love and trust

United States
November 20, 2009 1:47pm CST
How do you get the trusting feeling back after someone you love has hurt you? How do you forgive after soo much pain?
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@eddify (413)
• Pakistan
25 Nov 09
I will never be able to get it back EVER!!! It will remain in my mind I might take it to my grae with it. Its really painful, that u love someone from the core of your heart and he walks on u. I will slaute those people who forgive and forget, for me its nearly impossible.
• Philippines
21 Nov 09
For me, it's hard to trust again even the one you love. And there is no-sense to be in a relationship if you know that you can't trust him anymore. But it depends on what kind of mistake he did. I can bring back the trust except when the mistake he did was "cheating".
@bwanna (283)
• United States
21 Nov 09
I need an answer to this as well. I trusted my boyfriend so much, just to find out that he has a girlfriend in another school! He says that they are broken up, and I really really want to believe him, but how can I? I am just too confused right now.
• Philippines
20 Nov 09
its hard for me because im the type of person that once bitten twice shy.. i don't really give another chance to trust him as how much i trusted him before.. maybe because im a lil bit selfish.. i love myself so much and i cant afford to loose my pride and self esteem..once is enough for me to see my worth for him.. If he did it for the 1st time why not on second time.. its good to forgive but it depends on who and what.. maybe you can forgive but things wont be the same anymore.. you be careful..
• United States
20 Nov 09
Personally I don't think you always can. Trust is very fragile and sometimes once its broken it never be repaired. Every situation is different. You can't just look at one thing that happened and decide you don't ever want to trust that person again (unless what they did was really cruel). You should look at their history and how they treat you overall. Decide weather or not this person is worth the effort of even trying to regain trust, because it is definately a task. If you do stay with them you will have to learn to fight the feeling of suspicion. You will find yourself reading into liitle things thinking they may be something else. You have to step out on faith and try to convince yourself that its nothing. Now don't think I'm saying go into denial. If the signs are clear then thats what it is. I just mean that you are going to have to let some things go if you really want to trust again. If you make a big deal out of the things that may seem like something that are really nothing, then that will cause conflict and you will never make any progress. Hope my POV was helpful. Good Luck!
@CRIVAS (1823)
• Canada
20 Nov 09
Well have always found that while it is okay to forgive someone, it is not a good idea to forget what they did in the first place. I personally believe that once trust has been lost, it is very hard to get that trust back. I know that for me it is next to impossible. I believe that trust is a very big part of ANY relationship and once it is lost, it takes a lot of time and patience to earn it back. I also think that it depends on what this person did to break your trust, and how many times they have put you in that situation. I hope that you come to the right choice and that things work out for you in the end. Happy mylotting.
• United States
20 Nov 09
It's a good thing to forgive, to more or less help yourself. But, to go back to them is another question. Will you be hurt again? Can you trust again? Maybe, it better to just go your way, and find a new love. Sometime, the hurting isn't worth the time.