should we lose friends once we r in love?
By kiran0074u
@kiran0074u (564)
India
January 21, 2010 9:45am CST
hi guys, this is the question in my mind frompast 1 year....
when i was in my 1st year of graduation. i have a good friend circle. i like 1 girl and i proposed her.she accepted and our relationship goin good., but problem is my friends stated avoid me.,,.,,.,.,., when i raised d topic they said they r letting us enjoy lonliness.. but i like them too .i want spend time with them tooo.
6 responses
@aaronaguinaldo (33)
• Philippines
22 Jan 10
You can try bonding them. Make your girlfriend jam with your friends.
@thugstyle21 (419)
• India
23 Jan 10
Make your girlfriend feel more comfortable with your friends or vice versa. You can take them both to parties or whatever fun you used to had with friends.And at the same time when you feel like your girlfriend needs some space with you only then you can work on that too.
While you are in love,remember one thing
A good wife may not be a good friend but a good friend can be proved to your best wife.And the love goes eternally.
So better think in this way and everything would be sort out in such situation
@thugstyle21 (419)
• India
22 Jan 10
I agree with you friend.This is the righteous option to handle such a situation like this.Plus more a girl friend comes to know her boy's friends ,more it would be helpful for both of them to carry their own relationship.
@AmandaMBF (284)
• Brazil
21 Jan 10
I think it's two different tipes of relationship. Friends and boyfriends or girlfriends aren't the same thing and don't act same mode. So we don't need to lose friedns once we're in love. You need to have time for your friends and for your love because you can't live for anyone. In your life you can't dedicate only to your friends, only to your love, or only to you! You need part your time to relationship with your friends, your love, your family, and you! So you can't live the life of anyone. You should live your live with someone! So it's possible to conciliate your love with your friends!
@kiran0074u (564)
• India
21 Jan 10
thanku friend. i love ur answer. i had same kind view. im just asking how to make my friends comfortable with me now.
@kiran0074u (564)
• India
21 Jan 10
we all are from same class... we are classmates.. my girl is also from my class..
she is bit reserved. but i told her the situation she helps me some times.
@AmandaMBF (284)
• Brazil
21 Jan 10
Dear Kiran,
You should explain they you can love and have friends. And they can be friends of your girlfriend too. Try talk to then about the same things you talked before you fall in love. Don't say everytime about your love and your girlfriend and don't stop to pay attention in they. You can do this without stop to give attention to your girlfriend. If you can have a good relationship with your friends and with your girlfriend both can understand you give attention for they and for others! You just need gave attnetion to your girlfriend and to your friends. You don't need act like nothing was happened because now you have a love but you can act like it don't affect your relationship because it needn't to affect!!!
@Ravenladyj (22904)
• United States
21 Jan 10
NO IMO we should NOT lose our friends once we are in a relationship..in fact I think its a HUGE mistake to lose our friends and stop hanging with them etc just because we get into a commited relationship or get married....
@kiran0074u (564)
• India
21 Jan 10
i agree with u .i never wanted lose a friend.situation here is i cant mingle with them now.
@agito121 (176)
• United Arab Emirates
21 Jan 10
No you should not neglect your friend even if your in love, Your friend is your friend not that your lover is not important, you should try to make time for both Partners, if you dont pay attention to your friend he might considered that you betrayed him or if you dont pay attention to your GF she might think your cheating on her so either way its a no way out situation if you dont make time for both.
@thugstyle21 (419)
• India
21 Jan 10
Friends are different from your love , both are equal in my sense as these are rare to find or make. Each play their part of so and both share differences on account of their importance of so. You cant leave anyone otherwise you cannot move easily iun life and both essence will be felt by you. The need of both at some stage in life is felt you cant ignore . So my view point is that you give proper time to both.
@thugstyle21 (419)
• India
27 Jan 10
thanks, hey nice photo upload by you like to be friends can we.................... have a nice day.
@Sophialiu1125 (1)
• China
21 Jan 10
Maybe after falling in love, you focus more on your girlfriend, and your friends are jealous.
@kiran0074u (564)
• India
21 Jan 10
hmmmm. i dont think so.. they r not so narrow minded.,.,. we use to goto parties, movies together.
