Do you think there is limit on giving forgiveness?

Philippines
November 27, 2009 11:53pm CST
There are people who can easily give forgiveness of the person who done wrong for couple of times. While others can't seem to forgive. Well regardless of the mistakes and wrong that the person done to you. How many times would you able to forgive? Should in giving forgiveness has limits? For me, I can forgive the person if he/she done mistakes for a couple times, as long as the mistakes is not the same. But if he/she done wrong twice or thrice with the same thing, then it could be hard for me to forgive. How about you?
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14 responses
• Philippines
28 Nov 09
Hello There Care,... I agree with you... It depends on the mistakes that person did. It depends as well as to the situation that happened and how you will feel about it... We are not really sure about the limit because time heals all wounds so if time comes your that your old and our hair's gray and we are not sure if today's the last day of our lives don't we think of forgiveness?... we are only humans if God can forgive why can't we?.. Right?... take care...
@levite (1062)
• Philippines
28 Nov 09
I don't somewhat agree with you in the area that "time heals all wounds." I have experienced and proven that it is not time that heals the wounds but reconciliation, forgiveness and love. Cheers. Good day.
• Philippines
28 Nov 09
Yeah, If god can forgive then why can't we? It's only possible to forgive those grievous sin that other people done to us through God. Since God is love and forgiveness. Yeah, I agree with levite, time can't heal the wounds, it's only through reconciliation and forgiveness. We can't forget what the person did to us because it's already in our mind. As you said time heals the wounds, there comes the time when we just don't recall what the person did to us and that's possible. Anyway thank you for always sharing with us loverica and enjoy your weekends!
@flower21 (766)
• Philippines
29 Nov 09
yup and forgiveness could only be obtain if the sin is absolutely you could forget with your mind and hearts fully accept it. then pretension exist if you say you forgive when in fact ther still hatred just for a show you say you forgive when in act it is not true.
• Philippines
29 Nov 09
I think you can't forget what the person did to you. You just don't recall it. When you fully and truly forgive someone you will rarely recall what the pain and time comes when you just don't remember to think about it. Forgiveness should be from the heart and not from words. Because if not, then it's a lie, and you're just fooling your self. Forgiveness could be easy through our faith in Christ. We can't do it by our own self and strength. We're are just human, we need God, because God is love and forgiveness. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your weekends!
@ronnyb (6119)
• Jamaica
29 Nov 09
Well this was question asked in the bible and from Jesus's response it would seem that there is no limit on forgiveness because that is how our heavenly father forgives ue .I dont know if I had that kind of patience though even though I would love to but I cant see myself forgiving someone who deliberately tries to hurt me again and again
• Philippines
29 Nov 09
Yeah, it's really hard to forgive someone who deliberately hurt us for many times. But through Christ we can forgive. Because in Jesus Christ everything is possible. If we let Christ live into our heart, forgiveness is possible. Because it's not we who forgive but rather it's Christ. That's the gift of faith and the fruit is forgiveness. Holding grudges and pain keep us from moving and growing. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your weekends!
• United States
28 Nov 09
Hi careguarden, I know most people say this but its true, it depends on the situation. BUT for me, its different. If you throw a water bottle at my head, I do it back. You may call me violent but I only do this with close relatives and I try to miss on purpose so the laugh goes on. Somebody I know, he go into an accident with a drunk driver, went to the hospital for a few das and the same driver went to him and apligized. My friend forgave and that was the end of it.
• Philippines
29 Nov 09
Yeah, what your friend did was right. Forgiveness put an end to every negative feelings and emotions,it unload unnecessary burden that weigh us down as we journey our life. We all need to always forgive, it's a challenged that we always face each day of our life. It's inevitable to do wrong, but we should always remember to forgive. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your weekends!
• United States
28 Nov 09
yes there is. when the other party trash talks and outright lies when they're angry. i can forgive just about anything else,but blowing it back at me,we're done. there's no longer a point in trying.
• Philippines
29 Nov 09
Yeah, it could be very hard. But there's one thing you must always remember. If what you did and the decision that you made makes you feel happy or bad? You should always do what makes you felt good. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
@leafsound (350)
• China
28 Nov 09
Forgiveness is limited. You may forgive your friends and good person, because you forgiving others is forgiving yourself. It is possible to make mistakes for every one. Only you are kind to others, and others will do like you. But you should not forgive bad people. Bad will not correct his mistake. Even if you continue to forgive them, they will continue to make mistakes.
• Philippines
28 Nov 09
I think in my point of view. Giving forgiveness should be unlimited. It was like continue of loving other people. And in giving forgiveness there should always be prayer, so it would be possible for the person to realized her/his mistakes. Because in God everything is possible. Unlike in our human thinking, as we always think there is limitations. The world need love as much as forgiveness. It will our self free and make others happy. Although it's really hard to forgive but it's possible. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your weekends!
