working on a baby :)

Croatia (Hrvatska)
December 14, 2009 8:32pm CST
How long did it take for u to "make" a baby ? Was it planed? We are hoping that we will soon have a new member in our family but its been like 2 months now and still nothing.. Im ok with it, not rushing into anything , but my wife gets real sad and disapointed. Im getting scared that the problem may be in me..
8 responses
@zalilame (880)
• Malaysia
15 Dec 09
Don't worry too much. Two months were nothing. I used to wait for 2 years before I had my first baby. I had to bear to my bad tempered husband for two years but when my baby was born, its a miracle. My husband temper completely vanished and I am falling in love with him. He could not stop saying that he loves me.
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• Croatia (Hrvatska)
15 Dec 09
You know what they say; Nothing connects two people mora than a baby :) Im glad u sorted out things with your husband and hope it stays that way. Cheers
• Indonesia
15 Dec 09
mother and baby - cute baby with his mother
Aww don't worry about it, still 2 months, right? Well it actually takes about one year for a healthy couple to conceive, so don't stress about it yet. We wanted a baby since the first day we got married. But God made us wait, and I fell pregnant at the 9th month of trying. Oh, and she'll be here in two weeks yay! So, yes, I'm now heavily pregnant and can pop my baby any day LOL. Your baby will come when the times is right, trust me!Have both of you tried charting? make sure you both do your "baby dance" on her fertile days! Good luck to you!
• Indonesia
15 Dec 09
Well, I didn't chart myself either anyway. It will help to find out her ovulation days by keeping tract of her body basal temperature. When her temperature spikes, that's when she is ovulating (fertile days, time to baby dance!) But it is not interesting and it will reduce the "fun". You know the best way to try for a baby is actually when you stop trying because by that, both of you will be more relaxed. Wish you all the best!
• Croatia (Hrvatska)
15 Dec 09
Thanks alwayzzcitra! U dure did make me laugh with that "baby dance" exp. :) We sure will try! and about charting, well i dont realy understand how to.. I wish u luck with your pregnancy, hope ull have a butiful healthy baby !
@ravinskye (8237)
• United States
15 Dec 09
After two months I don't think you have to worry just yet. I think that I've heard that if after trying for a year and you still don't get pregnant that you should go see a doctor to get checked. Don't stress about it. You always hear stories of couples who try for years, adopt then all the sudden get pregnant when the pressure is off. My husband and I got pregnant with our first about 6 months after we got married. It wasn't planned but we were happy about it. I wish you the best of luck.
• Croatia (Hrvatska)
15 Dec 09
Thank you for your wishes. I believe time will tell best on how and when, but its still bugs me a bit.
@zalilame (880)
• Malaysia
16 Dec 09
LOL. Thank you. I just had a dinner with him last night.
@Flight84 (3048)
• United States
19 Jan 10
My husband and I tried off and on for about two+ years. I started getting so upset and stressed each month that went by and I wasn't pregnant. My friends were pregnant or already had babies and I felt so left out. One day I remember thinking that I was just going to give up and let it happen. I got pregnant that month by surprise and we're not expecting our first baby in June. It's hard not getting the baby fever and I always got frustrated with people telling me it would happen when it was my time, but relaxing helps tremendously. Good luck to you guys!
• United States
24 Dec 09
With my first two pregnancies, they were both unplanned. The third took us four years. I think mostly you just need to relax and not worry about it. If you get anxious about it, it'll just take a lot longer.
@myramae19 (667)
• Philippines
30 Dec 09
hi there. 2 months is just a very short period of trying,.. my sister been married for 10 years and never gt a chance to have a baby.but still they're patiently waiting and really hoping for a baby., Do not pressure yourselves too much, try to be more relax, and always think positive.
@maximax8 (31053)
• United Kingdom
17 Dec 09
I know that being relaxed and happy can help a couple conceive a baby. If the lady feels stressed she is unlikely to get pregnant. The most fertile time for a lady with a 28 day cycle would be around day 14. It helps to try on alternate days like with a 28 day cycle on days 8, 10, 12, 14 and 16 one month. Then the next month try on day2 9, 11, 13 and 15. It can take a healthy couple 12 months to conceive. I know people that have given up trying then they have got pregnant. I have two sons and a daughter. Good luck.
@judelen (428)
• Philippines
16 Dec 09
Hello! Two months is just still a very short time to wait. You know i'm lucky that i've got pregnant immediately after we got married. But it takes 5 years to have the second baby. Just relax have fun because, anyway you just got newly wed. You know, I have a friend it took them 10 years to have a baby. Baby is a gift from God, so only He can do it when will be ready to have a child in his exact time. So just enjoy your company and pray for a baby, i'm sure God will give that baby to you in his time.