ten years... ten yeeeaaaarrrrrrssssss!!!

@allen0187 (33914)
Philippines
December 31, 2009 4:57am CST
that's a line from the movie 'grosse pointe blank'. looked it up at imdb, made me think about a lot of things. the end of a decade is always a milestone regardless of how it went. just want to take a look back and see how things have changed regardless it it was for the better or the worse (just realized i used regardless, twice, thrice this paragraph only). lol!!! ten years ago i was a single, in my mid-20s working and in my 'dream job'. 'dream job' meaning anything from the 'job i really want eventhough the pay $ucks' to 'the job i want but really a dead end job with no chance for promotion' to 'the job i love to do but can't keep because it it holds no future for me'. today, i'm married, with one lovely and beautiful (insert an over the top positive superlative trait here) daughter, now working in another 'dream job'(it is a different company, much better pay with a great schedule however just recently started so i'm walking on egg shells so to speak but all is good so far), living with my daughter and wife and really satisfied and contented with what i have right now but i know that me and my family deserve better and i'm working towards it. i'd have to say i'm happy now but i can be happier even dare i say be at my happiest if i really work at it, despite the increased responsibilities and decreased disposable income. ten years ago i had a modest amount of savings in my bank account. good enough for a single guy on the fly but not enough to live as big and as large as i wanted to. today, i have zero balance when it comes to savings. my wallet has only gotten thinner and i'm the one that has gotten fatter. lol! looking to cahnge all that. i've already started saving and made some headway since the last part of 2009 and i'm downplaying what i have simply to be desperate enough at the beginning of 2010 so the urgency to save is there. i'm saving not just for myself but also for my daughter and my family altogether. ten years ago I was maybe 20-30 pounds lighter. back story is i was a good 130 lbs last year but decided to go to 150 lbs because that is the ideal fighting weight. i really wanted to engage in some professional boxing/muay thai/mixed martial arts stuff but never really got around doing it so now i hover around 145-155 lbs. going to change this one. my target is to be at 130-135lbs by middle of 2010 and stay at that weight for good. ten years ago i was about pleasing other people and fitting in. this year and for the rest of my life, hopefully it will be about working towards being happy for myself and giving out happiness as if i had a $hitload of it the people that i love, to the people that matter, and to the people that hate me. it will be more about giving than taking but definitely not to the point that i take myself for granted. one thign i realized this year was that it si not enough that you learn to live by yourself but also to learn how to die alone if need be. sounds depressing, moronic even but that's how i'll be rolling with my life from here on in. i'd like to continue to improve, and i think that better fitness and a better but more realistic outlook at life is the primary key at my age. ten years ago my travels had been primarily in the southern part of the philippines, mostly in cebu and davao. not much has changed there, except for trips to the northern part the country primarily to zambales, subic, baguio, and sagada. trying to get out of this forsaken country that i will always call my home. probably start here in asia and work my way out. really want to visit europe and the south american countries. good thing with the work i have is that i have a chance to travel to either costa rica, antigua, or canada. lol! ten years from now i hope in my mid-40s i'd have a decent shot at a comfortable retirement (save early and often is the best advice i can give for myself and for those just starting their work careers). hopefully i can be a better version of my present self. be able to chill out, kick back, and relax while be a great father to my daughter. so how about you my fellow mylotter? where were you ten years ago and where have you been for the last ten years? where would you like to be ten years from now? stay thirsty my friends. stay thitsty. cheers!!!
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5 responses
• Boston, Massachusetts
3 Jan 10
Hi Allen, this discussion brought me back to the time when i joined a beauty contest. the question was --how do you see yourself 10 years from now? my answer was ten years i am already a succesful social worker, a loving wife to my husband and a good mother to my children" as simple and candid as that. I got the crown and received three other awards--best in talent, best in filipiniana gown and ms friendship. i was only 19 years old that time. you know what i made it...
@allen0187 (33914)
• Philippines
4 Jan 10
hi msfrancisco! pray tell, what beauty contest did you join? i'm eager to find out. cheers!!!
• Boston, Massachusetts
4 Jan 10
I joined the search for Ms. Baao-town in our province. It was a great one...my first ever experienced joining a beauty pageant. i am supposed to join the regional pageant and be the bet for the national competition but my university did not permit me to join. I am in my junior college year and it's a catholic school. so i missed the opportunity to join the regional and national event. but at least i made it and still had other special awards! i reigned for two years before i relinquished my crown and scepter.
