Self-Promotion Comments : Hit Abuse or negative rating?

United States
January 17, 2010 11:20am CST
I wonder what is the right thing to do. I have many previouse discussions have have been deleted because I did not some actions every time I read some self promotions. Is "pm me" or "check my profile" for website exchange banner or if you are interested, deserve a to be reported as abuse or just hit the negative (-) rating? Thank you guys.
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@mysdianait (64064)
• Italy
17 Jan 10
I don't hit the neg button at all except when I see abuse but recently I have not seen any so it has been months since I have used it. I report but I don't neg rate. According to the FAQs excessive neg rating would damage my own star and as I know many friends are trying to get it to move upwards, it is absurd that I neg rate other posts as it will not move up if that is the case. I report spammers, plagiarists and cheats. I TRY very hard to warn and advice those making mistakes about where they are going wrong but some days it is very tedious and it might come across as rude. PLEASE believe me that we want the new users to stay here but, for their own sake, they must know the rules or they get fed up and leave. When an older user offers advice or points out the Guidelines they usually do it for free because they will lose their postas it will go with the rest of the discussion. Eveb the discussions asking questions that are already answered in the FAQs are deleted too. We know that but we carry on helping just the same. Others read our posts though they may not respond and I know through my own PMs that many make use of the tips that are offered. I saw the comment above about the money interests. When I first joined almost 3 years ago there were not as many spammers as now, possibly because there were fewer money sites. We had some GREAT discussions helping others reagrding HOW to make extra money but not by posting our links. We have PMs for that purpose. Those friends who were posting there then have since left because their discussions became smothered by the garbage
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@benny128 (3622)
17 Jan 10
very well explained as usual di he he he
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@mysdianait (64064)
• Italy
17 Jan 10
It's not easy when you are new here Benny but it's not easy being 'old' either Often we come across as 'know-alls' when all we try to do is help, guide and advise. There are so many forums out there now and many who arrive here are familiar with them but they are NOTHING like myLot at all. It is difficult to explain this without coming across badly, I realise.
@MoonGypsy (4613)
• United States
17 Jan 10
okay. now we are taking. once again. great response. i like when my sense of logic is appealed too. sometimes when things are explained they don't get to center of your logic zone. i also wasn't taking notice of the fact that they are posting for free in order to stare us right. i do appriciate it. newbies may not be so open and may take the critique as harsh, since they are not familiar with anyone here. also, it's hard to tell what people mean from within themselves...what's actually in their minds when people are typing online. things will seem rough, when the person didn't mean to. also, you must understand that no posting your business at a "business opportunity" forum seems very contradictory at best. it would to alot of people if you took a poll. nevetheless, thanks alot guys and gals for the insight. i am not that much of a bad girl. i want to do the right thing, but there is also logic and principle. once i am clear on that...i am good.
@Sandra1952 (6052)
• Spain
17 Jan 10
HELLO, AND WELCOME TO MyLot. I say this to all new members - read the guidelines before you post, and you won't go wrong. As for the self promoters, well, this is a discussion site. 'Add me as a friend and then PM me for details on how to make millions of dollars' is not a discussion, and will never become a discussion. Lamb in box 1 is an experienced and well respected member here. Take his advice, and neg rate and report. We have to get the message to these spammers that they should tout their questionable wares somewhere else where people don't give a damn for standards and ethics.
