what if everything that's happening now is just a dream?

@ckyera (17261)
Philippines
October 23, 2009 2:47am CST
hello everyone! this question just come to my mind the other day,while my husband & i are walking... i ask him, what if everything that's happening now is just a dream? i mean, its like you are just sleeping & all of a sudden you have a dream, and in your dream, this is what you see...the life that you will have with me... will you still do the decision that you've done before? will you still continue marrying me after seeing how will i turn as a wife? haha... how about you? lets say everything that's happening to you now is just a dream? or just a vision of how you will be in the future when you make such decision...will you still go with the decision that you have done before? and still wanting to live this life that you have now? or will you change your decision? thanks in advance & have a nice day...
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@kun2349 (23475)
• Singapore
23 Oct 09
INteresting.. hehe ^_^ I will still be going ahead with my 'dreams', because it should be the best for me.. If i really wanna change anything, it will not just affect me, but many others around me as well.. PLus, if i were to opt for a better life, i might even lose alot more things in return, without me realising it, till very much later.. hehe What's meant to be ours, will always be ours.. If one were to be over ambitious, and managed to have a much better future, they will be back to square one, before they know what goes wrong.. haha =D
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@ckyera (17261)
• Philippines
24 Oct 09
so meaning? you are happy with what you have now & with who you are now? and if its all just a dream, you would want not to wake up anymore and just live with it? hehe well, that's good for you... and you are right with that, that we also didn't know what will happen if we change the decisions that we have in the past & all that we do will really affect not only our life but also the life of people around us... see, my mind is working this way...hehe thinking these kind of silly questions...haha that i even surprised my husband when i ask him this kind of question...hehe
@kun2349 (23475)
• Singapore
24 Oct 09
Well, there's nothing bad about the life i'm leading right now.. Though it can be better in some aspects of life, but if i were to change it, all the best things i have now, might elude me in the process, leaving me with nothing.. haha =D Thus, i'm fine with this 'dream' of mine.. hehe ^_^ What's his answer then?? Did he regret in marrying u?? IF so, it's good, for i do stand a chance.. lol =D Just kidding.. hehe BUt it's an interesting topic, and hopefully, u can come up with more.. hehe
@ckyera (17261)
• Philippines
25 Oct 09
hehe... and its even more difficult if we change our decision before this dream...hehe atleast we have seen it already hehe... and if we will change anything, we will not even know whether the result will be better or worst! hehe.. what's his answer? hmmmm you know, my husband don't answer directly in any question i gave to him...more or less he will just return the question to me, or sometimes he will answer the opposite..you know, he will not answer the answer that i expect...hehe really? its interesting? wow! im surprised! hehe
@hexeduser22 (5854)
• Philippines
24 Oct 09
If my life is all just a dream then I would say it has been a very good dream. I would like to live my life as how I dream it would be with just some modifications or maybe nothing at all.
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@ckyera (17261)
• Philippines
24 Oct 09
hello hexeduser! well, what can i say? i feel like you are having a really nice life & just happy & contented with it...that's good for you! thanks...
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• Philippines
24 Oct 09
Not really nice, I have my ups and downs too but I consider it as a beautiful thing because if not from those ups and downs I wouldn't know those wonderful people that I have met now.
@ckyera (17261)
• Philippines
24 Oct 09
yeah, i agree with you...and from those ups & downs, we learn our lessons and make us appreciate more the beauty of this life...
• India
24 Oct 09
Hi Ckyera.. I believe, Everything that goes in our life is already written, that to with time...So no matter what steps you take, those are to be happen (good or bad).. People who are facing problems now will say 'they would like to change their decision'...and those who are facing good will say 'they would take the same decision' If we had that power to change then no one in this earth be suffereing... Take Care
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@ckyera (17261)
• Philippines
24 Oct 09
hi sonuherenz... you've got a very nice point there... coz that's really the truth...hehe if we have a good life, we don't like to change anything but if we have a bad one, we want to change all...huh! something that's quite impossible, coz all the things that's happening to us have a reason...i guess... thanks for sharing your thought...
• India
25 Oct 09
Ha Ha :) Take Care
@Hazelrose (2185)
• Philippines
25 Oct 09
Hello cyk, I am really a dreamy person.Almost every night when sleeping i always have a dream,sometimes good and sometimes bad.There are times that i wake up laughing or sometimes crying. There are many times that my dreams were happened,and i really don't like that situation it makes me scared whether good or bad.But if everything happens now is just a dream? I will go for what i decided before.I am happy with my family now.Good day!
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@ckyera (17261)
• Philippines
25 Oct 09
thanks hazelrose! and i'm happy for you...
@Monkish (95)
• United States
24 Oct 09
I cannot tell you how many times I have paused in my daily life and thought...am I really doing this? Is this really me? Am I really here now? This doesnt seem real. At least I am not the only one who has felt this....
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@ckyera (17261)
• Philippines
24 Oct 09
hehe...i'm also glad to know that i am not the only one thinking this way... \coz its really true, sometimes life is really like a dream,,,sometimes its too good to be true, and sometimes its like a nightmare...huh! thanks!
