19 (4655)
• Philippines
20 Oct 09
If you are single and unattached then, go for it. Nothing to lose because it is very clear that she is flirting. If you think that it is a trap, then do not commit. Just chill out and have fun if she wants, but just be careful with your actions towards her. I mean, do not take advantage of her flirting. Just be civil. You are old enough to know what is good and proper.
@crys7881 (249)
• United States
19 Oct 09
I think you should relax and have a drink with her and chill!! Just think of it as a friends thing and see where it goes!! I agree thought because my mind works like yours, I wonder why someone would want to be with me, but she could just be really attracted to your attitude and all! I admit I'm more likely to fall for a dorky looking guy with a great personality rather than someone that is hot but bored or rude! Just go for it and let us know how it turns out!
@lefthooklacey (53)
• United States
19 Oct 09
Maybe you're all right. I was gonna have a drink tonight and watch Monday Night Football anyway. Might as well do it in the company of a beautiful woman. Thanks for the confidence boosts. I'll be sure to reply tomorrow or even later tonight to let everyone know how it went. I might need some more advice! Thanks for reading.
@doormouse (4599)
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19 Oct 09
i think you should go,maybe she does'nt want any guy in the city,maybe she wants you,it's not about money or looks it's the person inside that most women look at,if you're worried that you are part of a game,just play it cool and have fun without getting too involved,and be cautious
have fun tonight
@Ravenladyj (22904)
• United States
19 Oct 09
it's not about money or looks it's the person inside that most women look at
Absolutely! nice post
@leahsmom (337)
• United States
19 Oct 09
If you like her and she likes you what's the problem. Do you suffer from low self esteem. look around I've seen some of the oddest couple. beautiful girl old fat guy.hot model balding old guy. Maybe she just likes you. Not every woman is looking for the richest,or most beautiful guy just someone to treat them right and be there for them.
@lefthooklacey (53)
• United States
19 Oct 09
No, I don't really suffer from low self-esteem, I guess I'm just cautious. Usually, it's the guy that has to chase the woman, no matter how she looks. It's just normal for the guy to be the pursuer instead of the pursuee. I was just looking for some outside opinions and I guess a boost to go into the date tonight with confidence.
@robert19ph (4577)
• Philippines
20 Oct 09
hello lefthooklacey,
for me, i think you need to give her a chance. that way, you can get together better. who knows, what you were thinking that it was only a bet or something might be totally not true. and that she really likes you. eight years gap is just fine. besides, you find her hot and attractive. 
maybe she is the girl that you are waiting for. that's why until now you are still a bachelor - the most eligible bachelor for that matter.
just do it. you are single and she is single as well. so there is nothing wrong about it. 
have a good time.
maybe she is the girl that you are waiting for. that's why until now you are still a bachelor - the most eligible bachelor for that matter.
just do it. you are single and she is single as well. so there is nothing wrong about it. have a good time.
@corrycrystal (1775)
• Malaysia
20 Oct 09
Oh, every woman has different views of every guy they meet. So, you might think you are just an average looking guy, but it could be something inside you that attract her and probably you have a nice charming smile that she just can't get you out of her mind he he...
Well, seriously, when someone is attracted to you and you have nothing to lose, just proceed with the plan and see how it goes. That is the only way you can tell whether she is playing around or seriously want to hang out with you. Have fun and don't let your doubtful mind enveloping your spirit and spoil the night. 
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
20 Oct 09
hello lefthookey,
there's nothing to loose even if it's a bet or anything, just have fun and drink with her, there's nothing wrong with that. at least you get to have friends with one of the beautiful girls, you may not experience this again if you resist and might regret it in the future. besides, it's your neighbor and not some other people from other places. but despite of that never tell your secrets just do casual talk.
@cognoscentethelegend (1209)
• India
20 Oct 09
Friend, that's up to you. Tonight if you feel want to have drink with her, you can continue. I think she is in love with you. But am not sure about this. It may be a infacuation or it may be some thing. Those things are comes under the age 22. But i was not sure she is in love with with , that's up to her. So what you like to have you can have. My suggestion is have drink with her. Have a nice day.
@dsnachiever (250)
• India
20 Oct 09
I think you should go out with her and have a drink. May be she is just playing with you. But It doesn't mean you should step back. You can also play with her. Don't be afraid that she is a beautiful girl and you are a average guy. Imagine yourself the king of the earth and take her out for a dinner.
@svishnugopal (4)
• India
20 Oct 09
You can very well proceed with your drink, a movie or an outing. This is all because girls always like to feel secured and make sure they do it. A little more briefly, as you said she can get any body who is average looking but the major factor is you are known to her and she has made sure that she has created enough, that everybody around you know that she is interested in you. All this is not for money my dear :) It is just that she wants to enjoy life, but she wants to make sure that she goes out only with somebody who is known and who will definitely take responsibility (at least because you now people know about the fact she is interested in you)
@LoriAn (120)
• United States
20 Oct 09
I would definitely give yourself a chance and have that drink with her she sounds like she is really interested in you and what do you have to loose.You may find your next wife the mother of your children just if you are worried something else maybe make sure you stay on your guard.She is of age to choose who she wants to date.I say give it a chance.Good luck!
@sameroad (3179)
• United States
20 Oct 09
Shes beautiful, funny, cool, and she wants you? i would definitely have a drink with her. what do you have to lose? if she has let it be known that shes into you around town.. i don't think you have anything to worry about.. a lot of girls like older guys too. so age doesn't matter... maybe she just really likes you. if you don't try, you'll never know...
@GaryJoule (211)
• China
20 Oct 09
a u dreaming?
if not and you worry it's a trap, why don't you ask her tonight frankly which point on you attracts her so much.
The luckiest thing is that there is really something inside that's just she dreams to own. Good luck, buddy, go ahead, she won't eat you.
@irene3184 (898)
• Philippines
20 Oct 09
It's really up to you. If you are interested to take time with her then go on and if not then don't for her not to expect something.The simple way is tell her that you are not available for a drink later night.
@xcalibur201 (55)
• United States
20 Oct 09
give it a chance, no need to pass up on oppurtunities because of doubts and second guesses.
@gemparado (71)
• New Zealand
20 Oct 09
Maybe she has seen something in you that she really like. Sure you have doubts and loads of questions and here's the opportunity for you to know her more. There's nothing wrong having a drink with her or watch a movie.