@iceydon (342)
• Philippines
28 Nov 09
I think I can forgive as long as I'm not seeing same mistakes again and again. There are people who are so used to asking sorry for things done wrong yet there are no efforts to get away from it. They will keep on doing it if we would allow them on repeating.
• Philippines
28 Nov 09
There are some people who always makes the same mistakes. But we can prevent them from doing so by staying away from them, not on giving them forgiveness. Because by doing so, we hold the pain and we let them hurt us which is not good for our self as we journey in this life. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your weekends!
• United States
28 Nov 09
I think one time is enough especially if its something very serious, smaller issues that really arent hurtful or harmful are occassions where you can forgive more than once but if its something you feel so strong about that you cant well that's how its going to have to be. You can only take so much as a human being and people especially friends and family shouldnt take advantage of anyone's willingness to forvive. So small dumb stuff multiple times, Serious issues one time.
• Philippines
28 Nov 09
Yeah, we're just human being. And giving forgiveness would not be easy. But it is really necessary in our life. We should always remember that giving forgiveness set us free from the unnecessary baggage's that weigh us down as we journey our life. No matter how small or serious the hurt that the person cause to us, we should learn to forgive and no matter how many times the person done us wrong. We should learn the art of forgiveness, as it's part of our life. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your weekends!
@Hvaniday1 (550)
• Malaysia
29 Nov 09
Yeah...What you mentioned here is true and it can't be forgive when they repeat the same mistakes. So, what are you going to do when they did the same mistake? Yell at them, scold them or would you tell them they have did a mistake. Why not share your view? Happy Mylotting.
@happy6162 (3011)
• United States
29 Nov 09
Most people have a limit on how many times they are going to forgive a person for doing something wrong over and over again. If it is a family member we seem to forgive them more times then if a friend does something wrong over and over again. I tend to forgive more than I should but I do have a limit and after a while will just decide it is not worth forgiving them because they will just do it again.
@levite (1062)
• Philippines
28 Nov 09
This is somewhat hard to answer especially when we put this in practice because of the hurt inside us a particular person(s) did to us. There are people who repeatedly do the same mistakes over and over. Why? Because they never learn from it. If we only look at the "hurts" the person(s) did to us we may not even forgive because we felt we are the loser when we forgive. As an ordinary person with weaknesses, it is truly hard to forgive especially if I'm hurt badly by a person specially if he is close to me. But I cannot move on if I choose not to forgive because it will always bug my conscience everytime I recall what he did to me. It is easy to forgive and forget those little things but harder those "bigger" things. You know what I mean. Thats' why I need someone who can help me to forgive, that is Jesus because He alreay experienced what I am experiencing. Without Him forgiveness is impossible because the person may repeat what he had done. I don't want to let the person not learn his mistake but, on the other hand, I don't want to be imprisoned by anger, bitterness or resentment (I don't want to grow old early, huh! ). Through Jesus, I will choose to forgive because I am the one who will firstly benefit. I have realized in life that forgiveness is not something you do for others but for yourself. Remember not all persons who hurt us repent and are sorry for his sins. So choosing to forgive (with God's help) is setting us free from ill feelings and all the hurts. Hope this helps...
• India
28 Nov 09
There is always a limit to everything. We should not test a person's patience too much. We can forgive and forget once or twice but cannot carry on letting someone do something wrong endlessly.In fact it depends on the nature of the wrong committed whether the person committing it should be forgiven at all.For example we cannot condone someone for committing willful murder can we?
@ckyera (17261)
• Philippines
28 Nov 09
hello careguarden... forgiveness don't come that easy specially when we really get hurt and when the offense made is already redundant... as for me, i can forgive but it will take time for me to forget... as to your question if there's a limit on giving forgiveness i think, there should be no limit on it...forgive so that you will be forgiven... let me share this passage from the bible... [i]matthew 18:21-22 (nkjv) Then Peter came to Him and said, "Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? Up to seven times?" Jesus said to him, "I do not say to you, up to seven times, but up to seventy times seven.[/i] so i guess, there should be no limit in giving forgiveness...but i know its not easy... have a good day!
@picjim (3003)
• India
28 Nov 09
Its definitely hard to keep on forgiving habitual offenders.Its good to forgive and forget but if the person errs repeatedly its irritating to say the least.Small mistakes can be forgiven but serious mistakes with disastrous consequences can't be easily forgiven.I can forgive in small matters but at work or places the mistakes have lead to dire consequences i can't forgive beyond a couple of times.