He is not yet ready to settle down...

Philippines
December 21, 2009 11:26pm CST
I was listening to what my boyfriend and his friends talked about last night and they were talking about getting married. Of course, his friends are already aware that we are living together for quite long time. I was just a little hurt when my boyfriend said that he is not yet ready to settle down because we are not yet stable. He still wanted to have our own, beautiful house before marriage. Well, I understand his point but as a woman, I also want to get married as early as possible to make it legal for both of us. What can you say about it? I would like to hear your opinion about this guys. thanks a lot.
6 responses
@maria1081 (1252)
• Philippines
22 Dec 09
How come he is not ready to settle down when you are living in together for a long time now? What difference will it make if you marry now and have the beautiful house later? What if the house will be materialize in 10 years from now? Would you still wait that long? Marriage for a woman is security, but before engaging to a lifetime commitment make sure you can stand for your decision. Maybe you should find time in pursuing marriage when your partner is in good mood. But also give him enough time and space to think about it. Goodluck and Godbless.
• Philippines
22 Dec 09
Yes, that is exactly my point. We've been living together for how many years and I wonder why he said he is not yet ready to settle down. He always tell me every time we have an argument, why am I so insecure? Where in fact, he should be the one to know the reason why. Thanks for understanding and thanks for your comment.
@magtibaygom (4865)
• Philippines
5 Jan 10
I think you need to talk with him about it. But exercise tactfulness in doing so. Have an intimate discussion with him. Bring it out. You have the right to make him know what you feel. But be careful. Remember tactfulness.
@pillow08 (98)
• Philippines
23 Dec 09
Maria was right, what difference would it make if you marry? After all, you've been living together for a long time. If by "stable", he means you can't afford to raise a child yet, then you can marry and not have babies for the mean time. May be he's not emotionally or mentally prepared? May be you need not rush? I know it would give you a sense of security, but what matters in the end is that the relationship will last. Getting married is just like making what you already have right now official, it's just a title. I sure hope it will be worth the wait though. Discuss how you feel with your partner without making him feel pressured.
@bingchen (1126)
• China
22 Dec 09
i can understand your mind,every woman hope that she have stable home,this is good mind,you should talk with your boyfriend and express your mind,i think that it is necessary for you and your boyfriend to certificate your relationship and your future.
• United States
22 Dec 09
getting married is a big step. think about it for a little while. sometimes you never know.
@rene12 (797)
• Philippines
22 Dec 09
If he is thinking about getting a house first, shouldn't you be happy? He is already preparing for your futures thus making a family after marriage. Things shoudn't be rushed. For now, cheer up coz he is assuring your future with his plan :D