What should I say to my live in boyfriend after 3 days of dissapearing?

United States
November 23, 2009 10:23pm CST
I love this mylot thing we have going on here. You don't know me, and I don't know you. So this means we can be candid and frank with each other. So, my live in boyfriend decided to look at an adult website while I was asleep one night. I get very angry with him because this causes virus on my computer. I break up with him, and then a few days later we get back together and he says he will never do this again. This pattern is repeated about 3 more times. I get very angry and don't trust him around my computer. I end up putting a password on my computer. About six months later we were watching a movie, and I did not want to watch it. It was on the computer. I tell him I will go and taks a short rest, and ask that he wake me up for the next movie. Instead of waking me up, he plays on the computer for the next 4 hours. I get up and tell him off. It turns out he was not looking at bad websites. It still upset me because we never settled this trust issue, and I felt he had no business to be on my computer other than watching the movie I put on. He hasn't been home in three days. He left and told me he was tired of me. HE told me he would call after he had time to think, and he didn't. Goodness, what is wrong with me? How should I handle this when I see him again? Do you think he is going to break up with me? He has never stayed away from home this long. *Sighs*
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@kykidd (6823)
• United States
24 Nov 09
If he really does love you, then he will be back. Sometimes I think we all just need a break. I used to get upset with my boyfriend when he would do this, then he finally quit touching my computer altogether. There is nothing you can say or do that will change things. I know it is hard to trust people sometimes, especially if you have been hurt in the past. I wished I had some advice to give you on what to tell him. But, the only thing I can say is "I'm sorry" is not something that you should say. He should be apologizing to you, because he should have woke you up in the first place like you asked. And then, if he wanted to mess around on the computer, you would have been right there and you wouldn't have been wondering what he was doing on it!
• United States
24 Nov 09
You are right. I also told him once before, that if he wants to look at those sites then he needs to get his own computer and put as many virus on them as he wishes. I am disabled and my computer is my escape sometimes. Right now, I am sad. I dont' know why.
• United States
24 Nov 09
I wonder how long of a time away is too long?
• United States
24 Nov 09
The longer he stays away, the more hurt I am getting. Is this what he wanted? Maybe he just wanted an excuse away from me, or to break up. *sighs*
@PeacefulWmn9 (10424)
• United States
25 Nov 09
If the computer issue bothers you a great deal (I know that it would bother me) tell him, if he comes back, it will be on the condition that he get his own computer and never use yours. I had to do this, and I kept a password lock on mine and still do. It's my work, my living, and I cannot afford to have others messing it up with viruses! Three days isn't truly so long. Perhaps you both need to have a talk about exactly how healthy your relationship is...and if it is truly worth pursuing at all. There are many questions you need to ask yourself, and only you can answer them! Best of wishes, whatever you decide. Karen
• United States
7 Dec 09
We have been broken up now for several days. Thank you.