Im having an issue with my daughters boyfriends!

United States
December 22, 2009 2:23pm CST
I im happy my daughters have found people that they feel make them both happy. My problem is with the up coming holidays each my daughters boyfriends dont get along in the same room for more than about 3 seconds. The constant arguing irritates me, They are young adults but still they are a adults and i dont see why they have to fight like 2 year olds. I dont want to step in the middle of this because then im going to end up fighting with my daughters because each of them will defend the boyfriend they are with. Ughhhhhhhhhhhhhhh just wish everone could get along.
4 responses
@winterose (39918)
• Canada
23 Dec 09
I had that problem once with my son and his girlfriend always arguing and fighting I told them a month in advance, when christmas came I wanted no fighting this was my christmas and if they wanted to argue and fight they could go out on the street and do it or go and ruin somebody else\s christmas and not mine. It worked they didn't fight on christmas lol
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• United States
28 Dec 09
I agree i think its totally disrespectful to have fighting in your home. If they want to act like they big and bad then take it some place else dont ruin other peoples day.
@cobradene (1171)
• India
22 Dec 09
My suggestion would be not to bother too much. It's not a serious issue at all. These are the growing years and they will learn with time. But you can suggest your daughter in a subtle way, not directly. Maybe by talking about yourself in similar situations or talking to someone else when your daughter is present, about something, which could give her a subtle hint, but not too obvious that you are pointing at her. There are many ways of letting them know, so they can learn how to work things out for the better.
• United States
23 Dec 09
I agree I can,t be to controling with my daughters about their boyfriends. If i voice how i feel to much I will only push them further away. Its not easy but im finding creative ways of dealing with this. Thanks for your advice just hearing from other people about it helps.
@bunnybon7 (36490)
• Holiday, Florida
29 Dec 09
as long as they dont fight physically it should be all right. maybe some way you could keep them from being alone in a room together. could it be your daughters kind of argue? if they could both just talk to their own boyfriend to try and get along at least over holiday it would be nice. so sorry. hope they got along xmas and will for the others.
@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
28 Dec 09
This is what you do with a situation like this. Step in between both guys and point to one and say "I like you" and turn to the other and say "And I like you" and then look at both of them by going back and forth and say "I'm tired of all the arguing and bickering. Enough is enough. This is my holiday to enjoy my family so either stop this childish behavior or leave. It's up to you for I'm not taking sides because it's plain childish." and leave it at that. You can do the same thing on a regular day too. To hell with what your daughters think! It's your sanity that's being picked and enough is enough.