Expectations

@allknowing (71069)
India
January 24, 2010 10:18pm CST
The main cause for relationships going hay wire is expectations. We expect something or the other all the time and if it does not come resentment takes root and this results in strained relationships. What is your take on this?
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3 responses
• India
25 Jan 10
I agree with you. I think not only relationships, every problem has some root to our expectations. We meet expectations, we are happy otherwise, negativity in mind which causes stress and so on. Do not expect unexpected with anyone, and if you are not getting expected love from your partner, may be that you are expecting much more. Have faith in yourself and trust your partner. Every thing will be all right.
@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
25 Jan 10
hello allknowing, This is very true,we expect and demand more than we can give. Or,maybe we give becoz we expect to have it done or given to us by our partners also. And,when our expectation failed...there start the argument and coldness in a relationship. I admit i did expect few things from my partner...like,being thoughtful and showy on showing his love. And,there is nothing better than to tell our partner what we really want and expect in a relationship. Sometimes,we just conclude that our partners doesn't love us that much becoz he failed to met our expectations. He/she might failed doing so,becoz,he/she never knew what we want in a relationship. People differ from each other...you are aggressive and he is not or vice versa. He/she is showy and you are not or it is the other way. So,better have an open heart talk with each other in order to met each other's demand and expectations...and not just jumping into conclusion...to have a better and strong relationship. Have a good day always
@kaka135 (14130)
• Malaysia
25 Jan 10
Yeah, I do agree with you. When our partner is not doing what we expected, we tends to have arguments with them, or we will start to have some comments on them. I do have some expectation on my husband, especially when we first started our relationship and I was still young. I learned from our relationship, and realized that if I continue to have expectation, it's not good for us. Also, this is him whom I love, not someone in my imagination. I should stop imagining, and expecting, he is who he is, that's whom I love. Slowly, we have lesser and lesser arguments, and I do love him more and more.