What is the thing here?

In my opinion I would think that if a person was to do like that they were never a friend. That maybe they were using the person for something and never paid enough attention to the person's personality to know otherwise what a person would or wouldn't do or say. Maybe it's a tactic to get rid of the person after their done using them for whatever it was their purpose was. That's my opinion, not sure if it's really true or not but to me it seems like a person who doesn't know that much about you wasn't a true friend, or was only using you and doesn't need you anymore.

all sorts of reasons i think - jealousy, paranoia, anger. think your friend has problems of some kind but they are not yours. probably the way they were to you before wasn't a put on but this person has lost the plot for some reason or other

Well I would think I would have to watch thier face and eyes to see if they truely mean it. REpeatedly thru the years is good if they make you truely beleive what they say. Adn not a very good friend if they astab you in the back later!

I have haved this done to me, sadly it was done by the same person many times and it took me many times to learn this and realise and actually get rid of the so called friend for good. Mine happened over quite a few years, far too long ot go into real details, but we did break friends quite a few times, last time was for about three/four years and then I let her back into my life as my so called best friend again and within a few years she was doing it again. When my hubby and I decided to move away from the city we lived it her visits/phone calls got fewer and fewer as she wasn't getting the gossip to pass around and she knew once we moved things would all be different. Wish I had learnt sooner, haven't been freinds with her for about 10 years now or heard from her. I vowed that I would never get in that situation again, but did so again about four years ago with a new friend, who is no longer a freind. Now I don't do best freinds. I think people do this because they are jealous of what the other person has, I don't think I had anything special in my life so don't know why they did these things, put myself out for them, bended over backwards ot help them etc. Its a very strange world, I'll just have hubby and my three children who live at home, all I really need.

Unfortunately for me I have actually experienced that. Some people aren't what they look like at first, and they really excel at putting a mask over their faces so you won't notice until the very last minute. Some people just has no morals, or they just never liked you from the beginning but never said so.

because thier buttheads. a true friend no matter how long you've known then would never do such a thing. but then this day and age people are only looking out for themselves and forget the rest of the world, it's a selfish world we live in these days. if you can't trust your "friends" to believe in you then they must not be good enogh for you.

pft..fame will do it a lot. sometimes it's showing off to a new friend that they think will get them more in life than you could. at any rate,it usually comes back to bite them in the butt.

It's a sad thing that people do this but there are several reasons that I have pondered on to figure this thing you speak of out. Some people..although they show affection and maybe even feel it, have an underlying jealousy. It often grows over time and when they put their sights on a way to make them feel "superior" they jump on it. Meaning that they try to make the victem of their strange affections feel as bad as possible. Discredit them per say. Most of the time they are embarrassed by their act and often avoid the person they have done this to. Demented is a pretty good word for it. They often times even think of a silly way that they can say you have wronged them just to excuse their actions.I can not tell you the times I have experienced this and seen my highschool daughter beginning to go through some of these drama type situations with friends at school.