how about to be alone??

China
December 25, 2009 12:48pm CST
when i was in high school,i have applyed for leaving of absence for one semester.then for the half year,i almost spent all the time staying in my room except runing in the morning and have a outside walk in the night.at the first few days,i do feel lonely strongly.but it was what i choosed so i beared the loneliness.i thought maybe i would have to suffer that for the next few months. but something changed,when one week has passed,i realized that i have adapted to the loneliness and started immersing in the serenity which belongs to myself.it just made my heart calm dowm and brood clearly.summerizing the previous events and pricipitating the wisdom which really made me fell comfortable. and after that,i understood the real loneliness will leave you with intelligence if you have the opportunity to experience that. so my friends will you share me your lonely time??
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10 responses
• United States
25 Dec 09
HATE being lonely.I skipped like 3 weeks of school.I have friends,but always afraid that of they don't come to school I will have to sit alone in lunch. I like being alone only if nobody sees me,but if I'm alone in a place where there's people that can see me then I will feel really embarrassed. Recently I came to my senses.Who cares if I'm lonely.This life is about me.Don't care what other thinks.I will try my best to fit in more with others.Even if I can't I can say that I tried.It's their lost for not accepting me,not mine.
• Mexico
26 Dec 09
Hi lokilla: I know how you felt because that was my fear when i was a teenager and it sometimes scares me right now but as you said we realize that this life it's about how we feel not the others and i also have to add that when we think too much about being alone and that we don't have nothing to say to attract people this simply doesn't help. On the opposite, if we are simply natural it's easier to find people that share the same things you like. Thanks for your answer. Hope you are having a nice day. Merry Christmas/Happy Holidays. Take Care. -Alvaro.
• China
26 Dec 09
Hi my friend,thanks for your response.i think you must be a very lovely little girl.maybe i was wrong,haha...i rarely go to mind what others think,but sometimes i will and be very angry.i don't know why just some topics are very sensitive to me.but even i want know their thoughts that would be not easy and that's also the reason why we can't find friends. acturally now in this sociaty,most people will only take care about their own bussiness so what others will be is not included in their plans.so always there is no need to worry about what others are thinks about us.
@Yonnutz (53)
• Romania
25 Dec 09
well, i can say that lonelynes is my bigest fear, even if i experienced it, it still scarying me off. A few days ago i even had a panic attac started by this thought and feeling. i don't know why but many times i feel alone, even when i'm with lot's of people. If i'm not with the right person, i feel verry lonely, and i hate hat feeling. I just hope i'll get use to it...like you sad you did. Congratz!
• China
26 Dec 09
Hi younutz,thanks for your response.when we got into a new environment,always we would adapt to it with some time.so that's just the matter of time.and sudden changement will sure make us feel uncomfortable,and when we know this then there will be no reasons for us to fear more.
• Romania
26 Dec 09
well, in my situation is a little weired. I always lived with my grandparents, and a big family, and i always whanted to have my own place and live alone. But even if i was in a big family, many times i felt lonely. In this summer i rented an apartament in another town and started to live by my own. I used to have friends to come in visits, always had someone to go out with, to talk, etc, and that feeling of being lonely dissapeared. In the mean time, i lost my job and i had to move back to live with my grandparents at the vilage. here, i don't have friends, i don't have anyone to go out with, nobody to visit me...i lost contact with almost all my friends. We still chat, but very rare....so, in this time, the feeling of lonely came back in my life.
@ronnyb (6120)
• Jamaica
30 Dec 09
Well I live alone ,I travel alone and I am alwayss alone so I am used to taht and may need to get used to living with someone else but so far I am used to it and I am rarely lonely even though there are time when you wish you had someone to talk to .The fact of teh matter is I may be alone in my room but I have many friend here on mylot and on messenger to talk to so I really dont feel lonely even though I am alone and tehy keep me pretty occupied
• China
31 Dec 09
Hi ronnyb,thanks for sharing your experience.when we first live alone,we would get a little flurried.but once we have used to it then we would enjoy the lonliness for its peace.the life you are now living is acturally what i want,but i have to work for making a live.the precondition for that kind of life is that i have to make enough money.:-) have a nice day.
