On Friends and Friendship..
November 20, 2009 12:09am CST
Do you have a criteria in selecting friends and in making that person a friend for life? Or you just allow the person to be your friend and reveal his true person on the process and start building a lasting relationships as friends? do you have many friends or just few but trusted one? Why?
20 Nov 09
Hi,nice to meet you. I am a cookie,advice please. In my view, there is no absolute criteria to select friends since there is no absolute good person or bad person. And everybody has their own lifeway. I'd like to be your friend if you want to walking into my life. But the person must not to be an endanger for society. I trust my all friends but can not completely because he or she may be a good one in this side not other sides.
21 Nov 09
hello summer.. welcome to mylot! there are two issues i'd like to point out: 1. "... person must not an endanger to society." i'd like to ask further: they say that different people wear different mask, we can be true to one but not to another. what if this person who seemed to be "endanger" to society becomes you and only your friend? that person seemed to be honest and a trustworthy person to you, would you stay away from that person because he is "endangered" to the society? (just asking :-) 2. if we don't trust completely our friends, meaning we doubt them, can we still consider them as close friends?
21 Nov 09
thank you :) the first question: I won't stay away from that person who need help if i can do something. but i don't think he/she is my friend until the person won't do severely harmful to other people any longer. the secong one: i mean, sorry i can't select right words, may be one friend don't understand me about my this issue , but understand another issue. that's to say different person has different notion to different question. i just tell different information to different friends. i'd be greatful if you can help me to improve my English.
21 Nov 09
hi summer... from your second answer, you seemed to posses a very considerate heart. keep it up, people might find a true friend and true friendship in you. second, constant practice my friend makes one perfect. so keep on trying to speak and write in English and you will improve soon. God Bless summer!
20 Nov 09
I don't have a criteria when selecting friends, but it takes time for me to develop friendship. A lot of my close friends have told me that I am intimidating at first and it was hard for them to approach me, but as time passes by and they get to know me that's when they don't get intimidated anymore. It takes time for me to develop real closeness I guess. I have a few really close or should we say best friends, but they are really trusted ones and they have been my friends since high school. I guess it does really take time to test friendship and see if it would last.