Read and give me a chance, and you may choose me as a friend.

United States
January 19, 2010 6:48pm CST
Hi everyone. I was looking through some conversations this morning on Mylot. Saw some interesting comments. You know, I was reading Angelajoy's comments and others about not choosing friends for this and that, like they don't participate enough and some are in it for the money and such. Well, I had to say "well, I'm one of those people they wouldn't choose as a friend, because at a desperate time, I was trying any way at all to make money any legal way I could." (Thought I might ought to add that.! Altho, hey, I understand more than ever now how people go wrong, and actually end up doing something in desperate times they normally wouldn't dream). Also, I am one of those people who doesn't do Mylot often. But, I do have my reasons, as others have reasons also, whatever they maybe. Ready for my excuses? Here goes. I work when I'm able 40 to 50 hours per week, but now for 2 years or so, I've been under medical care for extreme depression, as I'm at the time in my life where my dad, my 50 year old brother, and my one sister died recently. I had to put my 13 year old dog, who was my devout companion, to sleep. My Mom's is 84, and has about 10 different doctors. One for each part of her body. She has a pace maker, 90% blockage to heart recently, 80% blockage to the 'part' of one kidney that's still working. She's very weak now, back's trying to go out, just starting using a walker, takes a handful of medications each day. Cries because she doesn't know if she'll be confined to a wheelchair. Doesn't and isn't able to get out excepto to go to dr. She stays with me 8-10 days at a time, and then feels she needs to go to her own house, where my aunt, my brother and myself take turns staying with her. I'll shut up now, but thoses are my excuses. Oh yes, joy to the world, my daughter is about to have my first grandchild. She's 38 and a half weeks pregnant. Praise God. I'm waiting very impatiently. My point to all this is that there are some people that would love to be your friend, and if you accepted them and commented to them just for no reason, you may find out your missing out on a great friend! You see, I will accept you if you're not vulgar, which I guess I would find out later, and let you know how I feel, then if it continues I would have to say adios. But, the more a person goes thru, the more compassion they have for the underdogs. I have alot of compassion. I need friends and I think it would encourage me if I got comments from friends sometimes. Anyways, I'll do all I can to keep up, but I don't know how often it will be that I can Mylot. Just know I love doing it when I can.
3 responses
@ybong007 (6659)
• Philippines
21 Jan 10
I guess god is cooking something really special for you. Just hang on in there. Everything will be just fine. Take care.
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• United States
19 Sep 11
That is true. If we are not fools, we learn from everything that we go through. I know that God takes the bad and turns it into good, if we believe. Thanks you so much for the words of encouragement. I am doing much better today, even tho life has kept going and I have lost more loved ones and known much more sorrow just like we all have to go through at one time or another. It just naturally happens more as you age, cause you get to an age where the people you know well are at the age also, which is an age where people have more of a reason to have naturally become ill in one way or another.
@ybong007 (6659)
• Philippines
21 Sep 11
I just realized that it's been two years since you made this discussion. Thanks for commenting back and welcome back.
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• United States
21 Sep 11
Yes. Ybong. I decided I could spend a whole lot of time responding to my discussions that I didn't know to respond to before. I had been noticing that many new people weren't responding to my responses or anyone elses. I always like to see what the person who started the discussion has to say about however I responded. And I would be disappointed when they didn't. It's a letdown. So I asked if I went back to even my old discussions and commented, would I earn from them, and the answer in the guidelines, everyone informed me was yes, regardless of how old they are I would still earn from responding on any of my old discussions. So I have been spending about the last 3 evenings trying to respond to all of those.
@vycess (1590)
• Saudi Arabia
20 Jan 10
Hi chrystaltears, Don't give up and Pray always. God is good and have reasons why certain things happen to our life. Support system is indeed helps us when we are depressed, family and friends support really matters. It's not easy to cope up yet we still need to fight and grateful that we are still alive and still blessed compared to other people. Godbless :)
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• United States
20 Jan 10
my heavens vycess, you sound like an angel. That's exactly what we need when we're down is to hear some God sent to speak to you. He can use anyone, and this time he chose you. Thanks so much. You sound like someone who's been thru somethings and has compassion. God bless you so much! And yes, he allows things in our lives which also come from our own actions, but he wants us to be wise and learn from them so that when someone needs attention or words or help or whatever, we feel the hurt and reach out. Thanks.
@vycess (1590)
• Saudi Arabia
20 Jan 10
thank you... Yes, I had been through something it's like I've done a terrible mistake in my life and been depressed too But God has reasons and I'm learning, living and still thankful to Him. Have a blessed day :)
@udayrao2 (782)
• India
20 Jan 10
I think we are here to face what we consider problems or difficulties- and i also feel that this is one way of making our souls stronger every time we face and then solve the problems - no running away from them - now when I see problems(trust me, I've had problems worse than what you described) either I try to solve them or face them and let them be - time automatically lessens the intensity or finds a solution. Like I said i used to be in a worse situation so much so that at one stage I was even thinking that ending one's own life is a solution - but that is not so. So look at the problem in the face - and remember when you feel dejected and depressed just think of the hundreds of people out there whom you may not be knowing at all who may be having even worse & difficult situations than your's - so you are much better off compared to them!! Also I think prayer / meditation and getting yourself involved in some social activity will ease your so called problems. All the Best.
• United States
20 Jan 10
udayrao2, thank youu so much for your comment. You're precious. I know there are a whole lot worse things that can go on, but God won't put more on you than you can handle. I know sometimes we think its more than we can handle, but we handle it, and go on. I've also considered ending it, but I have a daughter who would probably hurt herself, as its been she and I for many years. She's happily married now and is expecting her first child, my first grandchild in a week or so. Joy! Thank you so much for the advice, eye openers, and kindness. May I be your friend. I like your personality. Bless you.