Punish or praise?
By kevinll
@kevinll (967)
China
January 5, 2010 7:51pm CST
I often meet some children who are afraid of offering the score report for you parents. They could be punished by their parents. However I think the praise education can be effective for them. When students fail in examination they should find the reason. If you give more praise they will get more confidence. They can get power from you and try to study hard. How do you deal with it? Punish or praise?
4 responses
@minotaur87 (769)
• Singapore
17 Feb 10
It really depends on the children itself. Some children are more proud so if you keep praising them, they would just think that they are at the top of everyone so they don't need to put in more effort. Some children have low self-esteem, if you keep on punishing them, they would feel that they are very useless and may eventually give up on themselves. So there's also a need to strike a balance between both since children may be shifting between the two characteristics above.
@subashmanchanda (26)
• India
8 Jan 10
The punishment should be given to the children but that should not be like that of the corporal punishment. I am strictly against that. The children should not be served with their favorite choice of the meals if they don't study upto the expectations of their parents. But praise on the other hand should is a good medicine and the child must be praised as and when he/she does anything good so that the child feels encouraged. By doing so, we can surely motivate the child to come upto the standards which the parents might be expecting. But parents should also have a realistic view about the child, family conditions and so on. Don't expect every child to come on the top because at the top slot there is one and only one place.
