Should I contact a match for me on a dating site?

Philippines
January 10, 2010 9:47am CST
I was recently surfing the net when I came across Eharmony. Curiousity struck. Now I'm not much of a fan of online dating - I've heard lots of horror stories. But the appeal of Eharmony seemed pretty cool - they really do use good psychology to see who your match would be. My offline dating life isn't stagnant, but neither is it a bed of roses either. I wondered who would be the match for me online. Lo and behold, even though I thought I was pretty strict in the requirements I put in, there was actually a match. Just one match. Should I contact the guy? Or bury him forever in the folds of the world wide web, seeking out more natural (and slightly tedious) means for romance?
2 responses
@khayshenz (1387)
• United States
12 Jan 10
Hello and welcome to mylot. I think that internet dating used to be taboo - but in this day and age (especially with this new decade), I think it'll actually become a norm to meet people online. Of course, you have to be extra careful as you don't really know the person on the other side. Anyway, my $0.02 - wait til' he contacts you. If he doesn't, it must not meant to be. If he does - then the ball is in your court, lady. Good luck and have fun!
• Philippines
12 Jan 10
Thank you for your sound advice, khayshenz. I think it's a pretty good idea to wait for the guy to make the first move. Having to make extra effort might signify the wrong idea. Thank you for you insight!
@Janey1966 (24127)
• Carlisle, England
11 Jan 10
Hello there! Welcome to MyLot. Well, speaking from experience here, I didn't meet my husband on a dating site but found him in a Chat Room. That, in itself is unusual because (like you say) internet dating and chat rooms can be a hit and miss affair. However, I have seen adverts on the television for the site you mention and - as dating sites go - they seem pretty genuine to me, so I say, "Go for it!" with this chap. I like the idea you only have one match...could it be fate that you contact him I wonder? You have nothing to lose and you seem intelligent to me, so you won't be led astray by some undesirable..who I don't think would be on Eharmony in the first place. Good luck with your decision, whatever it may be.
• Philippines
11 Jan 10
Hi Janey. Thank you for your advice, I actually might try it. It kind of unnerved me to find just one match. Maybe in a stroke of sudden daring, I'll probably decide to contact the guy. I still need to gather courage for it though. I can handle online friendships pretty easy, but dating online is not something I'm very familiar with.