i love hugs, cuddle and spoon but i need my space.

@jen20ixm (165)
Philippines
October 28, 2009 2:29am CST
everytime i will spend the night at my boyfriend's house or he will be spending the night in my house, i love having him around actually, i'd feel very special when he is around, he give me special attention. but when we go to sleep, he hugs me and wont let go, i like hugs, i like cuddling but i also needs space, we could sleep together but my bed and his is big enough for four person. but there he is, taking all my space and wont just let me go, i cant move! i cant breathe. i love him and everything but i need my space when i go to sleep. i'd spend all my life sleeping alone and not used to someone cuddling and taking all my space. do you experience the same? do you do feel about it? do hare and happy mylotting to everyone!
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3 responses
• Boston, Massachusetts
28 Oct 09
Hi Jen, That is one of the major adjustments that you're going to make in your life once you settled for good with him. Inasmuch as you need space, he will always be there by your side and anytime will give you a hug. You can discuss this with him and ask for his support and understanding while you are in the process of accepting this fact. Goodluck. You can do it! He just loves you so much that he can't help it to hug you that much!
@jen20ixm (165)
• Philippines
29 Oct 09
yeah its sweet and very touching in a way but im not really used to it. actually we talked about, he said that we will try to not to hug me so much, and i said we could hold hands while sleeping so he would know that im there with him,
• Boston, Massachusetts
29 Oct 09
That's good at least it's a good start... wow holding hands while sleeping?????!!! that is so sweet!
• Boston, Massachusetts
29 Oct 09
well, practice makes perfect... i know you will in due time. stay so in love with each other!
@irene3184 (900)
• Philippines
29 Oct 09
You should tell him that you are not used being cuddled but I may ask you what if you are going to get married and the setting won't give you the space.Don't you dare to use your self on that settings?
@jammyt (2824)
• Philippines
28 Oct 09
When my husband and I were still boyfriend and girlfriend, I really found it weird sleeping with him at times. He loved to hug me to the point I couldn't move. I just got used to it. All the more when we got married. The only time he gave me my space was when I was pregnant. Now that he is assigned to the province, I miss his hugs so much. A piece of unsolicited advice, though you look really young, get used to this because most guys are like this. As most of my married friends told me. It's their way of showing their love. I think you should be worried if the person starts staying away from you . LOL!
@jen20ixm (165)
• Philippines
28 Oct 09
its really weird for me, sometimes i wake up in the middle of the night and there he is, his arm his body, all is in mine, i will try to push me a little so i can breath, but seconds after, there he is again, i loved him dearly but im not really used to this kind of set up, i talked to him about my concern, and yes he said this is his one of many way to show me his love, but also said that he like it that everytime his eyes open, there i am, he told me he would hug me as long as he can, because he dont want to lost me.