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@MoonGypsy (4613)
• United States
17 Jan 10
here is what i don't understand. well, a couple of things. 1. isn't there a section on here called, "make extra money". i'm looking at it right now. what's the purpose and how on EARTH do you avoid spamming on a board like that. how do you not mention ANYTHING about your business on a forum called, "work from home". 2. standards? ethics? we already have them. ever since i got here, people have been nothing but nice to me. even when we have disagreements, it's still on a mature, fun, and educational level (excuse all my spelling today...and grammar...only 2 1/2 hours of sleep...lol. we don't put forth racial slurs, or hate bash each other. i think we do pretty good. i think we have a respectable bunch of mylotters here. i don't know if i give 1,000,000 book of rules that credit. i give our members the credit. there are some onrie ones on here, but you will find them everywhere. eventually, they will fade on their own, if not kicked out. what i don't like is the treats, and the finger shaking. it is vey off putting, down putting. it's one thing to guide members on something they don't understand. another to be abrasive, as if we own the site. even if i owned the site. i wouldn't make it an uncomfortable place for people to express themselves and share. yes, there would be rulz, but ones that have purpose. not just for the sake of rules. the rule of not being rude to others, racial or words of violenc towards members...or hate. those thing not allowed. cyber stalking...a no go. but, people should be allowd to be confortable here, even with the rules in place. i'm having so much clean fun here, and then to have another member just cut me down swift, threaten my post, or make me feel funny about posting anything..... i know there are others that feel the same way. i know that post where people are trying to tell yo what you are doing wrong on here is to help. i think there are other ways to do it. let's play nice and not make anyone feel funny. one last thing. "READ the RULES" everyone says. i think by now, we all got the message. even though we can't spell today, we are mostly at intelligent here. sometimes i think it is insulting when people tell you to go read, as if you didn't. perhaps the rules are vague, broad, and hard to narrow down. many have members have felt this way. my brother use to tell me that i was dumb (cause of dyslexia) and that i can't understand anything. my mom told me to tell him, he probably doesn't know how to get his message accross so that people understand. that too is a skill. just food for thought. i know i said some things that may not be liked. so i can look forward to another delete. lol. i just had to speak on this, if only for one moment in the spirit of America freedom. i mean no harm, and no where in this post is spam or self promo, or words of hate, or directing to anyone, or asking about payment............on and on and on. so if anyone gets a chance to see this. "holla if ya here me", as the slang goes.
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@GardenGerty (96787)
• Marion, Kansas
17 Jan 10
We come from all over, with different skill sets when it comes to understanding the rules we read. At this time it does not seem that people are too hot on the trigger finger, as far as reporting things. Mostly they seem to only do it after an explanation. The user who says we are mostly polite and respectful makes me proud to be part of the site. There are other forms of abuse besides spam, and I think most people will explain, even at the risk of losing their own post. Discussions on "making money" or those about "jokes" or those with recipes can be done, if the post does indeed offer an opportunity to discuss. We had a lot of miffed people when MyLot began enforcing the existing rules against this. You can say, I really like (a certain type of food) and I use such and such a recipe to make it, do you have a recipe for something similar? and that is a legitimate discussion. You can copy and paste a link to a recipe, or a whole recipe, and that is not a discussion. Same thing applies to a money making site, or the joke your dad sent you in the e mail today. As a more experienced user, when you do point out a mistake, you run the risk of losing a point yourself, and getting called bad names (unfortunately), and attracting a stalker. On the other hand, you may have someone who truly appreciates the help. I agree with the person who said that people will eventually "get it" or they will leave. We can all help them "get it". If I wanted to try to get a referral for something I do, I would say, "Today I got my gift card from _____. I ordered it before Christmas. Have you ever used that site? Were you surprised to get your reward quickly? Do you have links posted on your profile, as I do?" In fact, you may see that discussion later this week from me. This has been a good discussion as it was sincere, and more than one person had questions that hopefully were answered. None of us want to be spammed, but I do not think we enjoy the role of 'reporter' all of the time. I sure don't. For the record, I also report people who are rude and talk down to people.Not just spammers,but genuinely rude people. Luckily they are few and far between here.
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• Spain
17 Jan 10
Hello, Gerty. I hope everyone reads this, as it's a masterclass in MyLot behaviour. You've been here longer than most of us, and seen a lot of comings and goings, so you're in a position to help and advise, and we all need that sometimes. We have a great community here, and we embrace everyone who wants to be a part of it, but we do not tolerate rudeness, patronising behaviour or spammers and scammers. That's why MyLot has such a great reputation.
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@GardenGerty (96787)
• Marion, Kansas
17 Jan 10
I would personally hit the negative button, unless they kept it up, or did it all the way through the discussion. Then it would be abuse. It is not very polite, if they do not add something to the discussion.