what would you do when your parents get fight?
By shawnchang
@shawnchang (120)
China
6 responses
@ckyera (17332)
• Philippines
28 Jan 10
hello shawnchang,
hen i was younger, i have been in that situation, my parents always fights...almost every other day, hehe and it really makes me feel bad. but since i am still young then, what i just do is to keep silent. and watch them fighting! its a very bad scenario in the house and something that i don't want to see again.
but since i got married, i am glad that i finally have the voice in the house, oh well actually even if i am not yet married but already finished with my studies, that was the time that i already find a courage to speak out whenever they are fighting, i just told them to be more calm & try to understand each other & if possible one must give way...
i am happy that they are listening to me & now, i think they are no longer fighting...except for some petty things...
@shawnchang (120)
• China
28 Jan 10
Wish your family be fill with happiness and laughter.when i was a child,i can do nothing for their fight,and i feel scared,i dont know who i should help.
@ckyera (17332)
• Philippines
28 Jan 10
thanks for the wishes...
actually i think its really not a good thing for a child to see their parents fighting coz it creates different feelings & emotions to a child, like on your part you feel scared and confuse...
same with me, whenever i saw them fighting sometimes anger for my father arises specially when i saw my mom crying...huh!
i am just glad that everything is over now and that my parents was able to change for the better...
@varron (453)
• Philippines
28 Jan 10
The first thing for us to do is to make sure that they are not hurting each other.
Second, request them politely to becalmed in their conversation and talk in a nice way
We should not act like we are in favor in any one of them, we cannot do anything but to listen and make them solve their problem.
As couples they are the only one who can solve their problem.The children should keep in silence and must bear and mind that quarrel between parents are just part of life and it is normal, as long us they will not get each other being harmed.
@shawnchang (120)
• China
28 Jan 10
i don't think so,we are adult now,have our own view,sometimes we do nothing, things would go worse.Contradiction need communicate to be solved.
@rookiekan (882)
• China
28 Jan 10
i will stand aside and keep silent when i was young,but now i will yell at them:quarrel for what.because i have grown up and they need my advice most of times.i never allow them to quarrel,cos it's not help for solving problems.i will told them that only talk and understand help us change dissents,move to solve the problems.
@sanjana_aslam (4187)
• Malaysia
28 Jan 10
mine, they never stopped fighting since the day 1 until now, that is 49 years .. just ignore them, that is the only way they know how to express themselves if they r from the older generation
@shawnchang (120)
• China
28 Jan 10
Maybe they used to quarrel with each other,49 years! it's must be a part of their life.
@donnakristel (1704)
• Philippines
28 Jan 10
well, i know parents have misunderstandings. but i think i have to keep silent if the problem is still manageable. let them do it their own way.
nevertheless, if they want my opinion, then will talk.
@larish (2191)
• Philippines
28 Jan 10
I just let them fight. I would just try to stop them if they have been into physical fight. Thank god it never happens and hopefully it won't happen. My parents usually have petty quarrels and if I join them, I think it will just worsen the problem. The good thing here is that whenever they had a fight, they never failed to make up for it. I think it is the secret that they have for reaching their 41st year anniversary this May 2010.
