How do you face Confrontation?

@maria1081 (1252)
Philippines
December 27, 2009 12:06pm CST
My brother and I used to fight when we were still kids, we always have a petty quarrels that lasted for a day and so on. As we grew up we learned to be patient with each other and so far we never had a confrontation. I personally dont like confrontation since I patiently understand other people, I often listen up rather than to talk back or nag. And simply because I know that I have done nothing wrong intentionally for others to confront me. There was a time when I exploded and confronted a male housemate/roomate for being selfish and inconsiderate of others. He did a lot of bad things but I let it passed but one night he wanted to laundry at the middle of the night when everyone was sleeping and since the washing machine is beside my room I told him to stop what he's doing, he still insist so I raised my voice and confronted him. He just walked away since he knew he was wrong. I can still remember how my blood went high with anger. I'm glad that guy is out of my life right now. In your case, how do you handle/face confrontation?
5 responses
• Philippines
28 Dec 09
i am an assertive/aggressive person, confrontation is my way sometimes of solving conflicts. being that kind of personality, makes me face issues head on and sometimes strengthened relationships. i would say, i can handle it well.. :-)
@maria1081 (1252)
• Philippines
28 Dec 09
I salute you for that!
• Philippines
2 Feb 10
thanks for the best response maria... i just read my gmail today. that's how i came to know thanks a lot. God Bless!
• India
27 Dec 09
Hmmm, actually my friend I prefer to avoid confrontation. During my college days even if I just raised my voice a bit higher than usual, my friends will round up the person to whom I raised my voice and say that "what did you do, he itself raised his voice over you". And this issue'll go all through the college. Even to the ears of my lecturers. But as time passed, I had some problems with my friends who used this behaviour of me and started to cheat me. Then one fine day actually a night I shouted at a guy who used my character and started to bully me. It created a lot of anger over him. I left him for days togather giving him time to change. But that night I was speaking about he got a good amount of scolding from me which immediatly changed his attitude. Thus I can't say that its totally wrong (etting angry and shouting), but its not good either being mum in all issues my friend.
• India
27 Dec 09
Wow, I'm the first one to comment on your discussionmy friend.
@maria1081 (1252)
• Philippines
28 Dec 09
Yes you are, do you want me to give you a candy for a prize? hehe... im kidding. Thank you and keep rocking!
@wandry (72)
• Indonesia
28 Dec 09
that a bad relationship friend, i think it would be better if you and your brother are having a nice relationship and help each other. But from your story above the problem rise between you and your brother just because you or your brother didn't understand each other. I don't who the trouble maker is, but you and your brother should learn and try more patient. And especially you and your brother should learn how important the brother/sister is in you life. You should help and support each other. Try to fix the bad relationship with more communication or have a family event or holidays together. Hope it will change your relationship with your brother into a better one. thank
@maria1081 (1252)
• Philippines
28 Dec 09
Hey I wasnt talking about my brother, I mean me and my brother had quarrels when we were younger but I was talking about another person which is my housemate at work before.
@advokatku (4037)
• Indonesia
28 Dec 09
at odds with own brother? .... time is still the same house, I also often at odds with my brothers. Although I've tried to avoid such disputes, these disputes sometimes I can not avoid. So inevitably, we finally noisy too. but believe me, ..... I think the source of problem your quarrel with your brother merely jealousy problem or just a small problem. if only a small problem, please do not you make a big issue. Go to bed and forget about the issue rather than continue to fight, better you look my fhoto .....
@maria1081 (1252)
• Philippines
28 Dec 09
Me and my brother never fought when we grew older, I mean at present time. I was talking about a housemate at work whom I confronted because of being ill-mannered.
@yinmm007 (605)
• China
28 Dec 09
I rarely have confrontation with others as I think quarrel with others have no effect to solve problem.Most times i would listen to others patiently and checked whether they said right or not in my heart.Then i might tell them my opinion friendly.I am not interested in gaining merit,but only in avoiding making mistakes.