Does age really matter when you are in love?

Philippines
December 6, 2009 1:04pm CST
Now a days, men and woman tend to fall in love to those who are older or younger than them. They are not thinking what other people might say or comment. There are times, the age gap is quite far to each other. Hence the relationship is fine. However, this scenario is very minimal. What happen mostly is, if the age gap is quite far from the other, the level of maturity is also affected. That they think differently and the approach to the idea is sometimes opposite. Thus, even they love each other so much, they will end up having an argument. Inspite all of these, people tend to fall in love even the other one is older. How about you, do you agree with this - does age really matter when you are in love? Or age does not matter as long as you love each other?
18 responses
@kelly10 (678)
6 Dec 09
Well my boyfriend is 19 years older then me and it is not a problem at all. Age is only a number. I think that most of the problems that can happen in a relationship with a big age gap are acutally caused by outside influences, ie friends and family. If your happy then go with it, regardless of the age gap. My boyfriend is younger minded. I don't mean immature but someone who has kept up with the trends and has a younger outlook on life.
• India
7 Dec 09
Yup actually it should not mattr, but u wanna live in sociaty like india you actually needs to think abt it....
• India
7 Dec 09
Yup actually it should not mattr, but u wanna live in sociaty like india you actually needs to think abt it....
• India
7 Dec 09
Yup actually it should not mattr, but u wanna live in sociaty like india you actually needs to think abt it....
• India
16 Dec 09
no age does not matter in LOVE..love is not happen after seeing the age of the other person..so it is not necessary to fall in love after know each other Age
@ersmommy1 (12600)
• United States
7 Dec 09
Love is hard enough to find. And sometimes harder to keep. What matters are feelings, not the age of someone. It is just a number.
@Genericbe (1378)
• Philippines
7 Dec 09
It is by preferences of the person who will engage in a relationship. But for me, Age should not matter in love, because if two people in love have age gaps but are able to adjust themselves just to continue the love they have? IT does not matter at all.. Though having age gap in a relationship might bring many conflicts, It depends to them how they will solve the problems and other relevant factors affecting them.. There are other people preferred older partners for they see that, they have the maturity they wanted in a partner but sometimes, one will suffer from all the inhibitions of enjoyments, one must adjust and give way to avoid conflicts.. Generally, Love does not choose, as long you feel it and the importance of that person to you, no matter of the age, many things can be compromised and settled for the sake of love to grow more..
@vijayanths (7878)
• India
7 Dec 09
Age does not matter much if you are young. It matters when you grow old. Still, I would say if both the man and woman are matured enough, then age can never be a problem at all.
@hestylim (1211)
• Indonesia
7 Dec 09
For me, age really has nothing to do with love. When you love someone, no matter how old or how young a man could be, it will not affect anything. Since, as we all know, but not all of us realize, that age is just a matter of number. People tend to say, when you are with someone older than you, his thought will be much more wiser. And instead, when you are with someone younger, you must be able to handle his childish thought and behavior. Well, what I know is, not every adult has wiser thought, not every adult make good example for the youngster. I know who is older than me eleven to twelve years old. While, I am now is 23 years old. So, that someone might be 34 or 35 years old now, and all I can say is, this adult is not mature enough to be called as an adult. Why? He just didn't act as if he was one of the adults out there. He didn't respect the girls around him, while I know, an adult man, always know how to treat and respect a woman.Instead, there are also people who are still young, know how to treat a woman the way it should be. We can't judge someone by the age. When you are ready to open your heart for someone, when you are ready to love. Age really doesn't matter as long as we can get along with each other.
• India
7 Dec 09
i think so its not a matter now a days i,e, in this 21st century its not a matter at all.......people now fall in love in their late 40's now.........
@missweety (628)
• Latvia
7 Dec 09
Hello! I think age matters when there is a really big gap between. I my mind big gap starts with 20 and more. As in my country is was a very common to get a baby at age 18 then imagine that you are dating a person who is in your father or mother age...I think it is agins nature rules...maybe you could thinks that it is love but later on your interests will differ a lot and then you will have to prove your love which will not be easy at all. That's my opinion. Have a great day!
