sometimes life need lie !
December 18, 2009 6:05am CST
i find that my little sister's illness get better and better,because of mental problem,she have to stop lesson and come back home for a rest.during her illness,she have find the job,but nobody can give her chance,at the same time she thought that she regret that my father and spend lots of money and is disable for the life,so she despressed and sucide several occasion,but my father hope her get well,my father found this boss who manage orchard and request him hire my little sister,at first,he agree,but my father talked to him the truth,he change his mind and talked to my little sister,he emply her next spring.my father understand boss's meaning and not talk the truth to her.he alwayse talked to my little sister,she can earn money to live depending herself,so she was happy and think that she could have a job at next spring and could not live depending my father,she start to accept doctor's treatment and read the book very day,now she get well quickly,my father still keep this lie and give her hope of life,i find that sometimes life need lie,let them feel life well and make effort for it.do you think like that or not?everybody have different experience,whether do i share views with you?
18 Dec 09
hello bingchen, i am a mother myself,i can fully understand about your father's lie and decision to lie.He was left with no choice but that lieing is the only remedy he knows to save your little sister. Let's just hope things will be better soon. Have a nice weekend friend
21 Dec 09
If a lie can avoid hurt,it is not lie but a kind of love. I can understand your father's feeling. Your sister gets better and it proves what i have said. And your father also need your support because sometimes it is too hard to make a 'love'lie.Everything will be ok soon with you all nice family. Happy mylotting!
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18 Dec 09
I agree with you. Sometimes in our lives, we just can't tell someone everything. We have to keep some things secret in order to keep them safe and such. We want to protect them because we never know what could happen if we say the wrong things to them. So, I understand what you mean when sometimes we just have to lie. In your case, I think it was okay to keep the secret from your sister and not tell her, but I would still be careful about all of it. I think that some secrets are okay to keep, but not too many of them, otherwise it'll backfire. I think especially in your sister's case, it will be okay as long as you don't keep a ton more secrets from her.
19 Dec 09
Yeah it is true that life is not so easy that it seems to. I appreciate the role of your father regarding your little sis. People around the world does not have the willingness to think out of the box. May be they haven't the capabilities. What does it costs if a single life changes the meaning of life? May be nothing but it brings great joys to other. If lies does any fair better then i am always with that decision.
19 Dec 09
Well, it's all because some people are prefer to be lied than know the truth. And so, your statement of "sometimes life need lie" become true. Many people I know prefer to not know the truth. They said like this "If knowing the truth make my heart break, and without knowing the truth we can still be fine together, why should I know the truth. Let it be like this.". I personally don't like this. For me, if there is a truth then it should be said right away instead of giving chance for another lie. Remember the old saying "one lie leads to a bigger lie"? But you know, as your experience on life increased, you will know when to say the truth directly and when to say the truth slowly, and even when to lie! Regards.
18 Dec 09
Yes. I believe that sometimes it is necessary in our life to lie. If the lie is for the good, it is quite ok. I know a friend who had a psycological problem. She took treatement and with medicine she got cured. Now she is doing a job and earning very well. When she applied for a job she did not tell her boss about the treatment or her past illness. She was appointed and now she is doing very well in her work as well as her relationships. So even if we do not lie everytime, it is not necessary to reveal everything.
18 Dec 09
Yes life needs lie .and lie which is doing some goodness is 101% greater than a truth.By kiling some one or by hurting someone telling a truth its better we say a lie which is helping the person recover from the situation.however lie cant stand for ever.Truth comes out like fire.then we should be ready to handle the situation.