@allen0187 (33914)
• Philippines
9 Jan 10
interesting side note you got there ms f! ever thought of joining beauty contests for married women? there is such a thing right? love to hear your thoughts on this one. cheers!!!
@celticeagle (119841)
• Boise, Idaho
1 Jan 10
Ugh! Ten years ago I was working a 40 hour week at a very complex job. I was doing a good job plus raising a bi-polar granddaughter who I had gaurdianship of at the time. She was trouble and it kept getting worse. Finally it all colminated in a physical confrontation with her and her being charged and sent to Juvenile hall. I refused to take her back and she was put in foster care. It was not a fun time. I went into a deep, dark depression and was unable to work. I am now retired and on SSDI. In ten years I would like to have published some good writing and made enough money to do some traveling and enjoying some of the good life at 68.
@allen0187 (33914)
• Philippines
4 Jan 10
hi celtic! i can wish that i'm as active as you are when i'm at your age. may you continue to live a long and good life. cheers!!!
@celticeagle (119841)
• Boise, Idaho
5 Jan 10
I hope so too! Thanks.
@MrKennedy (1994)
1 Jan 10
This decade has dragged on for so long, I've completely forgotten about many stuff that actually happened in it It was probably a decent decade, and I'm still alive, so that must count for something I guess
@allen0187 (33914)
• Philippines
4 Jan 10
hi mrkennedy! lol at your comment. agree with you that this was a decent decade, nothing to write home about. come to think of it, nothing out of the extraordinary happened/came out of this one. just my thoughts. cheers!!!
@drakesuyat (1063)
• Philippines
1 Jan 10
.ten years ago when i started my very first computer business, an internet shop. .nine years ago i had to move my computer shop coz the landlady never renewed our contract and instead, put up her own computer shop. .eight years ago i had my billiard shop in replace of that computer shop. .seven years ago my first child was born. .six years ago my wife and i moved from manila to iloilo city. it was my first time to travel outside of ncr not to mention, my first time to ride on a ship. .five years ago, my 2nd child was born. .four years ago, my 3rd child was born. .3 years ago, the youngest was born. .2 years ago, i went back to manila to work in a call center. .a year ago, my wife and i started a frozen food business. it lasted for six months. .5months ago, my wife worked in singapore. .4months ago, i started to watch over my kids alone. 3 months ago, i celebrated my 38th birthday 2 months ago, a big engineering project came a month ago our first time to celebrate christmas without my wife. few hours ago, our first time to celebrate new year without my wife. few seconds ago, this post was sent. happy new year allen0187
@allen0187 (33914)
• Philippines
4 Jan 10
hi drake! your post was great in form and really substantial. it seemed that you were effective in capturing your life for the past ten years with this post. cheers!!!
@Sandra1952 (6052)
• Spain
31 Dec 09
Hello, Allen, what a great discussion. Well, 10 years ago, I was looking forward to my second marriage in March 2000. It had taken the previous decade to get my children to accept my new partner, and to get a divorce out of my ex husband, so I was really looking forward to it. 10 years ago we had more money than we do now, but we didn't feel our lives were everything we wanted. We wanted to buy a place abroad, somewhere hot, but accessible for family and friends to visit. 10 years ago I was mid way through a degree course. I had been medically retired due to 3 types of arthritis, and study gave me my self respect back. Today, I'm still happily married. We've had our ups and downs like any other couple, but we're still together. We have our home in Spain now, and it's everything we dreamed of. We've had lots of visitors, and we get back to England twice a year to see those who can't make it over here. Our health is better, and we've lost weight, and we have an amost stress free lifestyle. I achieved my BA and also my Masters, although I haven't really been able to do anything with them because of my erratic health. Nevertheless, I achieved my first degree at 49 and my second at 52, so I'm proud of that. What about the next 10 years? Well, I want to write more, and hopefully earn more from my writing to help out our finances. I want to carry on enjoying life in Spain. And I hope my husband makes it to our 20th wedding anniversary. He's 76 now, but he comes from a family of long livers - his mother was 98 when we lost her. Oh, and I want to drink lots of cava and vodka - that never changes!