how do you feel when your kids ask their parents not to fight?

my daughter - for discussion
South Korea
January 20, 2010 12:03am CST
my daughter saw what his uncle did on her grandmother birthday,when we come home she show to us what she saw,she demostrated kicking the table,and what soever i fell so bad coz kids like her age must seen good example and not the kind of hulk hogan type of scenery...in my surprised she ask me and her father not fight and thats she promised she will behave well..i keep on thingking why my 4 year old daughter talk to us like that..how about you my friends how do you feel when your kids ask you not to fight? pls.share
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4 responses
• China
21 Jan 10
i am so sorry that i havent the experience like this.however, i think it is not good to fight in front of the children.because i know. when i was a child ,i often saw my parents fight,and i felt so sad.someday i thought why they always fight .maybe they dont love me any more.
• South Korea
23 Jan 10
maybe your parents had a small problems but not because they dont love you...cheers
@apgh09 (514)
• United States
20 Jan 10
hi thats all good and gravy to teach a kid to be loving and not to raise their hand at other people, but at the same time kids need to be taught on how to defend themselves. I personally think not teaching your kid fighting lessons makes them more prone to be weak in a way that they do not know how to defend themselves when needed. Now at the same time teaching your child to fight you also have to teach that kid responsibility, not to go hitting on people just because you know how to fight, being a bully would not be acceptable. But if someone is trying to physically hurt you than yes you defend yourself. That's how I was raised and I have no problem in teaching my child how to fight and defend themselves if needed. As far as telling your child to be good, I am sure that you teach your child right from wrong so if relatives show your child a fight move, Yes you can teach your child that fight move is something that not be used in a playful manner, and the child can injure himself or others while trying a fight technique improperly. But So you may not feel comfortable with your child fighting or hitting unnecessarily but the child should be taught on how to correctly and efficiently to defend themselves if the time is ever would come.
• South Korea
23 Jan 10
thanks a lot
@williamjisir (22903)
• China
20 Jan 10
You see, even a small child of four knows that it is bad to have a fight. She knows what is good and what is bad. Good for her, friend. I am very happy for your daughter's awareness of telling good from the bad.
• South Korea
20 Jan 10
yes, and i hope she could have a courage to tell her uncle..thanks
• Canada
20 Jan 10
I have absolutely no respect for parents who fight infront of their children, or other adults who fight infront of children. It scares the children, and it's not a good thing for them to see. my parents fought infront of me and it had long term effects. Adults need to quit fighting infront of children, and I am OK with kids speaking up, telling them not to fight.
• South Korea
20 Jan 10
yes its true..adults fighting infront of the children is not a good example...thanks
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