@VVroom (258)
• Romania
23 Oct 09
Hi ckyera, There's a very old and beautiful zen story on this subject. A famous zen master, Chuang Tzu once dreamt that he was a magnificent butterfly fluttering here and there. In the dream he had no individuality as a person. He was just a butterfly and he felt like one. But suddenly he awoke and he found himslef lying there, a human being once again. And then he wondered..."Was I before a man who dreamt about being a butterfly, or am I now a butterfly who dreams of being a man?" If you think deep about the riddle, our mind will have a very hard time. Actually the mind cannot solve it. The safest answer is 'maybe'. We will only understand the Universe when we' ll realize we have other instruments inside us designed for perception and analyzing, beside the mind. And start using them, believing in them.
@ckyera (17261)
• Philippines
23 Oct 09
hello vvroom! that was kinda deep & makes me think... well, yes maybe... thanks for sharing this one...
@dpk262006 (56109)
• Delhi, India
23 Oct 09
Hi ck! Life itself is not less than a dream. Whatever has passed in our life appears like a dream. Only memories of our past remains in our mind, which we keep recalling every now and then. If life is a like a dream and I meet different characters in my dream(s), I would like to spend my life with them.
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@ckyera (17261)
• Philippines
23 Oct 09
thanks deepak! so i guess your life now is something that's so beautiful... and it means that if you are only dreaming now, & you wake up, you will still choose the same decision that you made in your life...that brings you in this reality now? happy weekend...
@Zhizho (1352)
• Indonesia
23 Oct 09
I think if it beautiful dream,just enjoy it.LOL.I was feel like that when I have big problem that I never imagine before that it can be happen in my life.I hope it just a dream.Like when My Dad was passed away.But,for what I feel now,I just be grateful and I always keep positife thinking that what was happen in my life now so it's the better life that God made for me.
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@ckyera (17261)
• Philippines
23 Oct 09
yes, if its a beautiful dream, we will wish to stay there forever...hehe but if its bad...we wish to wake up right away before it kills us... good that you feel that way now... thanks zhizho...
@borhan (1345)
• United States
23 Oct 09
This issue blinked within me also many times, specially during my happy days. I used to fear, is it a dream i am running with. At the same time, during bad days i tried to think that it is a dream and suddenly i will be awake and will find that everything is ok arround me. Human brain wants the happy episodes and always tries to reject bad and sad episodes.
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@ckyera (17261)
• Philippines
23 Oct 09
hello borhan... its true, when we are having a good life, we are afraid for this to end and when having a bad time, we wish that everything is just a dream and so we can wake up and end that bad dream... so if your life now is just a dream, would you want to wake up or just stay in your dream? thanks!
• Philippines
23 Oct 09
Why do you have any regret with your life now??? just kidding.. well, I could say that if it is a dream I just wish it is a good things and not the time which are full of nightmare experience...lol I would like to change the course of time not with the fact that I am discontented but I like to make my life better by correcting my mistakes or if their is any then make changes to it like having to edit before deleting those ugly things. However, since it is only a dream, come back to reality now..as dreams is only good for sleeping as one grows mature need to face every day challenges and even though we would like to go back or at least rewind is no longer possible to turn back time... So all you need to now is to dream about the future and not about the past or in waht you describe the current situation.. Thus, when you are presently happy with the frame of your mind..thus their is no need to treat your current life as a dream as it is the reality and having the one you loved on your side..is a good things to treasure of no matter what comes...
@ckyera (17261)
• Philippines
23 Oct 09
no, i don't regret anything in my life... and if this life that i am living now is just a dream...i would not want to wake up anymore...for i just love this life that i have now... and if its just a dream and i wake up, i will still choose to do those things that i have done in my past & same decisions...coz through those mistakes that i have done, i also learn, thus making me a better person now... thanks.
• Philippines
24 Oct 09
hi ck, well..that's better as I thought you just want to treat it only as a dream... well..your hubby would surely glad to know that you dream it and it still the same after you wake up..something confusing..then it should be different as it is a dream unlikely not the same things that happen..lol.. That better you dream of good things as it is not alright when you wake up on a dream that is not part of something good...like those painful past experience no one would ever bother to go back on that...
@ckyera (17261)
• Philippines
24 Oct 09
well this topic just come to me and i just ask my husband... its something got to do with decision making...hehe those what ifs... what if, this is not yet happening & these are just a vision of the future...would you still go for such decision that makes your life like this or will you change your decision, so that your life now will change also? hehe
@mobhomeir (7565)
• Philippines
18 Nov 09
Hello again iloemi, you have a tough and hard topics to respond. Well if spiritual life included, YES. That would be always my first thing to do if everything in our lives would just a dream. The rest would be debatable
@ckyera (17261)
• Philippines
18 Nov 09
hmmm...does it mean that the only certain thing that you want to keep is your spiritual life? hehe and the rest...hmmmm you want some changes? haha
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@mobhomeir (7565)
• Philippines
18 Nov 09
Well, I said it would be debatable yet...
@ckyera (17261)
• Philippines
18 Nov 09
@yecal10 (145)
• United States
24 Oct 09
I think it IS all a dream...or a hologram... look at how we are all friends here on mylot even though we don't know each other but we come here to interact.