Being close friends with an ex-lover, "How do you seperate the two?"

United States
October 20, 2009 7:46pm CST
I am very close to my ex-girlfriend and that is a first. At the end of a relationship, I usually just walked away. It ended badly most times, so all I wanted to do was walk away. I am still very much in love with my now close friend and she still has deep feelings for me, however, I hurt her and betrayed her trust, so the chances of rekindling are not as good as I would like. Now, the question, how do you move on and accept what is? Or better yet, do I accept it or, keep on trying until I win her back?
3 responses
@jenny1015 (13389)
• Philippines
8 Dec 12
You can always try your luck. But if there is a clear sign that she really is no longer interested, then you should just respect her decision. Much better if you just remain friends.
@tatiana07 (498)
• Philippines
21 Oct 09
hi kris! it's really hard to gain her trust again but try to see her eyes. if you see hatred there because of the things you did to her, then, it's better for you to leave her alone but if you can still see the love then try your very best to win her back with a promise that you'll not going to hurt her again ever. happy mylotting!
@repzkoopz (1895)
• Philippines
21 Oct 09
in this case, the most important thing is "communication". you guys need to really talk about things. getting back together as lovers highly depend on both of you guys, and not just her. but if both of you decide to stay as friends, then you'll need to hold your feelings. it isn't really bad to talk about your past but living your past is a different story. and yeah.. i've been in a similar situation a number of times.. i'm in very good terms with all my ex's.