Why I love my son so much..
By Skyeblue25
@Skyeblue25 (545)
November 6, 2009 4:07pm CST
I have come to the conclusion that I really love my son. I knew it already but I had this thought. As he is autistic he has no social awareness. So while other children will not kiss their parents goodbye because its not 'cool'my son has no such worries. He grabs hold of my neck with both arms gives me a huge hug and a kiss and tells me he really loves me.
But the Mum next to me asks her child for a kiss goodbye and all she gets is 'Not infront of my friends Mum Yuk!'
I have just given him a huge hug goodnight and he is such an affectionate child. He doesn't care if the whole world knows he loves his Mum.
So even though I have been having a struggle with him of late I was thinking how lucky I am to have such a special son.
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6 responses
@mommaj (23112)
• United States
6 Nov 09
AWWW. You are very lucky indeed. My son doesn't give hugs or kisses. He will lean into me to receive them, but he doesn't give them. I think that is wonderful. You are right, he will probably not "feel" that peer pressure until someone tells him it is uncool to hug mum.
We really need to hold on to the little moments that make being a special mom wonderful, and special.
@Skyeblue25 (545)
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6 Nov 09
My son will actually get really upset if he can't hug me. Bless him. He is so sweet. I will have to remember that next time he is flying from the ceiling in a temper. lol
He has mainly had issues lately of bullying at school. He has got to that age where being part of the crowd matters, he goes to a mainstream school. He stands out as different as he is autistic and kids can be cruel to those that they don't understand and those that don't fit the mould. So I don't know maybe him giving me lots of hugs may be a sucurity thing for him.
Thats what I meant by his recent issues. He doesn't have things easy but he is very special to me and things have been better for him over the last week.
@mommaj (23112)
• United States
7 Nov 09
The bullying has to be the hardest thing for a parent to deal with. No child deserves that especially one that can't defend themselves. You are right, the hugs are probably his security blanket. I realize that kids are picked on, but I really hate mainstreaming when it comes to certain handicaps. I think it all depends on the individual student and the school.
@Skyeblue25 (545)
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8 Nov 09
Because he is in primary school they don't take bullying that seriously. Which to me is completely insane. But he has been a lot happier over the last couple of weeks so fingers crossed he is fine
@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
9 Nov 09
Cary is the same way. His older sister and his twin sister are much too dignified to allow any hugs or kisses in front of their friends, or even at home much. But Cary doesn't have any "age appropriate" awareness that he should have grown out of that by now. It's kind of sweet and I'm happy about it.
@Skyeblue25 (545)
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9 Nov 09
I hope he stays like that for a long time, but I am sure his teenage years will change it all
@bucketkid (237)
• Australia
6 Nov 09
you are very lucky.
i dont have children but i am very close to my brother. we talk about everything and look after one another. unfortunately, he does get affected by peer pressure and it is frustrating.
yesterday, i went to his school to do something. he was with his friends and he ran up, slapped me in the face, ran away and laughed. now you have to remember that he is 16.
i mean, we hit each other mucking around at home but i found that really hurtful.
it must be amazing for you to have someone that is not affraid to show you affection.
@Skyeblue25 (545)
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8 Nov 09
That was really mean of your brother. I have a younger brother and we used to argue all the time as kids, but now we have a great relationship. Your brother will grow up and learn the error of his ways I am sure
@LadyMarissa (12148)
• United States
7 Nov 09
BOTH you & your son are blessed!!! You have a son who obviously loves his Mum & he has a Mum who obviously loves him!!! May you two enjoy this balance for years to come!!!
@Skyeblue25 (545)
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8 Nov 09
I hope so, but I am making the most of it while I can as the terrible teens are just around the corner. lol I am sure it will all have changed by then
@Skyeblue25 (545)
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8 Nov 09
I agree, to give in to their every want and demand would not be good parenting. But I do feel children need to be rewarded for their positive behaviour. Always telling your child the negative can be just as harmful. Its all about striking the right balance.
@workingmommy (67)
• Canada
6 Nov 09
My son is a very loving little boy who has problems( My son was dignosed with autism when he was 3yrs 7months old) but I find that he doesn't realize his own strengh. Also do any of you have any toileting success because I have had to put my son back into diapers full time because he doesn't want to use the toilet. HELP!!
@Skyeblue25 (545)
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8 Nov 09
I had awful trouble with my son, but he is fine now during the day. He still has the odd accident at night. I'm worried because he is supposed to be going away with the school for 5 days next year and he won't bew able to go if he is still having night time accidents
