What's the relationship between you and your ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend?

China
November 18, 2009 11:04pm CST
I broke up with my boyfriend a month ago.I can't figure out the right relationship between us now.To be friends,strangers,or just ordinary classmates?That is a problem for me.Actually,we both wouldn't like to be strangers.After all,we passed such a wonderful time together.But we feel embarrassed when facing each other.So,I don't know what to do.And we are in the same class and we can see each other every day.So how do you deal with the relationship between you and your ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend?
4 responses
@lbbaby (489)
• China
23 Jan 10
Well, your situation is a little hard to deal with because you're in the same class. I was schoolmates with my ex-boyfriend but we still had some classes in the same classroom but very rare. We just didn't talk because the classes is very large. We were friends after we broke up. He said that he can be friends with me because we broke up not because another person. At the beginning, I thought it's weird. And I cannot just treat him as a common friend. And I felt that we just couldn't be that common. He told me everything and we were just like we were still in love. One day, I asked him that what relationship should we be and he answered that I am his female intimate. I was hurt. I don't know whether he still loves me now but we are just very close. Most of the time, I think he just treats me as a substitution. I don't know but just let it be.
• China
23 Jan 10
I have to say that the situation has changed since we broke up for a while.My ex dated with a girl who is our classmate,which means the girl in my class is my ex's girlfriend right now.The three of us are in the same class and we have to spend the rest of our campus life together.It is two years and a half.It's quite awkward.I hate to see them walk hand in hand and do things together.But I know I have to face it I have to pretend I don't care.I have to go on with my life.I know I am much better than that girl.It is totally true.So I can find someone who is better than my ex.
@lbbaby (489)
• China
25 Jan 10
Yes, I'm sure of that you'll find someone better. And you deserve it. Just let it be.
@BART78 (2933)
• Canada
19 Nov 09
hi fish! though we are all married, i have good relation with all my ex's, even the last one i been through, we broke badly, but after 8 years, we are good, one time i accidently met her in a mall and have little chit chat and things just folded and no more cold war...
• China
22 Nov 09
That's great.I have a headache with such a problem.We are in the same class.That's too bad and troublesome.
@happy2512 (1266)
• Philippines
19 Nov 09
For me its so hard to explain because for the past 8 years we have not seen each other anymore I only heard from our common friend that he migrated somewhere else. By the way we are both married now. For me I still can treat him as a friend where I told him before we parted ways that I wish our friendship will not be affected with our break up.
• China
22 Nov 09
Actually I think not seeing anymore is a good way to comfort myself about the relationship.But the biggest problem is that my ex and I are in the same class.We almostly can see each other every day.That's awful.Recently students gossip our break-up and they saw he hanged out with another girl.Actually the girl is our classmate and they have a good relationship.I'm not sure I can feel comfortable if they begin to date.
• United States
19 Nov 09
If the breakup wasn't nasty, the weirdness will go away after a while and things will seem normal. Just because you guys didn't work out as a couple, doesn't mean you can't work out as friends. Now if after a while has passed and it is still weird for the both of you, just be friendly when you see eachother from time to time. You don't have to be buddy buddy to still say hi and see how things are going. The only time I would see it getting weirder for you is when you both start dating other people. My ex and I had a nasty breakup and we only talk to discuss our kids. I wouldn't be friends with him if you paid me. But if you had a mutual breakup....it will get easier with time.
• China
19 Nov 09
Actually I am quite afraid that he'll dating another girl.I think I don't have the courage to face them.If they hang around hand in hand in front of me,I think I'm gonna be mad.For myself,I don't want to dating other guys any more momentarily.He is my first love and I am his,too.I was hurt deeply.But what I am very clear is that he'll date somebody sooner or later.Maybe time is the best healer.