Have you been vastly affected by you mistake?
By vycess
@vycess (1588)
Saudi Arabia
December 23, 2009 3:00am CST
I have problem regarding the mistake I had done. It was a terrible mistake. It affected my life, my self esteem. Now, I'm about to make a decision in my life which I don't know exactly if it will be good for me or not. Will you come back to a place where in you did a terrible mistake and some people know that situation occurred? How will you answer questions regarding your sudden disappearance and how will you face those people who will judge you from what happened? Now, Will you comeback to that place or just find some other work place?
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4 responses
@srganesh (6340)
• India
23 Dec 09
We are all just humans and doing something wrong is natural.Do you want to run away from that place where you had done something wrong?No!Don't be a coward.Just accept what you have done and remain there,trying to do things correctly the next time.That is the real spirit to face life.Have guts!
@srganesh (6340)
• India
23 Dec 09
I just read your comment to the previous response.If I understand correctly,are you a doctor or a medical student?Have you mistakenly done something so that a life is affected by you?What is that guilt driving you?If you can openly discuss,we can give exact ideas.Don't forget that every problem has a solution.
@cobradene (1171)
• India
23 Dec 09
I have been in such situations, and I have never gone back to that place whatsoever. I have been affected by those mistakes, and in fact it wasn't my mistake at all. It was made to look as if it was my mistake, because, somebody else messed up with me, and I complained for it. But, now he was employed by those people, and it was a responsibility of the whole management now to see to it that their employees don't make any mistakes or misbehave with their guests, and yes, this guy misbehaved. But due to the fear of the management losing their jobs, they made me feel embarrassed and I had to leave the place. I would never go back to such places ever again.
@vycess (1588)
• Saudi Arabia
23 Dec 09
it's sad... Well, I guess it made you more stronger. But My situation seem different from yours. Because it's like we are not allowed to make mistake because a person's life is in our hand. It is difficult, our profession is really serious and Any little mistake is really significant. But we are just people not God, It's really hard....
@cobradene (1171)
• India
23 Dec 09
I agree with you and I understand what you mean. I have been in those situations as well, but I forgot to mention it. The problem is, when people find out that you have made a mistake, they make you feel so terrible for it, and also humiliate you and come so hard on you... especially, if you have done something that's a taboo on the society. I doubt if man will ever learn to forgive and forget and live in harmony. That will never happen I think.
@celebratelifeh (1142)
• China
24 Dec 09
yes i have been affected by my mistake more than three years and can't go out still.
i always tell myself do not think about that again and just keep on to change and not repeat that again. sometimes we may not too strict with ourself and allow more time and patience to our deeds.
@vycess (1588)
• Saudi Arabia
24 Dec 09
Whow! three years? it must have been really hard for you... I hope that I can I'll cope with my problems soon. I really do want to let it go and forget everything like you but it's so hard and I guess that's the purpose of it so that we will not do it again.
@pillow08 (97)
• Philippines
23 Dec 09
Fight or flight? That's your choice. Fighting doesn't necessarily mean you have to remain where your work, or even go back to that place. Fighting means accepting that you made a mistake, forgiving yourself and then finally learning from it. You may have to explain to your supervisors, but not to every one. Never to every one. No matter what you say or what you do, you wouldn't be able to please everybody, you can't justify what you did to every one, it's between you and God. You also have to face the fact that people wouldn't look at you the same way, that is human nature. What you can do is just improve yourself, and move on.
Flight is just letting things be and accepting all the blows. You'll be left the alone, and you'd only prove to those people that they were right for judging you harshly.
Oh, may be if you can find a better place to work or go to, why would you need to go back if you aren't happy there?
