My Apology

@bhanusb (5709)
India
January 15, 2010 12:36am CST
I got 57 responses from a discussion.So far this is the highest number of response I received from a single discussion. This discussion titled " Choose a less intelligent girl" is not of so serious nature. Previously I started some serious type of discussions.But I got very few responses. So I decided to go to light topics and succeeded. Can I come to a conclusion that most of the myLot members like to participate in light discussions ? But in the above mentioned discussion I may hurt the sentiment of many ladies. Actually I myself think that intelligent girls are preferable to choose as bride. I think intelligent girls or women are good wife and good mother. I beg apology to those ladies for hurting their sentiments.
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13 responses
@mysdianait (63936)
• Italy
15 Jan 10
I didn't see your disussion (yet ehehe) but I think there is no need to apologise at all. Any intelligent girl, if she really is intelligent, will see the point of your topic and would not be offended The fun topics are often those which are more popular - but then how do we define 'fun'? Some get their own fun by discussing certain topics which to me are absolutely not fun at all. Everything is individual and we are all unique. There is a place for everything in the world just like there is a place for everything here on myLot just as long as it is all done with respect. Of course respect means also respecting others who might not see things exactly the same way as we do - and what a sad world it would be if we all saw things from the same perspective!
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@bhanusb (5709)
• India
16 Jan 10
Some persons make light subjects serious and some make serious things light. It's a matter of outlook. We should respect others sentiment and outlook.
@kiran8 (14256)
• Mangalore, India
15 Jan 10
Hi bhanusb, Like you ,I too feel that most members prefer light discussions that are fun to participate in or the one's they are able to relate to. A very serious discussion needs too much of involvement which most members may not want, since they want to realax and enjoy the discussion without taxing their brains after a hard days work or during their time of leissure.I too used to start some serious discussions, but seeing the number (no) of responses, I decided to start discussions on those topics that are liked by mylotters....It is a fact that we need to face....All the best and happy mylotting
@bhanusb (5709)
• India
17 Jan 10
Thanks kiran. Both of us realized the facts. Yes we need some relaxation in our busy life.
@kiran8 (14256)
• Mangalore, India
17 Jan 10
I completely overlooked the topic of discussion.When you say less intelligent what exactly do you mean? and how does it really help ? So what does a highly educated and intelligent girl do?If you had adaughter would you not want her to be educated and well placed in life making her own living? I am of the opinion that there should be equality in all respects, whether regarding educational qualifications or other qualities. If we keep the woman repressed by asking her to remain simple and unintelligent we are not going to move forward in life rather we go backwards...I think it is very essential for a woman to be finacially independent and have a say in the household matters, and, these days most men porefer it that way - they do not want a woman who is not intelligent and will remain at home within the four walls...Have a nice evening and all the best
@bhanusb (5709)
• India
18 Jan 10
Yes kiran I agree with you. A girl should be educated and intelligent like a boy. Now boys and girls are competing in various fields. In some fields girls are much ahead of boys. I appreciate this. In my discussion I did not want to undermine the girls. Just I wanted to see the reaction of the girls. Now I want a shield to protect me.
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
15 Jan 10
Do not apologize. That is the facts of real life and people need to pay attention, to others people's thoughts. I am not in the least offended or hurt. I may not be a lady, but i am a women who knows how a lot of people think. Congratulations on that high score. Keep it up and do not mind if you step on some tows. That will happen now and then, but we are all friends and we will get over it.
@bhanusb (5709)
• India
17 Jan 10
thanks saphrina, your remarks consoled me. Please keep touch.
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
17 Jan 10
My pleasure. You have yourself a gloriuous day.
@bulastika (5967)
• Philippines
15 Jan 10
Can you post the link so that I can find that topic? I want to be the 58th to response..lolz.. .. I don't think choose is not a proper word. We don't choose our mate we fall in love to them.. And it does not matter how intelligent or how boring is that person is. As long theirs a tickle inside you..You still fall for her or for him..
@bulastika (5967)
• Philippines
15 Jan 10
Yeah..I already saw it. Congrats. I think theirs no harm done. Its logical and also sense full. I think what he mean is that choose a simple woman to merry and have a simple life. Women who is so complicated can make simple things complicated.
@bhanusb (5709)
• India
16 Jan 10
Yes balustika, it is preferable to avoid complication.
