Is friendship a first step of love?

India
December 29, 2009 11:39pm CST
If u are not a friend, u cannot be in love. Is this true? tell me about your opinions.
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10 responses
• South Korea
30 Dec 09
Maybe if you are her/his friend ,U perhaps becomes lovers. But i don't think that friendship is a first step of love. If U two are very good friend and U know each other very well and maybe U two are very understanding of each other,that is not easy to become lover .I think.
• India
30 Dec 09
U are very correct about this. i also feel that it may be difficult sometimes to convert friendship to love.
• Philippines
30 Dec 09
Oh, really? If that is true, what I have in mind to get the woman I really like by making friends with her is a mistake. But can we make friendship a stepping stone to becoming lovers by expressing early on that what you desire from your relationship is not only friendship, but you are interested in become lovers. By mind-setting your prospect, she will prepared to accept that you really want him/her as a lover and not only as friend. If you fail to do that, there is a chance that when you start changing from "friends-only" stance to "may we become lovers now", you will be disappointed. I hope I am right with this, because that's what I'm planning to do.
• India
30 Dec 09
If you are planning for getting mere love it may work. But for getting true love may you need to be desperate for your One. I agree friendship is the first step in many cases but there is also what is called first sight love which exists. Thanks and Regards Happy mylotting.
@allknowing (58148)
• India
30 Dec 09
Lot of youngsters mistake infatuation for love and as you rightly said you need to be a friend first and love slowly develops. Love is something like a plant that needs nurturing for it to grow into a tree, yielding forever.
• India
30 Dec 09
Thanks for your response allknowing...
• India
30 Dec 09
A good friend only can be a nice life partner but i can be only one choose it............
• India
30 Dec 09
I am giving a positive rating for this answer to you!!!
• Indonesia
30 Dec 09
you have this experience about your discuss ? I think friendship is not necessarily going to bring love, and my opinion friendship more better than girlfriend/boyfriend relationship...
• India
30 Dec 09
Thanks for your response Doninjak.
• Philippines
30 Dec 09
In my opinion, love founded on friendship is love that will last long. (if not forever) Here's why; When you started out as friends, you tend to become more comfortable with each other. You both know each one's weaknesses and strengths. In a way it's an assurance that what you feel is true love. You accept him/her though you know his/her imperfections and shortcomings. Therefore, It is true.
• United States
30 Dec 09
Nice post, I whole heartedly agree. While having a friendship with someone first does present some complications to romance, it is usually a matter of fear or insecurity on one or the others part. A relationship that starts out as friends and escalates from there has a far better chance to last the test of time than a relationship that didn't. If you know someone well, accept them for who they are, regardless of their faults, and still find yourself falling in love with that person, than you know its not all about what they are, but who they are that matters the most
• India
26 Jan 10
Yes friendship is definitely the step before love, may not be first step. All loves have friendship, but all friendships may not be love.
@hexeduser22 (5855)
• Philippines
26 Jan 10
Friendship is a good foundation for love but it does not necessarily mean that it is the first step for one to be in love. Love comes knocking unexpectedly and sometimes in people that is a complete stranger to you.
• India
26 Jan 10
love and friendship are basic qualifications to build any relationship., love cannot happen without friendship with that person., and friendship cannot survive without love on that person., of course friendship is the first step for love or any relationship., this is an unavoidable fact. have a nice day, happy mylotting..
• India
30 Dec 09
HI meetpriya, i think you are right but we in no way see to love but it happens manually.
@lahari (133)
• India
30 Dec 09
May be its easier to fall in love with your friend but friendship is not a prerequisite of love. If one holds this rule 'if you are not a friend you cannot be in love' to be true then the so called 'love at first sight' is completely ruled out! Your boyfriend/girlfriend might just be your life partner,he/she doesn't necessarily need to step into the shoes of your friend! These are two separate relations which does get interlinked sometimes but not necessarily always!