You are number 2 in his life

Philippines
January 20, 2010 12:19pm CST
Do you encounter this kind of relationship? Me yes but I didn't know that he has a girlfriend before me. And it really hurts because he was my first boyfriend and then I am number 2. He didn't told me that he has a girlfriend before me but the girl/ his girlfriend told me because I texted him and the 1st girlfriend was the one holding his phone and told me that russel(the guy) really court you or you are the one who comes to him. I told her that he court me and ask her that who is she. And then she told me that she was the girlfriend of russel for 2 years. I don't believe her so I call russel at their home and ask him if it is true and he told me that it is true. After I heard it I cry and put down the phone. I really don't want to see him. How about you have you ever become number 2 in someones life? And what do you feel?
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11 responses
@fiazio (736)
• India
20 Jan 10
Hello, how are you? I've never really been through what you have, I can imagine how difficult and painful it must be for you. But you shouldn't make yourself sad. just go on with it, forget him and all your past with him. You should just go out and have fresh air and do new things, stay single. Enjoy the great advantages of being single! Best of luck!
• Philippines
20 Jan 10
Thanks for the advice but I am only sharing my experiences a long years ago. :) I was a fresh graduate from highschool and russel that time is 21 and me about 16-17years old. :) I have my boyfriend right now and we are about more than 2 years and I hope that he is loyal to me and i could trust him. :)
• Philippines
8 Feb 10
That man is truly so bad. Even he is handsome or not he should not do that with girls. Just forget about him. Time will come no one is going to love him.
@joygracia (1327)
• Philippines
8 Feb 10
I had just recently experience same situation like this though I was not the second girlfriend but its really painful since his my first also and then I found out from his shout outs in facebook that she loves somebody else and he wished he was with her than with me.. its sick feeling almost like suffocating pain in my chest. Its sick and I want to get over this soon. Hopefully I will soon.
@srganesh (6348)
• India
21 Jan 10
healthbeauty!That really is a worst situation.Knowing you are the second or third shall not be the question.Whether he/she loves you sincerely must be answered upon.In this fast world,people can find more friends of their opposite genders and also have broken relations easily.In this case,your boyfriend is not trustworthy because the other girl answered his phone.So,he is playing double game.Ignore him.
@tarapot (144)
• Philippines
21 Jan 10
Yes, I felt I was his number 2 when he prefer to be with his friends over me.
@maxilimian (3099)
• Indonesia
21 Jan 10
Sorry to hear that my dear that's almost happen with all the innocent girl like you, we cannot trust all of the man just like that, we need time to know him deeply before decides to live together with him and knows that he is the right guy, one day man like that will meet his stones! Just move on, your life is not ended now! Maybe God wants you too meet wrong guys before you meet the right guy Keep cheer! Have a brand new day
• Philippines
21 Jan 10
nope, if ever i would eventually break up with him and their is no use to stay in a relationship where lies abounds.
@ebuscat (5949)
• Philippines
21 Jan 10
Yes for me I encounter that situation my husband is lucky for me because I'm the last girl in him and for he is number one boyfriend for me.
@lealuvy2j (1989)
• Philippines
21 Jan 10
Awww. I am sorry to hear that but don't worry, love will come around and it just means that God has other plans for you. Who knows, maybe in the future, you will meet a guy who will be faithful to you and who loves you more than you love him and someone who completely deserves you unlike your ex who is a liar and a cheater. I know you love him and all but think of what happened as a blessing in disguise, I know you would not want to be married to a liar and a cheater.
@vivianchen (2648)
• China
21 Jan 10
Hi Healthbeauty, I am not sure if i understand you correctly. You are saying that your boyfriend has a girlfriend before you, right? But is he ended with her? Or do they still have some fair going on now? If she and he just friends now, i think you don't need to worry about, my hubby now is not my favoirt boyfriend, i have 3 boyfriends before him, but he is the one that i am marrying with, and i think every relationship teach me something, and i am not his frist girlfriend too, but i am okay with it. As long as he is honest to me, and love me truely. I think we can make a great couple! So do you! Ask yourself if you truely love you, and if he truely love you, and tell he about your feeling and see his action then decide. Good luck!
• Philippines
20 Jan 10
i'm sorry you experienced that before. some people are mean. i hope your ex and his gf are no longer together or perhaps in a stormy relationship... it would serve them right. hehehe but that would mean i'm equally mean... erase erase. just leave the past where it belongs and let karma take care of them. hehehe as far as i knew, i was never the number 2 girl. i'm selfish in that aspect. i can play second fiddle with kids, but not to another woman in his life. it's different. i won't tolerate it. even if i'm number 1 and i found out there's a number 2, oh boy even if i love him... i'll immediately call it quits. i'm pretty monogamous, i would expect my partner to be one also. i don't care how many he had in his past, as long as there's only me in his present... and beyond, if ever it progressed to a more serious commitment. goodluck to your current relationship.