@maria1081 (1252)
• Philippines
15 Jan 10
I remember that I was the first one to answer your thread "Choose a less intelligent girl". At first it really angers me, oh not really. I mean it upset me the way you give reasons to your judgement. The fact is, it really doesnt matter if the man or the woman is more intelligent than the other. You know what is important? The important is both couple understand each other even if they have flaws and with imperfections as long as both are able and willing to accept and respect each other. You love because you love the person and not you love because there are conditions you want to imply. Just like you mentioned that you will choose a less inteligent girl because you can dominate her and not because you love her even if she's less intelligent than the other girls. I just remembered now a boyzone's song which goes LOVE ME FOR A REASON AND LET THE REASON BE LOVE. Well, apology accepted.
@bhanusb (5709)
• India
17 Jan 10
Thanks for your acceptance. Yes love has no definition. Love is Love. Our Great Poet Tagore said, 'Oh my beloved what is love? It is nothing but full of pain.' My comment is: love is the combination of pain and joy. In our country love marriage is very rare. Parents choose brides and bridegrooms for their sons and daughters.
@satya4186 (280)
• India
15 Jan 10
ya of course it is right that every one want's that his wife is intelligent but simple or modest then life is so beautiful that's why wife has two mean W-wonderful W-worried I-instrument I-invited F-for F-for E-ever E-ever u can think n make according your self
@bhanusb (5709)
• India
15 Jan 10
Thanks for your response. F for forgetful. A good wife should forget her husband's mistakes.
• India
15 Jan 10
Hi My dear friend i'm quite sure that you know mylot well than me and you should not write about your other discussion in a new discussion..i have done this for a couple of times and got my discussions deleted and i think that you are also well aware of that rule..though on the other side i would really like to congratulate you on your highest response you have received and i think i should also see that discussion and give a comment as it looks nice.. Happy Mylotting..
@bhanusb (5709)
• India
17 Jan 10
Hi dear friend balancer, I don' copy others discussion. Subject may be same. But my thinking is otherwise. Yes I aware of myLot's rule of conduct. Thanks for your caution.
• India
15 Jan 10
your topic is nice dear just need something different in your discussions dat. what type of qualities making a complete women. you dnt define decent gurls n women. discussion r real topic on wich all get encourage to drag on just things wich u said about a women its g8 heart yours. there is always a g8 women hide inside a girrl some showing some not showing. women must need write direction t show her inner beauty nthign else. only guys make a gurl wrong or bad, dat all will agree.
@bhanusb (5709)
• India
17 Jan 10
A woman,I mean a wife should be polite,gentle,understandable and not suspicious. An over smart woman brings problem in a family. Your avatatar name is 'vavna' that means thoughtful. I think you are so.Thanks.
@san8487 (25)
• India
15 Jan 10
no apologies needed friend...keep discussing such topics as long as they give u good responses...humor is preferred all over the world!
@bhanusb (5709)
• India
15 Jan 10
Hi san,courtesy costs nothing. Sometimes humor brings danger.
@p1kef1sh (45647)
15 Jan 10
I am pleased that you are getting some good responses to your discussions Bhanusb. There are always people that take what is said here very seriously. But do not worry too much about that. I am sure that you don't ned to apologise but it was the gentlemanly thing to do.
@bhanusb (5709)
• India
15 Jan 10
Hi p1kef1sh, I know you have sympathy for me. I'm not worried. But I don't want or like to hurt anybody. I like ladies and fear them also.
@Sandra1952 (6052)
• Spain
15 Jan 10
Hello, Bhanusb. Most of us on here have got a sense of humour, and would realise it was all very light hearted, so there's probably no need to apologise. Personally, I like the lighter, more humourous topics, although I do go to the serious ones if it's something I'm really interested in. The main thing is, you are thinking carefully about the discussions you're starting, which is great news for everyone. It doesn't really matter whether the topic is serious or light hearted, as long as it's interesting and gives us plenty of scope for responding. Keep up the good work!
@bhanusb (5709)
• India
15 Jan 10
Hi Sandra,Thanks for your encouragement. I shall try to give myLot members enjoyment by my topics and responses.
@23uday (2998)
• India
15 Jan 10
Hi friend, Great you have started a good discussions and got good responses for your responses.So always start with a good discussions and good responses to other discussions.So be a best discussions and best responses here. have a good day.
@bhanusb (5709)
• India
15 Jan 10
May be my discussion was good and I got good number of responses. But too good is bad. Sometimes it brings bad result.Thanks my friend uday.
@squaretile (3835)
• Singapore
15 Jan 10
Yes nothing like a topic like that to get all the ladies riled up eh? good of you to apologise haha. there are discussions of all kinds here. sometimes there are serious discussions that become very light hearted with certain responses which trigger their own mini discussions that go on and on, mostly when the responder knows the person who starts the discussion quite well.
@bhanusb (5709)
• India
15 Jan 10
Yes actually I wanted to rile the ladies and I'm successful. But I had no intention to hurt their sentiment. We should not be so serious.