Career or love????

@jen20ixm (165)
Philippines
November 3, 2009 1:47am CST
What if this is your situation; you have a been with this guy/girl for almost forever and you had a career/ job you love very much, but he got promoted on his job and needs to relocate, that means, you have to quits yours and be with him to wherever his relocation would be, (far, far, faraway) would you go with him/her and quit the job you have been dreaming all your life? or would you stay here with your dream job and let him/her go with his own?? what would you do?? your career or love??
7 responses
@Rainegurl (2158)
• Philippines
3 Nov 09
Hi, jen If something like that happens to me and my husband, I do not think I will ever have to choose between career and love. We have talked about this and we both agreed that it is ok for us to be away from each other so that we can pursue our dreams. However, we really have to find the time and the money to see each other as much as possible. When we were still dating, I was away for 3 years and I dare say we did alright because we still ended up getting married to each other. Of course, it is easy for us to decide because we do not have kids yet. Cheers!
@drdivu (1011)
• India
3 Nov 09
thats great..!! hats off to u people..rarely do I find such strong n dedicated people...
@rjvb26 (2518)
• Philippines
4 Nov 09
is he/she a boyfriend? girlfriend or spouse? depends on the situation and level of relationship. But for me the most important thing in a relationship is TRUST each others feelings. My questions for you are: 1. How much do you love him/her? 2. Does he/she also love you? 3. Are you willing to sacrifice for the one you love? 4. is he/she willing to sacrifice for the one he/she loves? 5. Do you trust each others feelings? 6. Do you know what to prioritized? 7. What do you think is best for your future? (both sides) 8. Do you have goals in life? 9. Do you want to be successful and fulfill your dreams? 10. What would be the best answers for those questions? Your a grown up now and i assure you know what will be the best answer for those... What do you think will be best for you and for him/her? It's better not to have regrets in the latter part of your life... And whatever decision you make be sure not to regret those... have you watched the movie 17 again by Zach? i think it's a movie that fits your questions... No one here in mylot can advice you and answer you directly cause it's you only you! I'm sure you don't want others to decide for your future nor other mess with it. Both are very important... As both of them is a human need... Do you know the hierarchy of needs? if not then try searching for it.. it's by Abraham Maslow... Career will fulfill your dreams and goals in life... Love if it is really LOVE then it is also once... and it is forever till the time comes.... You can always find the same career in other places... not quite easy but sure you can! If you work hard for it.... You can always find a lover in the workplace, anywhere and anytime not the one you really love but soon you'll learn to love we didn't know maybe more than... If the love is as strong as steal then probably you are not in danger... If the career is as good as 10 box of gold bars.. then it's a hell of a future... People need to decide carefully and freely without any regrets... for them to say i am GOOD because i fulfilled my goals in life ... I am HAPPY because i am with my love... then at the end before living this colorful world.. if they decided with no regrets, they can say life is beautiful and it's worth living...
@junmae (1592)
• Philippines
4 Nov 09
I believe that if your love to each other is strong and you both have faith with each other, there would be no reason on what to choose. You can still continue your realtionship although he is away that's why there is long distance realationship. You dont have to give up something just to be with him because you also have your own life.
@lingli_78 (12852)
• Australia
4 Nov 09
this is a very hard question to answer... i think this has to be discussed well in advance and there had to be a compromise... every couple will have a different way to handle this situation... take care and have a nice day...
• China
3 Nov 09
Hi Jen, Please image which one is easier: find another true lover or find another satisfying job. And also image what kind of life do you want to lead: live in love or live with a good job. As of my opinion, if love is deep enough, the choice is simple: Love or family always takes priority. On the other side, Relocating with your lover does not mean you can only find another good job/career. When you close one window, you maybe are opening another door. Wish you have a good decision. Good luck.
@drdivu (1011)
• India
3 Nov 09
good question indeed..!! I would love to quit the job and go with my love as I believe if the love is true then its for lifetime..!! In jobs, people spent just few hours but in love people spend huge amount of time and emotions and + if true love is there it grows with time..!! where as job, at the end of day is for earning and satisfaction..!! this is just my point of view... I would leave the unfaithful guy for my job too if the situation demands so..!! being an Indian girl, we are taught to keep families first rather than jobs..!!
@wmraul (2557)
• Bucharest, Romania
3 Nov 09
The way you put the problem (he/she decided to relocate in order to follow his/her career), I wouldn't have anything to choose. This subject is something should have been disscused and agreed upon long before happen. However, in no circumstances I won't suddenly quit everything and follow. There are to many unknown issues to insanely jump into the relocation. And no, my current job is not the problem, the problem is leaving something you sure have for something may not exist. In a hypotetical such a situation, it seems is more like a situation where one from the couple have allready put career before relationship, therefor the choice is obviously : "Honey, when you have to be there ? Within 10 days ? Well, don't let them wait .. Have you finish packing so I can call the cab ?" My 2 cents ..