Being truely in love

January 20, 2010 7:24pm CST
Are you married and truely in love? I have been married for 5 years now, and with him for 10 years, and I am realising now that I love my husband, but I am not in love with him. I am not attracted to him, I don't get butterflies in my stomach when I see him. I want so bad to madly love someone. Anyone else feel this way?
2 responses
• Malaysia
21 Jan 10
hi kathleen i have been married for 3 years, lovers for 16 years - total 19 years ~ you have to learn in enriching your relationship reach out and make the initial move to recharge the love some unexpected hugs, kiss, stolen moments. tickle, get together all your old photographs ~ do a project to put them into some movie like file ~ play it on the tv n watch together i learned something revcently ~ if he boring n always stuck to the sports channel .. just call him from the kitchen and throw a "blow kiss" to him .. believe me after a week or 2 .. the butterflies will fly madly in your stomach n you will be "truly in love" again .. dont give up, its just the phase cheers
@Janey1966 (24126)
• Carlisle, England
21 Jan 10
Is he your best friend...or put it another he your best MALE friend? If he is then you should stay together, if not, then perhaps you should divorce him. Reading between the lines I would say that there isn't much going on physically with you two? It's not the end of the world! It's much better (in my opinion) to love someone intellectually than physically anyway because the latter can fade away in an instant, whereas, if you can still TALK to hubby then - at least - you have a connection and something to work on. Hope this makes sense. I used to "madly love someone" and it was disastrous. Don't be ashamed that the butterflies are not there. You must've married him for a reason, right?