• Spain
7 Dec 09
a while back I read a news article about a 40 year old female (his teacher) dating a 17 year old boy. This case obviously pulled a load of controversial comments. I wonder is the comments would be the same if the sexes were switched, since in most circumstances the male is older than the women. No, I don´t think age matters when it comes to falling in love, but I see it this way if you really love that person let them go and live their life fully. Im saying that if you are like 40 and are with a little 17 year old boy or girl, imagine what would it be in a few years from there? how about when it comes to procreating? There are several issues that must be understood and therefore looked after. But if the age difference is not as exaggerated, then it should not matter.
• Romania
7 Dec 09
now it dose noth matter age when you are trully in love but at some cases you have t be an idiot to not realize that a grandpa at 88 years old maried a girl at 22 years old that is noth love :P
• China
7 Dec 09
hi,airasheila,i can receive my boyfriend older than me,that is 3 years,over 3 years i cannot receive.maybe for someone,age is not real a problem,but for me ,it's not.younger than me i real want to receive,because i will regard it to be my younger brother,not lover.
@sagnik42 (3598)
• India
7 Dec 09
Love, affection and respect are the things that bind a relationship. Age does not matter in a relationship. Love is the most important criteria. Then there is affection for the other and respect for him/her. That is what makes a good relationship.
@anyket (106)
• India
7 Dec 09
Age differences in relationships have long been the victim of public scrutiny,deeming the older male as a pervert, and the older female as a cougar. Dependent on just how severe the age difference is can determine how people perceive you and your entire relationship.If there is an age difference, there mustbe a motive behind the coupling, right? We assume the woman just wants a baby before her time runs out or the man wants to feel young again. Love isn’t age-specific, and you can’t choose who you fall in love with. Your parents and friends might have some concerns about the intentions of the older, and thus dominant person, but you don’t have to prove yourself to anybody. If you don’t see a problem with picking your girlfriend up from school, or taking your boyfriend back to his nursing home after a date, then nobody else should either. It’s all individual to the relationship, and whilst it may be the butt of some people’s jokes, they’re generally the people who are jealous and unhappy with going through a mid-life crisis at the same time as their partner – that’s got to be stressful.
@EARLZHAN (934)
• Philippines
7 Dec 09
Well for me age doesn't matter. As long as the couple love each other and they enjoy life together it's okay..
@iskayz (5422)
• Philippines
7 Dec 09
Hi there! In my opinion there is no rule when it comes to falling in love, as long as the relationship is legal, no other party gets hurt, then there is nothing wrong with May-December relationships. There are a lot of bigger age gaps relationships nowadays and society has accepted the fact that such kind of relationship is just as normal as any other relationships. It is not a fad or something that has developed throughout the years but it is just about people falling in love. Love has no boundaries. The heart does not choose to whom we should fall in love but it just comes like magic and sometimes when we are in love we tend not to mind about everything else but the person we are falling in love with and accept everything there is about the person we love. Ciao!
• Philippines
7 Dec 09
age doesnt matter. but it is love that really matters and compatibility is what matters also...u want to be with someone whom you love and your relationship will last because of mutual love and you agree to the matters in your married life..
@mistlady (114)
• India
7 Dec 09
I think that age does not matter as long as you love and understand each other. I know men who have been married to women five or six years older and still have a happy marriage. However some people find it difficult to adjust if there is a low level of understanding between them.In their case I think, it is necessary that they be with people their own age. Initially it feel good to be with a person who is much younger or older to you. But going steady I feel requires a lot of understanding on the part of both the partners.
• Philippines
7 Dec 09
hey airasheila.. for me age is just a number.. heck, i dont care what people say.. what matters is what you think.. it doesnt really matter what people say.. they just say it to bring you down.. well i say if you really love the guy no matter how old he is then go for it.. love has no boundaries and no limits.. love is a gift.. so i say you give it back when someone gives it to you.. not unless you dont love him then dont force yourself to do so.. lol