Do you want to have a GF who is too "powerful"?

@sharryCD (121)
China
November 23, 2009 11:42pm CST
Hi everyone, i have a close friend who is 22 years old. But she has never had a boyfriend yet. To be frank, she is a quite talktive, cute and nice person. All of her friends are quite curious and confused about this. As she is the chairman of her school and the top school in the grade, do you think it has some influences on her love affair? If you a boy, do you like to have a girlfriend who is too "powerful"? Have you also met the similar situation in your life?
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16 responses
• Philippines
24 Nov 09
It's a nice question. For me, it's alright to have a girlfriend who's too powerful. In that way, she can defend herself against villains.(less worry) I want a girl who can control me and can make me calm for the times that I can't control myself. I only accept a powerful girl but not so talkative.
@sharryCD (121)
• China
24 Nov 09
Thanks for your reply. but if you want to find a girlfriend who can control you, what is the role of a girlfriend in your eyes? a mother-like person?
@sharryCD (121)
• China
25 Nov 09
Hi DarkMarixx. The key to change yourself, i think, still depends on yourself. Meanwhile a girl friend may be a motivation or supervisor to help you achieve this goal. Anyhow i do hope you can have such kind of girl in the near future. Have a nice day! :)
• Philippines
24 Nov 09
A wife-like person. I just want a girl who is able to change my emotion in an instant like for an example, I was so depressed about something. I want a woman who can turn it into a happy moment or something else. Just like that^^,
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
24 Nov 09
To have a girlfriend like that is very challenging I think. For me, I like to have a girlfriend like your friend. Even do she is one of the chairman or a councilor if she likes me as boyfriend it my pleasure. Because I believe her position is not a hindrances to be in love with her...Will you introduce me to her?
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
25 Nov 09
We hope so, my friend. Because that kind of girls is really admirable for me. She is great I think. If not shameful to you, my friend. Will you please try to encourage her to be here and make some conversation to her...?
@sharryCD (121)
• China
24 Nov 09
Hi aerous, do you treat her as a challenge for you to overcome? She would be pleased to hear that someone is interested in her, but i am not sure whether she likes this kind of channels to have a new friend. :)
@agv0419 (3022)
• Philippines
24 Nov 09
I think boys are intimidated to her because she is achiever. I think if she is not choosy and her qualifications is not very high she going to find the right guy for her.
@sharryCD (121)
• China
24 Nov 09
According to my understaning, she is not a very picky or choosy person. She just wants to find a right person. but it seems it is difficult for her to do so.
@BART78 (2927)
• Canada
24 Nov 09
hi sharry! i had once a girlfriend back in college, she's has overwhelming personality most of the time we had misunderstanding and we end up badly cause she never let down her ego and pride, but i admit she got beauty and confidence....over confidence..
@sharryCD (121)
• China
24 Nov 09
yes, confident is a good thing, but over confidence is disgusting.
• Indonesia
24 Nov 09
I'm not realy afraid of powerfull or smart girl. But sometime I feel they're unreachable, it look like they're don't realy care about love thing. Maybe that's why, a man would hardly chose her.
@sharryCD (121)
• China
24 Nov 09
Hi Penyarikan, maybe you analysis is correct. since she is busy with her study, work and school things, she doesn't have enough time to take part in social activites or get to know new friends. And moreover, she seldom talks with me about the matter of love affairs.
• Indonesia
26 Nov 09
Maybe you should help her. Try to find someone who can accept her the way she is. I belive many man would interested in her. But something hold them back.
• India
24 Nov 09
'powerful' is not what everybody should see...... if u love her these things should not come to your mind......... If you love her just love her
24 Nov 09
gf must be powerful ...for their selfdepend ...
@Sheepie (3112)
• United States
24 Nov 09
I do think it is common for women with a lot of power to seem intimidating to men. While male doctors and men with other high paying jobs seem attractive, for women it is often the opposite. Even though she is not really a doctor or anything at this point, it is possible that she just is high in status and that might make her seem intimidating. Men want to be the one to make more money in a relationship and be better and stronger and protective. But other men love the opposite. I'm in high school, so I see a very small variety of different guys. I have never had a boyfriend either, and I am annoyed that none of them are up to my standards. Kids my age can be very egoistic and just plain idiots. I'm very tired of them. I think guys have to step it up a bit! I don't think women or girls should have to lower themselves or expect less.
@samawati (140)
24 Nov 09
Things change with time , right now you are experiencing your teen years where power means popularity or celebrity status , in the adult world or post teen years ....power means money and political alignment .... You are too young to let real power and position influence your decisions in life , my advice would be .. just be normal , don't look down on anyone because it's both unfair to them and really dehumanizing. I had friends whom I looked down upon when I was in high-school because I was cute and could get more girls than them , but now some of them are more successful than I am , they have offset the balance and now I am the one they look down upon. Be nice to people , and always remember that no one person is an island , you constantly need other people to get by.
@ronnyb (6113)
• Jamaica
25 Nov 09
I have always heard that women who are too powerfull or too pretty may turn away men who are intimidated by them .I dont think I would be intimidated by a powerfull woman if she doesnt flaunt it in my face and tries to belittle me.I am sure though that your friend should be able to find a man who is more powerfull than her or even less powerfull ,it just a matter of time .I am wondering if it could it be her talkative nature ,that would be a turnoff for me or if she has soem other personality problem
@mylosha (286)
• India
24 Nov 09
may be ur friend have a wrong perspection about love, if she so it is good but it is not normal we have to express our situational feelings and emotion at each and every age or ur friend may have any achivement and resolution with her to be like this. according to u she is quite good.
@monkeylong (3139)
• Guangzhou, China
24 Nov 09
I think the position has some influences on her. As far as I'm concerned, I will not have a girl friend who is just so powerful. I just want myself to be a mowerful than my girl friend which I can be more confident toghter.I n this way, I just want to make a girl friend who is just some weaker than me. Happy mylot.
24 Nov 09
In a relationship I want to be fair..But it is much good if the guy who will handle the relationship.
• Philippines
24 Nov 09
According to most of my friend guy, they most like a girl whom they are more dominant than a girl who is more dominant than them for the reason of keeping their ego as a man. But some static says that it is challenging to a man to have a girl who is more dominant to them, and you know... most guys like challenges...
@Josflch (93)
• Malaysia
24 Nov 09
i do have a gf, but her keep learning to be a more powerful and like to become a leader. Sometime I just think that it is ok to have a powerful gf as long as she is under your control. Friend, stand for your mind if you understand you are right.
• Czech Republic
25 Nov 09
your just weak,...
@zhuhuifen46 (3483)
• China
24 Nov 09
In modern time, girls could be as successful as boys in study and work, but to be a successful lady, she needs to know the taste of most boys. However successful she is, she had better play a proper role in love affairs. When the two are alone by themselves, the boy might accept her "power", but in front of his family members, and his friends, she needs to show adequate respect to her partner. Harmony is the foundation for long term relationship, for which neither party should be too powerful.
@ktosea (2025)
• China
24 Nov 09
I think women by nature are made to nurture, although women can be as good as or even better than men in some fields. But when it comes to the choice on whether a man would like a powerful girl,I guess the answer is no because when it comes to me I would rather choose a girl not too powerful