a priest for a boyfriend?

@rosey19 (952)
Philippines
January 15, 2010 8:16pm CST
I had a friend, she met a seminarian guy when we attended a prayer meeting with a lady friend. He seemed to be thoughtful, intelligent, kind and loving. They exchanged numbers. One day, before he went back to the seminary after a short vacation he called up to my friend. During their conversation the guy courted my friend. My friend also felt the same feeling to the guy but the problem is, the guy is a seminarian. That is why she is confuse now. Should she accept the courtship? Can you give your opinion please?
7 responses
@anyket (106)
• India
16 Jan 10
love should be free for everyone.some of our religions ghave these stupid thoughts about not allowing people to fall in love which i think is completely against god.i think your friend should go ahead but not before making sense of what the guys religious feelings are.i think for once the guy has got some sense in his head and your friend should help him to feel normal love.
@ClassyCat (1214)
• United States
22 Jan 10
As I said previously: You don't have to become a priest to serve God or the people. Just do it. And life should be lived as you feel to live it.
• Philippines
16 Jan 10
Then what's wrong if he will give up of his being seminarian if he truly love the girl she met..or is he sure of what is feeling or this is just a test for him..In life People may undertake or encounter a test like this..if he is a devoted seminarian on his religion then he may not take for granted on it instead he will fight for his feelings against the Girl and he will continue to serve. On the part of the Girl you shoud advice first the man who is courting you before you say yes..
@ClassyCat (1214)
• United States
16 Jan 10
I never have understood what being a priest has to do with being 'closer to God.' You don't have to become one to do that. And why priests can't marry is another matter - did not God say that man and woman should marry and procreate? And the Catholic church is big on the procreation thing - right? Just my wonderings about it all - - -
@coolcoder (2020)
• United States
17 Jan 10
If the guy is a Roman Catholic seminarian, he has no business trying to kindle a romantic relationship with your friend. He either needs to make it clear that an exclusive relationship like that of courting (dating) or marriage is not allowed, or he needs to re-think whether he has a true vocation to the priesthood. In any case, what's going on is not a good thing and needs to be ended ASAP.
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
16 Jan 10
I don,t know if there are any rules to this. But one thing i do know. no matter what you are, you are human. Love is a feeling that will never be surpressed, no matter what. If they really care deeply for each other, both of them should go and see a priest. He is the only one who will be able to help them. I personally think, that there is nothing wrong with it, but i do not make the rule, UNFORTUNATELY.
@danitykane (3192)
• Philippines
16 Jan 10
hi rosey, Oh that seems hard. I do think that priest are not meant to get married and that is according to some catholic rules, I guess. I'm just wondering if the guy is really serious about her and not with his future plans which is obviously to become a priest. There are actually several stories about guys going out of the seminary because they shift to another path. Some of them got married and find another field of professionalism. Vergel Meneses (who was a PBA MVP player, Filipino Basketball Professional) and Bro. Bo Sanchez (spiritual mentor/preacher/author) both attended seminary and decided to change path. If that guy likes her and she also shares the same feeling...I mean, why not?! Everyone deserves to be happy. If I were to choose, I would definitely take chances than to regret later on.
• Philippines
16 Jan 10
it still alright he not yet taken a vow many seminarian undergo self examination before they become priest their is lot of test. they are normal being like us to so they have the right to love to.
• India
16 Jan 10
so simple solution dear. this life is your not others. live it as you want so that at the end of your life you should not regret yourself. go ahead and do whatever your heart is saying. don't bother the world. they always entertainment even in your deep relationship. so forget them and go ahead right now so that you can't delay any more. life is for joy don't kill it when you are living dear.