how will i be when i get that age?

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My dear mother is 89 years old, and she is still going rather strong. While her mind is getting a little slower these days, and arthirities is taking over, the rest of her body is that of a 40 yr old person. She's had relatives of hers that have lived to be 100. So, my mom just might get that far. However, there are things I noticed with her that I fear will happen to me when I get up there in age. She is forever cold, and she seems to always blame it on other things besides the age. She blames the windows in her apt, when everything in there is air tight. When we walk in, we get hit with a hot gust of air that feels like we just stuck our head in an oven - it literally is 80 in her house all year round. Yet, she is sitting there with a summer shirt. Go figure! She seems to forget that when we used to visit my grandfather(her father), how much she complained about the heat that was pouring out of his house when we walked in. My mom wears hearing aids...and we all know that hearing aids is not the best solution to hearing. They echo, and make whistling noises when they are in public. So, unfortunately, we have to raise our voices everythime we talk to her, even when she has them on. If we don't raise our voices, she complains that we aren't talking to her at her volume level. She gets upset when we do speak louder, and tells us that we yelled at her, but she doesn't stop and think that we have no idea when or if she can hear us. And of course there are the times that she says "huh", and we have to repeat for the upteenth time, only to find out that she really heard most of what we said the first time. It seems "huh" is becoming repetitive. Then there is that pride of loosing their independence. She hates to be helped out of the car, and tells us that she can do it, and we don't need to assist her. When we try to help her down small stairs, she brushes us aside. She will not sit in the first pew in church where she doesn't have to get up to receive communion, so instead she struggles to hold on to the back of the seats to walk down the aisle. Yet, my mother has fallen twice already, and it breaks my heart, so of course we fear this will happen again. But she doesn't seem to see our side, and is only concerned about her independence. Then her famous statement of "At my age, I can say anything I want now, because the elderly should know more than everyone else, anyway"I also found out that she has become very stubborn. If we try to suggest ways of helping her feel better, like drinking more water, taking a sinus pill at night, so she doesn't feel dizzy in the morning, eating the proper food, etc...she doesn't do any of it, and then wonders why she gets sick at times. I've decided to put on my refrigerator all the things that she does, so I can remind myself when I am at the age, not do these things. To let my family help me, to try to understand that they want the best for me. I want to realize that at that age, I can't be independent, that I should rely on them to care for more. And then I told my sister, that when I get that age, and start acting like her, to please remind me that I am starting to act like her, and hopefully I will immediately stop.