Why most women tend to fall for bad boys?

@maria1081 (1252)
Philippines
December 26, 2009 11:20am CST
Ladies, who would you choose Mr. Nice guy or Mr. Bad boy image? To whom you are easily attracted to and why? Have you experience choosing a bad boy rather than the super nice guy?
8 responses
@missweety (628)
• Latvia
28 Dec 09
Hello! Ahhh, I think it is really hard to explain. I think I would choose Mr. Bad boy...but why, I really don't know...probably it comes from our childhood. A person who has had a good childhood would go for a nice guy, but person whose childhood wasn't from easy ones probably would go for a Bad boy...
• Latvia
28 Dec 09
Maby I would go for Mr. Bad and after all my life would suffer because I would like to change him into Mr Nice one...but then it would be my mistake because you just cannot so easily change a person!!!
@maria1081 (1252)
• Philippines
28 Dec 09
That't the common mistake girls do.
• Latvia
28 Dec 09
unfortunatelly
• United States
28 Dec 09
Hey Maria1081... You know every time I hear or read the name Maria Kim Ah Joong's Blondie cover from the 200 lb Beauty Soundtrack. Anyway, as some people have mentioned I do believe that part of the attraction to the bad boy is excitement, perceiving them as alpha males, t.v., and the thought that their love can make that bad boy go straight. I can admit that I am attracted to the "angry boy" look, but if that "angry boy" isn't doing something positive to change what makes him angry, and I mean before I came along (it sexier to see that they are doing it because they believe in it, not because I do) then he looses his appeal. My brother attracts a lot of women, however he has broken up many times because he treated the girls the way he felt they deserved to be treated. He is a "prince charming" minus the kingdom, but the girls thought he was too good for them. They actually told him this. They felt some sort of pressure to be something they weren't despite the fact that he liked them for who they were. So I think part of being attracted to bad guys for some girls is the deep seeded belief that they do not deserve anything better.
@maria1081 (1252)
• Philippines
28 Dec 09
Are you Korean? or just love korean drama? I have watched the 200lb beauty a year ago. I myself is attracted to boys with bad image but as I grew up I learned that I can never change someone or I can never make someone that he's not. He will change if he wanted to and not because I said so. But the irony is I made someone change when I'm already out of his life. Too late for both of us.
• United States
28 Dec 09
Hey Maria, No, I am not Korean, I am actually black. I watch a lot of films from all over the world in order to see nonwhite people portrayed in diverse roles. Since my own country tends to stereotype brown people (I include all nonwhites) I purposely seek out films staring and directed by other people of color to maintain balance which is not presented in Hollywood.
@priya_ot (72)
27 Dec 09
because they love the challenge of being able to modify a bad guy.they don't want to miss the credit for it.so they keep on trying till they are dumped badly.nice guys don't offer anything to change .
@maria1081 (1252)
• Philippines
27 Dec 09
Sometimes trying to change someone dont always succeed. Most of the attemp fails. And failure result to frustration.
• Philippines
27 Dec 09
It's really hard to explain the reason why a lot of women love bad guys because women do have different reasons for that, I guess. If I were to base my answer on my personal experience, well I would simply say, super nice guys are boring. They are too good to be true. I think I will not be enjoyed in the company of someone who always treats me right. It's not really challenging on my part. If I am not mistaken, women like many challenges. My boyfriend was once a very bad guy. He has been through a lot of bad things even when he was still young and I didn't even expect that we will last for very long years. He changed after we met and fell in love with each other and it really made me proud of myself and it also made me fall for him more and more. Women want to feel and see that the bad guy they once knew has evolved and changed for the better because of them.
• United States
28 Dec 09
Hey Pentagan12, What did you mean when you said that your boyfriend changing made you feel proud of yourself?
@ramos7881 (345)
• United States
26 Dec 09
I don't know about everybody else, but for me it was the thrill of not knowing what would happen next, the adrenaline rush that came with "getting in trouble". Those days are over now thank goodness, but it was fun while it lasted!
• Mexico
28 Dec 09
Hi ramos: i think the same. Basically the bad guy image sells a lot because girls - in some cases- want to show their parents- that they do what they really want and not what they expect that they do, and the best way to make a father angry is dating a bad guy. Bad guys give girls adrenaline but at the same time there's a time where girls just realize that they can not date a bad guy forever so they chose another kind of options (at least that's what i think). Thanks for your answer ramos. Hope you are having a nice day. Merry Christmas/ Happy Holidays. Take Care. -Alvaro.
@sublime03 (1811)
• Philippines
26 Dec 09
Back when I was young, I would fall for the in between bad and nice guys. They always had a mixture of it. Like they would really look like they have a bad boy image but when you talk to the person or your around the person he's just an angel and then the way around where they look so nice but they are the worst people on earth. But at the end of the day, I would always fall for a guy who has a good heart and a good personality.
@maria1081 (1252)
• Philippines
26 Dec 09
I strongly agree with you. Good looks is a plus but what important is to be with someone you can live for the rest of your life.
• Mexico
28 Dec 09
Hi maria: being a good boy i ask myself over and over again why do they do this and i simply don't get it. I think it's not the wisest idea but women see in the bad guy testosteron and some of you beleive that you can change the way they are in the future thanks to the magic of love. I have to add that we, the nice guys are not so interested, we like to do normal things so most of the girls are not interested of being with us. Sniff. Thanks for asking me this question. Hope you are having a nice day. Merry Christmas/ Happy Holidays. Take Care. -Alvaro.
• China
27 Dec 09
china has an old saying,a women does'nt love a man not bad.and i think a badboy is more charming than a niceboy,but the bad boy should have moral problem.i think if a person has a little cunning,humor,naughty,and hegemonic like a baby will be very lovely.