@rose66 (380)
• China
26 Dec 09
that's a good way to try when you feel bad. i have a deep impression. when i feel very boring and tired about my job, i'll have a short temper. i will speak loudly and do everything impatiently which may hurt my friends and myself. i think being alone is the best way to calm oneself down. but i am not so lucky with you. i have to work except weekends. how i admire you!
• China
27 Dec 09
Hi rose,i think the key to solve the problem is not about trying to be along but trying to find the reasons that bother you.according to what you've said,maybe you are very boring with your work.um...sometimes we have to do the choice,give it up and find a better one or try your best to adapt to the environment.just as a saying goes like"if you can change the world,then you shoul change yourself to adapt to the world or die" thanks for your response and have a nice day.good luck! !o(n_n)o...
@mindrich (183)
• Philippines
26 Dec 09
Being alone is a way for me to meditate or reflect my past actions and think a new perspective in life to a new level. I found regularly setting time to be alone a good avenue for me to set plans into my life after a thorough review of my pasts. And it's effective!
• China
27 Dec 09
yes,you are very right,when we are alone,it seems natural for us to think.and it will be very helpful for we to understand more about our life and to set the direction that we will go.especially when it's the end of a day,we review what have happened and generalize experience.so when tomorrow come we would work effectively.
• China
26 Dec 09
i used to be alone,i like to do something lonely and enjoy it ,i get well with myself,maybe when you get through that at the first few days,you even have no idea what's meaning of alone
• China
27 Dec 09
Hi uting.yes,i'm very agree with you.there are many great person in the history that they were always alone and didn't want others bother them.being alone made their mind more clearly and providing more time for they to think and deliver the inspiration.thanks for your response and have a nice day.
• Philippines
26 Dec 09
i have you problem being alone. i often times set back and in retrospect look into my life. you can really find yourself when you are alone and in the silence of your heart and soul. in that, you can know yourself better. that is a very good times to look into oneself and know oneself. God Bless!
• China
27 Dec 09
Hi alex.you are very right,regularly taking a look back will always give us more precious new knowlede.just as one word goes like"Gain new knowlege by reviewing old".the people who undertand this point will also be very clear about what they will do next.thanks for your response and have a nice day.
• India
26 Dec 09
I really Love to be alone my friend , my high school days were quite fun going with all my friends.,but i still love the times when i was alone it gives me time for myself indepth exploration, i meditate, & make my self inwardly strong, it really provides me the Inner PEACE that we all need in this Hectic life of Ours.,I never get upset when i am alone or neither get scared Actually, every one should know that they were Born alone (except few i.e.,twins ^_^ ) and we die alone .,so why should we be scared of it as we could use this loneliness in a better & Positive way but all do the exact opposite by getting all the negative feelings., My request to all is plzzz use it for your own good & inner peace which is very Rare this days...^_^
• China
27 Dec 09
Hi rohan.very glad to know your opinions of loneliness.just as you've said,being along do can offer us the inner peace and help us to meditate our life.when we are alone we stay somewhere but we are everywhere,our mind just go to the places where we want freely.being light-hearted and making many proplems clear,that's the power of loneliness,right?? o(n_n)o...thanks for your response and have a nice day.
@Esmechan (53)
• China
26 Dec 09
Hello, Savedeath,it seems that you are a mature person. Since you wanna to look for the secret of life at the young age of high school time. Yes, i agree that meditation quietly for a period is a wise decision, since i can help you to clear your mind and sedimentate your wisdom. Even thout i have never tried to seperate myseif like you, i suppose i can understand you. Good Luck and hope you happy everyday !
• China
27 Dec 09
Hi,thanks for your response.Now in this society,everyone has to confront with the rules.no friends,no way.but people always have dreams,which will always stand on the opposite side of the rules,so if we want to realize our dreams then we have to pass the rules which means suffering enough for being stronger then have abilities to reach our goals.
@PeacefulWmn9 (10424)
• United States
26 Dec 09
I was raised in a very large family, married young and had a family of my own, and not until recently did I experience actually living alone. I truly find it rather refreshing. If we like ourselves, enjoy our own company, and have a wide variety of interests, being alone is not a bad thing at all. If I ever get lonely, though, all I have to do is visit someone or invite someone over for dinner or such. Karen