Which kind of men you choose?
By sasalove
@sasalove (1709)
China
November 24, 2009 1:23am CST
I am on the edge of confusion why the male is not perfect when we would like to choose a husband. My friends told me that I can marry below three kinds of men and no men can reach all the advantage of three. Thus, love is imperfect.
First, the rich men can easily attract the girl though he is ugly and not having a sense of humor.
Second, the men who are having sense of human and cheering you up while you are unhappy can get the girl's heart easily.
Third, the men who takes great paint and effort while they pursuit the girl can touch the girl's heart finally.
I admit that it is true in the standpoint of girl. Now I met the men in the third type, but I am hesitate to get engaged as I am not sure if I love him or lot.
How about you? Which kind of men will attract your attention and you will marry?
Share your thinking here.
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9 responses
@happy2512 (1266)
• Philippines
25 Nov 09
I don't know which type I will suggest to you but only your heart & mind can tell you whom to choose see to it that both of them can agree with one person only. But I prefer to choose the most provider one & hardworking so that when the family is getting bigger they can provide for the needs of the family & I hate to hear them complain about it.
@sasalove (1709)
• China
26 Nov 09
Thanks for your advice. Your opoion is a little like my mum that only if the guy is diligent that we can create our own wealth and live happily if we can get well along with each together.
In the olden times, people can live peafully and happily for the blind date. Hope that fate will love me in this case.
Have a nice day.
@zhuhuifen46 (3483)
• China
25 Nov 09
My niece is very soon to be married. Her former boy friends, as I see, have their respective merits, but she finally settled on the current, who has sense of humor and considerate and tolerant. That might what girls most desire. But when got married, both spouses need to learn a lot to achieve the best harmony.
@sasalove (1709)
• China
26 Nov 09
Yes, Harmony is the most important belief in the marriage. Once the harmony is lost, it is quite hard to maintain the relationship. And most of the girls disire the partner of sense of humor, but marriage is another story compared to love only. We always choose a different way to achieve the harmony.
Have a nice day.
@celebratelifeh (1142)
• China
25 Nov 09
well .yes. that's right and seldom men can posses all of those three mentioned points. also that means most girls are not seeking a perfect men possess wealth.humor and hard to pursuit them at the same time.but if you insit. you may try your lucky.
Have a nice day.
@mac_fish (723)
• China
24 Nov 09
Hi,sa.
Well,if I go back 5 around years,I would reply u as follows:
It's not such a question that U are supposed to choose A,B or C. U should go with ur feelings.
Now,I should say this is a task that worth speculating on it.Whatever,if I were u I will prefer a compromise choose between emotion and utilitarianism for every guy u encounter in reality who maybe gonna to be ur partner.
Michael
@sasalove (1709)
• China
25 Nov 09
Hi Michael,
I know my feelings now that guy is not the right person I loved, but from the utilitarianism, he is the right one that I should choose. From my friends who is married, they advised the most important thing is the bread and milk. Without it, life is questionable for love.
@echostone542 (53)
• China
25 Nov 09
the one who can fit you is the Mr. right. don't pay your attention to other factors too much. just to see if your faith is identical, your attitude toward the world, toward life. If you are still not sure if you love him, just left him for a while, I mean, have a journey, see if you miss him. that's the most simple way :)
@katykicker (231)
•
24 Nov 09
Well I am already engaged to be married so I know the man I have already and he has certainly attracted my attention.
We do not have riches but we have each other and that is what makes us happy and gets us through the long days and hard times.
My fiance is a wonderfully funny and intelligent man and he is always there to pick me up when I feel blue or to talk to me about anything that is bothering me and we never have arguments which just goes to show how well we get on as I am quite a moody person normally.
@sasalove (1709)
• China
25 Nov 09
Hi Katykicker,
I am pleased to hear that you have a finace who love you and you love him as well. It is true that if you love each other, you both can conquer a lot of things though you are not very rich.
For me, he is not rich and I know that he is a good husband in the future and loyalty is for sure. My friends always advised that it is enough if I would like to find a husband. I am confused. I don't know whehther I can go through if there is argument in the following plain life.
@advokatku (4033)
• Indonesia
24 Nov 09
as a male of real, I can only answer, look for a male who would become your spouse based a trust your own conscience. Do not be too much set criteria for a male, because whatever the nature and form, a male remains a male, which distinguishes only the fate ....
@sasalove (1709)
• China
25 Nov 09
Thanks for your advice, I would like to follow my heart, but the criteria has been set in the heart deeply, which I could not control it. I know that man is human being like me, but he should shouder much responsibility of life once marriage. If If you asked me to base a trust of my own conscience, I'd like to say he is not the person that I loved. It is contradicted to make a decision as we should be more sense towards the option.
@CathyLee2009 (429)
• China
24 Nov 09
hi,sasalove!
if I had to choose one,I will choose the second one.though actually I don't like the second very much,it obviously much better than the first one and the last one.
a sense of humor adds a great charm to a man,even if he is a very ordinary person without much money.I don't want to marry a sullen ugly rich man...
on the other hand,a handsome guy with a good sense of humor is not necessary a good partner.maybe he is attractive to too many woman so it's hard for him to be a faithful lover.
so why not broaden your selections?
have a nice day!
@sasalove (1709)
• China
25 Nov 09
Hi Cathy,
You got my point, I know that I would like to have the man with sense of humor as life will be different with his funny attitude towards life. But in my deep heart, another invoice alerted me that I should not choose that kinds of man as he is easily to coax the other girl as well.
I will feel safe if my another part is not so outstanding. I am not the age of early twenty that I can have a lot of option. Most of the guy prefer to choose a younger girl to be wife. Thus, I think I did not have the venture to choose the type of man I would like as time can not wait.
Have a nice day too.
